I am opposed to holding a banquet for further education. The so-called change of the college entrance banquet, I think, at least it means showing off, but also overtly or covertly asking people for money.

In the past, only one in a thousand people went to college. Once they went to college, they stood out from the crowd and became proud of their ancestors. People have official status and the requirements of wealth. In the past, people who went to college were considered outstanding, and those who excelled in their studies were assigned jobs. In the past, people were assigned jobs after graduating from college. In the eyes of ordinary people, they were officials and cadres, which made them superior to others. It was so rare and rare that it was okay to have a banquet to celebrate. Nowadays, universities are almost universal. They have expanded their enrollment and are springing up like mushrooms after a rain. College students are no longer guaranteed assignments, and they may not necessarily be cadres after graduation. Nowadays, going to university is not rare but common, so it is not worth celebrating in a big way. Unless you pass the 985 first-class exam or above, it is worth considering.

Nowadays, junior college is also called university. The total score is 750. In my area, those who are above 180 are eligible to be promoted to junior college. Some parents in rural areas don’t know what they are doing. People go to 985 to invite them to a college entrance banquet. I went to There is also a big invitation to junior colleges, and if you don't, you will lose money. One is to show off, the other is to collect red envelopes. As a rule, the red envelopes for the entrance banquet should not be less than the others, and you can make a fortune from them. Things are rare and valuable, and nowadays it is quite common to go to college, so inviting a college entrance banquet seems to be excessive and spoil the taste. Therefore, when my children are admitted to college, I will not invite them, and I will not invite them when they go out to work. I believe that a person should be humble and low-key, and should not show off.

In fact, not just the college entrance banquet, but all kinds of banquets are very annoying.

Whether it is a college entrance banquet, a birthday banquet, or a wedding banquet, the only ones who sincerely wish you well are your parents, grandparents, grandparents, and brothers and sisters. Most of the other relatives and friends have no choice but to support you.

I personally think that you should never hold a banquet without sincere blessings. If you do, you will be disgusted. I have been working for more than 30 years and I have received a lot of gifts and money in various names, but I have attended only a handful of banquets. It can be counted, because I really don’t like the same noise at banquets.

Ten years ago, my girl’s 12th birthday party was only attended by close relatives in the family. My grandparents, grandparents, uncles, aunts, and former nanny all came to Tianjin from my hometown. It was really a feast. It was a big family gathering for more than 30 people for two days, and everyone was still a little bit unsatisfied when they parted.

Recently, I often talk to my daughter about what to do about my future marriage, but my daughter simply refuses to do it.

Going to college is a happy event for your family. It’s good to congratulate your family on a small scale. Other relatives and friends may express congratulations openly, but they may be scolding you in their hearts. What’s the point of such a banquet for enrolling in college? Is it just to receive a few gift money? In fact, money has been wasted in the process of you coming and going.

Dear friends, what do you think?

The so-called "Enrollment Banquet" refers to a banquet held to celebrate a child's achievement by inviting relatives and friends after he or she has achieved fame through studies (now referred to as being admitted to university). It is also called the "Fan of Merit" or "The Banquet of Number One Scholar".

Therefore, the "Enrollment Banquet" is related to the development process of our country's universities. At first, the "original flavor" was that if the children were admitted to college, it would mean that they would escape from the "farm gate" and get the "iron rice bowl" of the public sector. Naturally, it is a great event worthy of congratulations from relatives and friends.

So, why has today’s “Enrollment Banquet” changed?

"Sanwei" believes that there are probably two reasons: First, is it really worthy of celebration by relatives and friends if a child is admitted to college now?

Some people say that getting into high school is more difficult than getting into college! Nowadays, college students are everywhere in the streets, even in rural areas. If you catch them casually, there are a lot of them. Moreover, now that I have finished college, it is hard to say whether I will be able to find a stable job. Nowadays, the people working in your neighborhood may not necessarily think highly of your college students. Isn't this true?

