Husband and wife relationship. The husband is the head of the family and enjoys the decision-making power in family economic affairs. Although the wife is in a subordinate position, the husband still has to discuss with her on important matters. In productive labor, husband and wife work together: husband plows fields, cultivates fields, cuts down hedges, cuts firewood, hunts, repairs houses, weaves bamboo and rattan products, makes production tools and presides over family sacrificial ceremonies. The wife pulls out seedlings, transplants rice, weeds, harvests, carries water, husks rice, cooks rice, weaves cloth and raises poultry. In dealing with family affairs, such as selling cultivated land to farm cattle, repairing houses, getting married of children and other important matters, they are all decided by two people through consultation, and then other family members and clansmen are informed. If the wife doesn't agree, the husband won't claim it without authorization. Help each other in production and care about each other in life. In his spare time, the husband helps his wife discipline the children, carry water to cook and raise poultry; The wife helps her husband manage the housework, chopping wood and raising cattle. The feudal ethics of the Han nationality, such as "three obedience and four virtues", have little influence in Li nationality areas, so there is no concept that men are superior to women in Li nationality society. Marriage is generally combined through free love, so divorce is rare. Husband and wife are strict with themselves, not ungrateful, not unfaithful, and not doing anything against ethics.

Care for children. Li people attach great importance to the upbringing of their children and regard them as the continuation of their lives and the wealth of their families. It is better to care about yourself than to care about children. I would rather starve myself than let my children suffer. For the sake of children's happiness, I work hard day and night, and take raising children as my greatest duty. In Li society, there is no child abuse and abandonment, and boys and girls are treated equally. Even if they are adopted, they are treated and cared for like their own children.

Support parents. Supporting parents is the duty of every child, and parents are the symbol of family happiness. Respecting and supporting parents is the traditional virtue of Li nationality. When people are working, let their parents do some easy work as much as possible; Life is very concerned. When parents are sick or hot, children will do their best to take care of them enthusiastically. When dealing with family affairs, we should respect parents' opinions. Even if we want to be separated from our parents, we should consult with them and ask for their opinions. Never make your own decisions. After the separation, the daughter-in-law not only does housework well, but also helps her in-laws carry water, cook and cook. After getting started, new wives often go to bed late and get up early, carry water for their families, and also take the initiative to carry water for their uncles and other relatives.

Between brothers and sisters and sister-in-law. Caring for each other and helping each other, brothers and sisters are like brothers, sharing weal and woe, sharing weal and woe, equality and mutual love. After the Li brothers got married, everyone just lived separately, but they still worked together to support their parents. This kind of family is regarded as the happiest family and praised by the society.

Where there are weddings, funerals and celebrations, brothers and sisters jointly organize and help each other; Parents are alive, brothers and sisters treat each other equally; When parents are dead, a brother must take up the responsibility of raising siblings, so people often say that "a brother is like a father and a sister-in-law is like a mother." Aunt's relationship is also very harmonious, helping each other and loving each other. Generally, under the guidance of my sister-in-law, family affairs are operated together and help each other. For my aunt, it is a responsibility to help her manage the family, and for my sister-in-law, it is an obligation to raise my aunt.

Family taboos. Brother should avoid sitting on the bed of married brother, wearing married brother's clothes, using sister-in-law's hat and waist basket, colliding with sister-in-law when eating at the same table, and avoiding sister-in-law on the road. Avoid swearing between father-in-law and daughter-in-law, brothers and sisters; Men can't touch women's dresses, needlework, textile tools, and women can't touch men's hunting tools such as gunpowder, sharp knives, bows and arrows.

For thousands of years, people not only asked parents and stepparents not to abuse their children, but also asked brothers and sisters to support and take care of their younger brothers and sisters after their parents died. If the elder sister-in-law mistreats her sister-in-law, she will also be condemned.

In a word, in the Li family, supporting the old and bringing up the young and educating future generations are universally observed moral norms, which has enabled the Li people to develop the traditional virtues of respecting the old and loving the young, being kind to others, being sincere and hospitable, being polite and humble, and abandoning evil and being good.