Having a first child and having a second child are completely different experiences, especially for today’s women.

Many women nowadays choose to be full-time mothers. Being a full-time mother and taking care of a child is hard enough. If there are plans for a second child, the mother's situation will be even more difficult.

Wang Fang is a mother born after 1985. Dabao just entered kindergarten this year. Because she gave birth to children late, it was not easy to give birth to her first child.

Although giving birth to the second child this time was a little easier than before, because there was no extra room in the house for my parents-in-law to live in, they did not take care of me for almost the entire pregnancy.

This also caused Wang Fang to take care of Dabao while pregnant, which made Wang Fang feel very psychologically stressed.

However, Wang Fang’s husband and mother-in-law are big-hearted people. They both think that Wang Fang has given birth to a child once and has experience, so there is no need to let others help with everything. You can't be so pretentious.

This incident also made Wang Fang feel helpless. When she was free, Wang Fang would complain to her best friends that no one at home regarded me as a pregnant woman.

Later, when Wang Fang gave birth to her second daughter, she obviously felt unable to take care of her second child. Sometimes, holding her daughter for a long time would easily lead to back pain.

However, when taking care of my daughter, because I have the experience of taking care of the eldest child, I avoid a lot of pitfalls, and when raising the second child, I can be more relaxed. After all, I have limited energy to raise two children. .

In reality, many mothers of second children are raising a baby while raising a baby. Only mothers who have experienced this kind of hardship will understand.

Different reactions when learning that you are pregnant

When many mothers are pregnant with their first child, because they are inexperienced, some arrogant mothers do not even know that they are pregnant.

And mothers know that they are pregnant in various ways.

Some mothers dream that they are pregnant, while others notice something strange because their eating habits have changed.

The most amusing thing is that for some mothers, others notice first that they are pregnant.

Some pregnant mothers are spotted by their best friends, while others are spotted by their elders at home.

When pregnant with their second child, many mothers already have experience in giving birth, so they find themselves pregnant relatively early. I felt calmer when I found out I was pregnant with my second child.

Attitudes towards pregnancy tests are different

Mothers pay more attention to their first child. Basically, when they are pregnant with their first child, all kinds of pregnancy tests will be done without exception. The second child is completely different.

When she was pregnant with her second child, she was more rational, not as anxious as she was with her first child, and had a better attitude.

However, there is an exception for elderly pregnant women. The older pregnant women are when they are pregnant with their second child, the more things they worry about and the more anxious they are.

Because older pregnant women face many more risks when giving birth than mothers of suitable age, many older pregnant women do not dare to take it lightly even if they give birth to a second child.

When feeding the baby, the mentality is different

When giving birth to a baby, many mothers feed their baby whatever is nutritious, and some mothers even spend several hours making it for the baby. Complementary food.

But now many mothers have to take care of their eldest child when taking care of their second child.

Especially for mothers who don’t have anyone to help with their babies, it’s really hard to take care of two babies by yourself. She can’t spare the time to make ceremonial complementary foods for her two babies. , naturally they will not pursue refined feeding.

Therefore, after giving birth to a second child, many mothers do not have the financial strength to support the second child, nor do they have enough energy to take care of the second child. Therefore, when taking care of the second child, it is really: the first child takes care of the book Raise the second child as a pig.

First of all: pay attention to the age difference between the two children

Parents who want to have a second child must take into account the age difference between the two children. The age difference between the two children cannot be too large. , but not too small.

If the age difference between the two children is too big, the children are prone to conflicts. After all, the older the children are, the more aware they are of property rights, and it is more difficult for parents to discipline their children.

If the difference between the two children is too small, it will not do any good for the mother's physical recovery. Frequent childbirth will seriously damage a woman's vitality, so the mother must have a clear understanding of this matter.

Generally speaking, women need to rest for at least 15-18 months after giving birth to their first child, while older pregnant women only need 6 adjustments at home to prepare for pregnancy.

After all, older pregnant women are a special group. The chance of giving birth to this type of women will continue to decrease with age. Therefore, older pregnant mothers cannot be like ordinary mothers and have too long an interval between the second child.

Secondly: Parents must have good enough economic conditions

In addition, parents must ensure that they have good enough economic conditions to give birth to a second child. After all, after raising a second child, family expenses will also increase. It will get bigger. If parents don’t want their family’s living standard to drop too much, they have to work hard to save money.

Finally: Parents must ensure that they are not biased

The most important thing about raising a second child is that parents must ensure that they treat both children equally and not be biased. Although this seems simple, it is Very few parents can do that.

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