Of course, if you get into Tsinghua University or Peking University, you will at least get 985 or 211, which is worthy of congratulations. Who would envy you if you were admitted to a second-tier school or even a junior college? Who cares? When you hold a college entrance banquet, do you want your relatives and friends to come to congratulate you, or do you want to raise funds? ——Isn’t this different? Second, the original "congratulatory flavor" of the college entrance banquet has become a "wealth-seeking flavor."

When a child obtains fame or is admitted to college, a banquet is held to celebrate it. This custom is found almost all over the country.

Human relationships are like a saw. You go back and forth, and it's normal.

Since you have paid a lot in this "field", now that the opportunity has come, you naturally want to take back some. No matter how well your child does in the exam, as long as he is admitted to a school, if you dare to host a banquet, others will not dare not attend the banquet!

- Does this change the taste?

Answer: I am extremely disgusted with the banquet for entering higher education, but this is how society is. Others follow, but if you don't follow, you don't want to live in the world. However, it is such a phenomenon, and it is something that people know well in private. I would also like to share some personal opinions:

The business of high-end hotels is booming. First, you can call a few close friends, but Don't be extravagant and wasteful.

This is the way Chinese human relations are. If someone calls you to be disobedient, it seems like there is a rift between the two of you. If you follow the others, naturally you have something to do, and you also want to be flattered by others. This is called having an inside and an outside. In the beginning, it was a big event like weddings and funerals, but later it gradually evolved into moving houses, taking exams, and even cousins ??and nephews giving birth to a second child or getting married for the second time, and they had to call on friends to do it. This is It's a bit too much, a bit off. China is a society that values ??courtesy and reciprocity, but it is also a society that advocates frugality. Organizing banquets too much and too complicated not only wastes resources, people's time and energy, but also changes people's true feelings into worldly feelings, and turns the friendship between gentlemen into a stinky one. It looks like monetary benefits, but in fact it is difficult for people's hearts. The entanglement of interests is very detrimental to healthy friendships and pure interpersonal relationships.

Wedding banquets and happy events are busy. The second is that relatives and friends are small, so there is no need to make too many arrangements. If there are too many people, it will be annoying.

It is also common sense that people should not get close to relatives. For example, when a son gets married or a girl gets married, these are not only close relatives, but also important events in life. It is a once-in-a-lifetime event. You should notify your relatives and friends to tell the world that your child has grown up, got married and started a family. You don’t need to let everyone remember it. In the heart, everyone is very happy, and it is not impossible and not an exaggeration. However, just like the marriage of my cousin, someone has a mother-in-law and a brother-in-law. If something happens to you, you would inform the person who brought along the gift. This is incredible. Also, opening your shop and putting incense on your desk are all trivial matters for your own family. There is absolutely no need to bother others and delay other people's work and career all day long just for the three hundred and five hundred dollars. The price is for the little things in your home, all over the place. Besides, these insignificant and small things are much more important. When it is really the turn of your family to do big things, do people think they are small things? There are even some people who don’t elaborate on their inner troubles.

Moving to a new house invites people to think deeply. The third is the direct relationship between weddings and funerals. As we know today, it is understandable that etiquette should be reciprocated.

Don’t do things that are not worth the gain, and the same goes for things that are out of favor and etiquette. Weddings and funerals are matters of direct connection, so I suggest that notification be made to a few close relatives and friends within a limited range. Firstly, it can tell the world directly, secondly, it can also alleviate temporary economic difficulties, and thirdly, it can also enhance the emotional needs between people. When it's the turn of weddings and funerals, it would be a loss of face if people were left alone at the door. In a humane society like China, if things were done like this, it would make people think that this family "doesn't know how to be a good person and doesn't know how to behave." "Doing things", this family is also "the owner who doesn't give face when others are doing things", which is why it is what it is today. Therefore, this is the meaning of reciprocity. A small one can maintain the stability of an ethnic group, and a large one can maintain the operation of a society. However, these are two completely different concepts from extravagance and waste, and must be treated differently.

