Wedding Eve: Traditional wedding inherits the ancient ceremony, which is the most complicated but meaningful one among all kinds of wedding etiquette. However, because most modern couples lack this knowledge or are not allowed in time, the number of couples who choose traditional wedding as a way of marriage is decreasing year by year.

The preparation before the wedding is very complicated.

1. Worship: The man's family should worship heaven and earth and ancestors the day before the wedding and inform them that there will be a wedding.

Second, Anqing ceremony: according to the eight characters, the house sits and worships the bed mother.

The wedding day is more complicated-

First, ancestor worship: before going out to marry the bride, the man should worship his ancestors first.

2. Wedding procession: The wedding procession should be even, especially a multiple of 6.

3. Firecrackers: The team celebrating the wedding should set off firecrackers all the way.

Fourth, eat sister table: before the bride gets married, she should have dinner with her parents, brothers and sisters to show goodbye and everyone should say auspicious words.

5. Invite the groom: take a special bus to the woman's house, and there will be boys waiting for the bride and groom to get off with tea trays (with melon seeds and candy on them). After that, you should give the boy a red envelope as a gift before you can enter the woman's house.

6. hi: after the groom meets the bride's family, he will present flowers to the bride to be married in the room. At this time, the bride's sister or female friend should stop the groom from deliberately obstructing her from seeing the bride. After the groom's pleading, the woman can make a condition for the groom to agree. Usually after some bargaining, the transaction is made with a red envelope of 999 yuan, which means "long time".

Veil: After the groom presents the bouquet, he should put down the veil and walk out of the hall with the bride.

8. Farewell: The bride and groom burn incense to worship their ancestors. The bride should bow to her parents to say goodbye, and the groom can only bow.

9. Going out: The bride should be escorted on the limousine by a female elder with a bamboo curtain or a black umbrella. Because the bride's position was greater than anyone else that day, and she couldn't see the sun. On the other hand, she hopes to live a happy life like this female elder.

10. Gift car: A bamboo tree from root to leaf is hung above the gift car, and radish on the root indicates a head and a tail. There is a gossip bamboo screen painted in ink behind the limousine to drive away the ominous on the road.

1 1. Fan worship: Before the bride gets on the limousine, a lucky boy of the zodiac holds a fan (put it on a tea tray) for the bride, and the bride returns a red envelope as a gift.

Never say goodbye: never say goodbye to a woman's family when everyone is leaving her home.

13. Water splashing: After the bride gets on the limousine, her parents will splash a bowl of water, rice and white rice on the bride, indicating that her daughter spilled water, wishing her food and clothing.

14. Throw the fan: After the car starts, the bride should throw the fan out of the window to show that she will not bring her bad temper to her husband's house. After throwing the fan, she must cry a few times, and a bamboo curtain can be set up behind the car to symbolize wealth.

15. firecrackers: on the way from the woman's house to the man's house, a salute is set off. The car arrived at the man's house, and the family burned a "cannon city" to celebrate the news.

16. Touch the oranges: When the limousine arrives, a child with two oranges will meet the couple. The bride should gently touch the orange and give a red envelope as a gift. These two oranges should be left for the bride to peel at night, which means they can bring longevity.

17. Hold the bride: When the bride walks out of the limousine, an angry elder of the man will hold a bamboo curtain on the bride's head and help her into the hall.

Eighteen, taboo, stepping on the threshold: the threshold represents the facade, so newcomers must not step on the threshold but cross it.

19. Go through the brazier and step on the tiles: After the bride enters the hall, she must go through the brazier and step on the tiles. The brazier is used to ward off evil spirits, and breaking tiles means that the past time is like breaking tiles.

Tea: The elders of the man's family introduce the bride to the family. This ceremony is to admit that she has become a member of the family.

Twenty-one, worship heaven and earth: newcomers worship heaven and earth, worship gaotang, worship husband and wife, and send them to the bridal chamber.

Twenty-two, into the bridal chamber: cover the bed with a bamboo curtain, put a bronze mirror on the table to suppress the vibration, and the couple sat on a bench with the groom's pants in advance, indicating that they will unite and seek to have a boy in the future. Then the groom lifts the bride's veil, and the two of them raise their glasses and eat sweet soup made of black dates, peanuts, longan and lotus seeds, which symbolizes the early birth of your son.

