What is EQ? Emotional intelligence is the key factor to explore emotional potential and influence life by using emotional ability. It is the comprehensive quality of people's mood, emotion and will. It is a characteristic that can't be ignored when people start a career, and it is also one of the survival abilities that people must have. And what is the most concrete manifestation of a person's high emotional intelligence? Just chatting.

Teacher Keiichi Sasaki compared wording to cooking and told us that there are scores to follow. As long as we master the menu, everyone can cook delicious food. The book "High Emotional Intelligence is Talking" is the skill to help us master and use words perfectly. As long as you master "7 breakthroughs" and "8 skills", you can get the "secret recipe" of wording.

Three steps to turn a "no" answer into a "yes":

Step 1: "Don't say what you think directly"

Step 2: "Try to figure out each other's psychology"

Step 3: "Consider wording that is in the interest of the other party"

Seven breakthroughs in changing "no" into "yes";

Breakthrough 1: Use "anything you like"

That is, you can get each other's goodwill and realize your wishes. Of the seven breakthroughs, this is the first one to consider. Is the most basic and useful. Making more use of this breakthrough can also make our character better.

Breakthrough 2: Use "making fun of what it hates"

Can form a strong coercive force. This is the last resort of wording. This breakthrough is powerful and can convince those who are difficult to convince, but sometimes it seems mandatory. Pay attention to the occasion of use and avoid continuous use.

Breakthrough 3: Using "Freedom of Choice"

Can guide each other without leaving a sense of compulsion. The key is to give two suitable options, no matter which one the other party chooses, it can achieve the goal. This "freedom of choice" is decided by the other party, so the other party can have the consciousness of "independent choice" and the sense of compulsion will be reduced.

Breakthrough 4: Use "the desire to be recognized"

Even if the other person is difficult to deal with, he will be willing to respond to expectations. Very suitable for business and family use! Interpersonal relationships will also improve. This "longing for recognition" can also be interpreted as "respecting needs" in psychology, that is, "one can make achievements corresponding to the expectations of others"

Breakthrough 5: Use "You Must"

It can make the other party feel that only they have been selected, so they are willing to respond. Hearing "only you are special", people are easily persuaded.

Breakthrough 6: using "teamwork"

It can make the other party feel a sense of partnership, even if it is a troublesome request, it will be willing to accept it. The word "together" is pleasant in itself. It is also human instinct to like doing things with others. Make good use of this instinct and make it easy for others to accept.

Breakthrough 7: Use "Thanks"

It can make the other person feel vague dependence, so it is difficult to refuse easily. As long as you say "thank you", you can get closer to each other and make it difficult for the other party to say "no". This is the psychological "reciprocal goodwill", that is, "when a person receives goodwill, it will produce the psychology of returning the goodwill of the other party."

Hint 1: a "surprise method" that can be completed in an instant-"wording menu".

Among many skills of creating "epigrams", it is the most basic one. Just add the words of surprise to what you want to convey, that is, determine what you want to express, and add appropriate surprise words or exclamation points. For example: "Shocked America!" "Ah, it's worth it." Wait a minute.

Tip 2: "Contrast"-Even if you forget other "wording recipes", remember this "wording recipe" that can create famous sayings.

Put the content to be expressed and the antonym together, and an impressive message is formed. That is, confirm the content to be conveyed, add antonyms to the first half of the sentence, and then freely add other words to connect the first and second sentences. For example, Beauty and the Beast and Heaven did not create human beings, nor did it create human beings. ……

Tip 3: "naked resignation law"-a burning, embarrassing and exposed "wording menu"

Naked resignation's method is a method of observing what happens to you and resorting to words. It allows us to create words that are never learned, full of human feelings, full of vitality and attractive. Its realization method is: confirm the content to be conveyed, turn your body reaction naked into words, and add it in front of the content to be conveyed. For example: "I feel super cool!" "The delicious brain is blank." ……

Tip 4: "Repetition"-a very, very simple and easy-to-remember "wording menu"

Repeat a sentence, and it will stay in the other person's mind. It is very effective as long as you repeat the key points you want to convey in a short time. It is the psychological "pure contact effect"-"only increasing the number of contacts can enhance the degree of goodwill"-has been verified. For example, "no, no, no" and "I have a dream …, I have a dream …"

Tip # 5: The "orgasm method"-just don't forget this "wording menu" that attracts attention.

The technique that people want to see or hear is the climax method. For example, when reading a book, I see "-"or "..." in the sentence. The way to achieve this is not to suddenly say "what you want to convey", but to add climax words before the content.

This technique is very suitable for us to use when writing articles or making speeches.

Tip 6: "Number method"-95% people don't know, use numbers to enhance persuasiveness.

How to achieve it: determine the content to be conveyed and replace it with appropriate numbers. For example: "3 minutes cooking", "7 habits" and "Genius is 1% inspiration and 99% sweat" ...

It should be noted here that from the perspective of language effect, odd numbers are better than even numbers. Even numbers are soft and therefore weak; Odd numbers have angles, so they are strong.

Tip 7: "Combination Method"-You can use "Trend inventor" to describe and create a "wording menu" of buzzwords.

Think about the extraordinary things around us. Many names consist of two words. This is the combination method.

For example: Monster Watch, Graffiti and Children's Store Manager. ...

Implementation method: select the main core words, prepare a large number of candidate words for the secondary core words, combine them and select the best ones.

Tip 8: "Vertex method"-the most commonly used "wording menu" to create buying motives on the store shelves.

Vertex method is to convey to each other that this is the "best" compared with others. That is, add appropriate vertex words to the content to be conveyed.

There are two kinds of vertex method:

1, "true vertex method"

For example, "Quanqu 1" and "Manager's recommendation" ...

2. "Representation of Vertex Method"

For example, The First Squeeze and The King of Snacks. ...

Ok, the menu is complete. This is the secret of speaking. Leave it to yourself to act. This is a step-by-step process, just like the secrets of Wulin, which requires constant practice, mastery, perfection and becoming a master.

In the workplace, social interaction, sales, business cooperation, negotiation and other occasions involving interpersonal communication, only people with high emotional intelligence and can speak can be comfortable and become the biggest winner in life.