The marriage and love customs of Dong people in Tianzhu County usually range from free love in the mountains to holding a wedding. The whole process is based on songs, expressing feelings through songs, advocating equality between men and women and freedom of marriage, and breaking the bad habit of feudal arranged marriage.
After two or three or four or five times of group dating and singing, we can get to know each other from several rounds of singing, and pay attention to each other's suitable objects for further communication, so the lovers in pairs gradually become clear, and then enter the stage of private love. After the feelings are mature, boys can take girls to the man's house. On the third day, the man arranged for a kind-hearted, well-off and eloquent woman in the village to bring meat and sugar to the woman's house to propose marriage. If the woman's parents agree by default, the gift will be accepted, and if the woman's parents resolutely oppose it, the gift will be returned. Usually the woman's parents will agree, because the boyfriend's parents after the girl basically agree, unless the boy has something that the woman's family can't accept.
After the woman's family agreed, the man organized a team of about 10 to send a "basket" to the woman's family, that is, the basket and the laundry list contained gifts such as chicken, duck, fish, glutinous rice cakes, tobacco, alcohol, candy, gifts and silver ornaments, and went to the woman's house for a wedding. Even if they were engaged, the relationship between the two parties could be made public.