Twenty-three, taboo, sitting in a new bed: on the wedding day, no one can sit in a new bed, and the bride can't lie down, so as not to be sick in bed all year round.

24. Wedding reception: At present, most people adopt a wedding ceremony combining Chinese and Western styles, and most of them hold ceremonies at the same time when entertaining guests at night. At the wedding reception, the bride can change her bridal gown into an evening gown, and then make a toast on each table.

25. seeing off guests: After the wedding reception, the newlyweds stand at the gate of the restaurant to see off guests, and they must carry tea trays full of cigarettes and sweets.

Twenty-six, tea: after the general banquet guests leave, the married relatives and friends of the man's family drink the bride's sweet tea, say auspicious words and give red envelopes.

Twenty-seven, make trouble in the bridal chamber: the newlyweds on both sides can make fun of the newlyweds to increase their wedding joy.

Book of rites? The word "faint" in "faint meaning", formerly known as "bang", was named after the ancestors held a wedding ceremony at dusk. At this time, the sun and the moon gradually replace each other, which means "Yang comes to Yin". The Chinese ancestors, who paid attention to the unity of heaven and man, chose such a delicate moment, skillfully interpreted the meaning of marriage and brought sacred piety to this ceremony. Later, when the word "faint" was added to the word "female" to write "wedding", the kiss was no longer limited to the quiet evening, and of course the sacred consciousness of this ceremony gradually faded.

The faint ceremony is one of the gifts, and the gift is to kiss the people. The wedding of the Zhou Dynasty is a model of the wedding of later generations. The wedding ceremony of later generations developed in the exchange of various foreign cultures, and also incorporated many new customs. However, even though the connotation of verve is easy to change, the structure of the basic ritual system has not changed significantly from accepting gifts to welcoming the bride into the bridal chamber.

According to legend, the earliest marriage and wedding in China began with Fu's marriage and Nu Wa's matchmaking. As "Jing Hua Yuan Wai Ji" said: "There was no difference between men and women in ancient times, and Tai Hao began to set up a wedding ceremony, with the skin of the couple as the gift." Since then, the couple's skin (paired deerskin) has become one of the classic wedding gifts. After that, in addition to the "wedding ceremony", we must also "tell our parents"; During the Xia and Shang Dynasties, there were festivals of "before welcoming the court" and "before welcoming the court". The Zhou Dynasty was an era of etiquette. At that time, a complete set of wedding etiquette was gradually formed. There are detailed regulations in "Yili", which combine the whole set of rituals into "six rituals". Since then, the production of the Six Rites Wedding has been the template of the traditional wedding in China, which has been passed down to this day.

Traditional Wedding Custom Ceremony —— On Traditional Wedding Custom

Ancient women were often "born in a boudoir, and no one knows whether they are beautiful or not." After the blind date, the man often asks to have a look. This activity is called "meeting relatives", and the man goes to the woman's house for the first time under the matchmaker's non-staple food. It was dubbed "blind date".

The date of the blind date is set by the matchmaker in advance and notified to both men and women, so both sides should be prepared. The man should prepare a little gift according to the hobby of the woman's parents; Women should clean the courtyard and get ready for guests. As parties, both men and women should try to dress elegantly and resplendent, so as to leave a good "first impression" on each other.

Seeing relatives is the key to the success of marriage, especially the man, so be careful. Although gifts are nothing more than alcohol, tobacco and snacks, regardless of the quantity and value, you must give them what you like and not violate the taboos of the other parents; Dressing should be generous and fashionable; Be modest and polite in your words and deeds. In ancient times, when men met relatives, they could only rely on matchmakers to create opportunities to secretly see girls. It's different now. Both men and women can talk directly. Both sides have the opportunity to have a preliminary understanding of each other.