A great wedding gift brings happiness to everyone

In short, we should pay attention to human kindness but not extravagance, and pay attention to etiquette but not blindness. Controlling human relationships and worldly affairs within an understandable and acceptable range, taking measures to measure, and not allowing unlimited expansion, this coincides with the reality of strict economy. As for the unhealthy entrance banquet, I advocate that it be banned as soon as possible.

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The taste of the college entrance banquet has changed. It can only be said that people's hearts are changing.

In the past, it was very rare for a village to get a college student. It was only one in a hundred. It was particularly good to pay for it and put on a movie to make the whole village happy. Nowadays, college students are everywhere, grabbing a lot of them. What else is there to celebrate? Totally unnecessary. Does everyone’s family celebrate when they are admitted to college? No, everyone knows that getting admitted to college is a matter of course and a very common thing, just like eating three meals a day. Why bother to organize a big banquet? You think it’s great that your child has entered college, but in fact, other people don’t take it seriously at all, so why bother sending invitations to invite them to attend? This is rubbing your hot cheek against someone's cold ass.

When people come, I feel embarrassed to come empty-handed. You must bring money and gifts. In fact, people are very reluctant to come.

What's more, it is even more inappropriate to make money wantonly through the college entrance banquet.

Therefore, there is no need to hold a college entrance banquet. If you want to do it, just do it yourself at home. What do you think?

Speaking of the college entrance banquet, our place is even more outrageous, it has really changed. No matter which university you are admitted to, there will be a banquet. Relatives, friends, old classmates and colleagues will send invitations to come and have a drink. Now is the university banquet. Some families receive more than a dozen invitations a day. Drinking wine and red envelopes at the banquet can cost tens of thousands of yuan, and this does not include the usual weddings and funerals within a month. From undergraduates to junior college students, they all take great care of wine, because others can do it, and they have to do it themselves, otherwise they won’t be able to collect the red envelopes. Some people don’t even know which university to go to, so they just write down the name of the university and start running a bar. If they really can’t pass the exam, they go to work part-time, so no one will know. If a relative has a child in school, the red envelope will be heavier, and the child will be given hundreds of yuan for living expenses.

Everyone in the village who goes to college writes couplets, and the school hangs them at the village gate. It feels very glorious! Personally, I feel that throwing a big banquet is also a waste. Some people can't go to the banquet due to work reasons, so a lot of food is wasted after hosting the banquet. The government should come up with relevant policies to stop these wasteful things. If a family has a child studying in a good university, they can just have a family dinner.

I think that children can only go to school with encouragement from their families. It’s time to enter higher education. Children still have a long way to go. It’s up to you to decide what kind of future you will take.

There is no need to make any publicity, just promote the general trend. Holding a big banquet, if you are a well-educated person, do not want to do this, and feel that it is inappropriate to bother others with giving gifts for such a small thing.

Whether you are admitted to university or become an official in the future, , We should be polite to ourselves, and we should treat ourselves in an ordinary way even if we are promoted or promoted to higher education. It will be less easy to make mistakes of principle in the future. How many corrupt officials and entrepreneurs have dragged themselves into trouble because of the affairs of their relatives and friends.

Of course, it’s not that you don’t recognize your relatives. If you need to help, you can help as long as it doesn’t exceed the principles. If something cannot be done, you will never do it. You are not afraid of offending. Everything will be handled according to the principles. To achieve this, some social invitations and gifts should be avoided.

Nowadays, the banquets for entering higher education have really changed. In our village, we have invited several such banquets recently.