China is a "state of propriety and righteousness", and it pays attention to implication. The results of visiting relatives are often not directly expressed, but expressed through various hints. In many places, after the man enters the door, the woman's parents first pour the young man a cup of hot tea. Seeing that the girl was amused, the young man drank this cup of tea in one gulp. Then the girl's parents discuss with the girl. If they agree to get married, they will leave the man for dinner with the matchmaker. If they don't agree, they will let the man leave and go home. Some parents even asked the matchmaker to take away the gifts brought by the man.

In some areas, besides visiting relatives, there is also the custom of "observing others". In fact, "visiting others" is also to visit relatives. The man was led by the matchmaker to the woman's home where he had seen the girl, and the woman's parents temporarily refused to express their views on the marriage, and then the matchmaker took him back to the man's home. Qiyang area is called "Kandang". Look at that time, the man's parents should offer a cup of fragrant tea first, and then talk to the woman's parents. The wife's parents visited the man's house and talked with the man's parents. If they agree to the marriage, they will drink all the fragrant tea. The man's parents immediately regarded him as "in-laws" and warmly entertained the guests. Otherwise, the woman's parents should get up and leave, and the man should not stay.

Excessive ceremony of traditional wedding customs.

After "seeing one's relatives" and "seeing one's death", it is necessary to perform the engagement formalities, commonly known as "gift".

The first step of "Li Guo" is that the matchmaker sends the man's birthday to the woman, and the woman's eighth birthday to the man. Some superstitious parents think that they are responsible for their children's marriage, and often ask the fortune teller to calculate after receiving the red post to see if the "date of birth" of both parties is consistent, if not; Marriage will be reconsidered. Fortunately, most modern people don't believe this, so even if red posts are exchanged, they are often just a form, and some even avoid the form of changing posts.

After "changing posts" and "matching eight characters", the matchmaker should choose a good date and get engaged with the man as a gift. Giving gifts is a big deal. Generally, the active person (male or female) who gets married should give each other a heavy gift. The gift should at least include a pig elbow, a pair of wine, a chicken and a duck, and a suit for other parents. A pair of shoes and socks, a package, and some things for girls. How much money to seal in the envelope and what engagement gift to give the girl are generally negotiated by the matchmaker in advance, not as much as the man (or woman) can give. Of course, the parents of the man or woman should also try their best to think of each other, strive to be frugal and accept less dowry.

Media articles on traditional marriage customs

In feudal society, men and women "give and receive without kissing", emphasizing that "there is no cloud and rain in the sky and no marriage on the ground". Generally speaking, both men and women should have a good discussion before "tying the knot", "harmonious Qin Jin", "tying the knot" and "living in harmony". This combination is called "matchmaking". After the founding of the People's Republic of China, "matchmaking" was renamed "introduction". People who do this kind of matchmaking work are called "Yue Lao", commonly known as "matchmaker" and later renamed "introducer".

"Old Moon" is the abbreviation of "Old Moon". According to the novel of the Tang Dynasty, a scholar named Wei Gu passed by Song Cheng in the evening and met an old man sitting on the side of the road, with a big pocket in his hand, reading a big book in the moonlight. Wei Gu asked him kindly what book he was looking for. The old man replied that this is the marriage certificate of everyone in the world. Gu Wei asked the old man what was in his big pocket. The old man replied, "If you tie men's and women's feet with a red rope, as long as you tie a man's and a woman's feet on the red rope, even a sworn enemy or a stranger thousands of miles away will definitely form a husband and wife." Therefore, people say that "a thousand miles of marriage is a thread." "If the elderly don't need the red line under the moon, they can't go to another place." It can be seen that people are in awe of the matchmaker.

The matchmaker is also called "matchmaker". The biography of Yingying written by Yuan Zhen, a talented scholar in the Tang Dynasty, created a clever and lively image of a handmaid matchmaker. She carefully planned again and again, and finally contributed to the marriage between Zhang Sheng and Yingying. Based on this story, Wang Shifu wrote Yuan zaju "The West Chamber", in which the image of the matchmaker is more vivid and lovely. People call the matchmaker "the matchmaker", which shows their importance and friendliness to the matchmaker.