My parents were raising children for their younger brother in the provincial capital. The National Day was coming soon, so they returned to their hometown in the countryside to live in advance. They planned to return to the provincial capital after the National Day, but in this half month , I received invitations to three college entrance banquets. Although two of them are from the same family, they are more than ten generations apart. Although they are in the same village, they are not the same village. As soon as I heard that my parents were returning, I informed them to attend. It's really not good not to go. If you go, you have to pay again. It's only 200 yuan to participate. As a farmer without retirement salary, this family only has 2, 400 yuan for half a month. There are other distant relatives who can't be reached. Yes, several. My parents hope to go to the provincial capital after the National Day. Otherwise, there will be too many banquets for weddings and weddings. For example, if a person moves into a new house, he must also hold a banquet, and when he has a child, he must also hold a banquet. The custom It’s really bad. I really don’t know what’s so good about hosting banquets. Some people even hold several banquets to buy several houses. Some even hold fake banquets and pretend to have bought a house just to get money. , I didn’t actually buy anything, but I still had to hold a banquet. It’s really abominable.

Many children are studying at Banmin University, Shanzhai Pheasant University, vocational and technical colleges, and even technical secondary schools. The entire social atmosphere has completely changed. Moreover, everyone is doing this. It is not a problem of one person. The whole county is like this. I am really speechless about this kind of trend. I really hope the government will kill this unhealthy trend.

The most ridiculous thing is that my brother works at the County Commission for Discipline Inspection. A child of the tribe who is more than ten generations away was admitted to a vocational and technical college. He also held a banquet and invited my brother to attend. My brother said that it was inconvenient. After participating (I am a law enforcement agency, it is naturally inconvenient to go), people became angry after that, and when I saw them later, they didn't even say hello. It was obvious who they were.

Hello! I am Yan Xiaoman, a Sichuan girl who travels between the southwest and the northeast. It was only after I came to the northeast that I heard about the entrance banquet!

The results of the college entrance examination I took in 2007 were considered to be at my normal level. There is no such thing as a college entrance banquet there, and not even relatives and friends have a dinner party because of this!

I happily reported to college, and my classmates from all over the world gathered together. A classmate from the Northeast asked me if I would hold a college entrance banquet. I was confused. What kind of banquet is a college entrance banquet?

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Later, after a classmate explained it, I found out what was going on. I thought I understood it. It was a banquet to celebrate XX's admission to college. Well! However, I really know too little!

Later, when I married my husband from the Northeast and came to live here, I saw what a real "school entrance banquet" is!

Here, after the college entrance examination results come out every year, regardless of whether you did well or not, the entrance banquet is standard!

In addition to relatives and friends, there were also people from the village attending the banquet. No one cares about how many points the protagonist of the banquet got, and some people don't even know his name.

What I know is particularly ridiculous is that a little girl from a relative’s family went to a technical secondary school after graduating from junior high school but did not enter high school, and even held a banquet for her entrance into higher education!

As for the college entrance examination scores, those who have really done well in the exam will be publicized long ago even if they don’t ask; those who get 200 or 300 points in the exam will hold a banquet for further education, and everyone who attends the banquet will tacitly agree. Never ask about scores, just eat and drink well!

Why did the college entrance banquet change?

Because it has gone away from the original intention of simply congratulating students for their good grades and has become an objectionable financial burden! So every time the college entrance examination season comes, everyone’s wallets will be a lot lighter!

In fact, many people are disgusted with college entrance banquets, but when others organize them, they follow the gift and feel that they will lose if they don’t do it, so they have to hold it despite their disgust, and they must get some money back. ah!

My nephew also took the college entrance examination this year and was admitted to a college in Chengdu. My sister did not hear that there would be a banquet for college entrance. And we are really happy for our nephew. Even though they did not hold a banquet for his further education, we all sent him red envelopes or transferred money to encourage him to continue working hard. This is a willing and heartfelt congratulations.

As for the college entrance banquet that has gone sour, it’s okay not to hold it!

What is the situation like at your college entrance banquet? Welcome to share!

Thanks! The banquet for further education should be determined based on your own finances, interpersonal relationships, and the purpose of the banquet. Don't follow the trend. The formation of a trend is detrimental to both the family and the country. The financial situation is still good, and I also want to thank some people who have helped. A banquet is held to express gratitude to the children, etc. You can invite some of them. There is no need to follow the trend.

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