Matchmaking is not an easy task, as can be seen from the fact that matchmakers are called "Iceman" and "Ice Axe". According to the Book of Jin, I dreamed that I was on the ice, talking to people under the ice. Suo's explanation of this dream is: "You talk to people under the ice on the ice, which symbolizes that you are reconciling Yin and Yang. To reconcile yin and yang is to be a matchmaker, and you will be a matchmaker for others. " But this media is not easy to do. You have to melt the ice with your enthusiasm before both men and women can get married. "It seems that matchmaking requires enthusiasm and perseverance.

In the old-fashioned wedding, the matchmaker is also called "Wako", and the matchmaker is "holding Keke", which proves that the matchmaker is an indispensable role. The Book of Songs chants: "How about cutting Ke? There is no axe to cut. How did you marry that wife? Media is not allowed. " It means: "How can I cut off a big branch?" Don't chop without an axe; How can I get my wife? You can't get married without a matchmaker "

Matchmaking is a skill. The matchmaker should not only be familiar with the basic situation of men and women and their families, but also make every effort to propose marriage at home. Moreover, he must basically and accurately reflect each other's situation to both men and women and their parents, try his best to hide evil and promote good, so that both sides can fully understand each other's strengths and are willing to reach a marriage agreement. In other words, if you want to be born, you must have a matchmaker's mouth. To be a matchmaker, you should be diligent in running errands. From the day you begin to bridge the gap between men and women, you should always shuttle between men and women, exchange information, convey each other's wishes and demands, and prevent accidents. Traditionally, both men and women have the obligation to entertain the matchmaker, and it is not an exaggeration for the country people to say that "the matchmaker has a hundred meals". It can be seen that it is diligent in running.

The matchmaker plays an important role in the old-fashioned wedding. After both men and women have basically reached an agreement on marriage, he should guide the man on a blind date, send a modified Geng sticker on behalf of both parties, guide the man to get engaged, choose an auspicious day for marriage, guide the man to take over the marriage, and assist the wedding ceremony until the couple enters the house, and then throw the "matchmaker" over the wall. The media said it well, and both sides were satisfied. In the future, they often exchanged views and became old friends. If the media doesn't speak well and both sides are dissatisfied, they will often blame the matchmaker and be regarded as passers-by from now on.

As a matchmaker, the matchmaker can get some money, which is called a "thank you gift". Money is usually paid by the man (if the man goes to the woman's house, it is paid by the woman). The day before the wedding, together with chickens, elbows, shoes and socks, and cloth, they are sent to the matchmaker's house. The matchmaker must guide the next day and call it "round media" or "initiating media" or "sending media". The amount of money to thank the media depends on the financial situation of the host family, but no matter how much, it needs to be sealed with red paper, which is the so-called "red envelope" or "envelope" It is customary to write "envelope label" on red envelopes.

Traditional Wedding Procedures in China (Jane)

First, the classic ceremony-the ancient six rites

Second, the device is married to the top-a prelude to becoming a monk

Third, make-up and make-up-the prelude to the wedding

Fourth, exorcism across the saddle-the way to meet each other.

Five, to marry the bride and get married-night of flowers and candles

Ancient wedding etiquette

Departure: The man carries six or twelve gifts, fires a gun to the woman's house, and then fires a gun when he is about to arrive at the woman's house, and the woman's house also fires a gun to show that it is ready.

Welcome: the matchmaker gets off first, and others get off next. The groom is invited by the younger generation of the bride's family.

Introduction: the man's relatives and friends enter the woman's house in turn, and the matchmaker formally introduces both relatives and friends, first introducing the man to the woman's house.

Requisition: the man brings gifts into the woman's house, and the woman accepts them and gives them red envelopes; Gifts will be displayed in the hall, and the matchmaker will give gifts, gold ornaments and gifts to the woman's parents. Women's relatives and friends will collect gifts and display offerings on God's table.

Serve sweet tea: the elder of the woman asks the relatives of the man to sit down according to their age, and the groom comes last. The bride-to-be was led out of the hall by a lucky woman, holding sweet tea for the man's guests.

Press the teacup: After a while, the bride goes out to collect the teacup, and the man's relatives and friends need to press the teacup with red envelopes.

Wearing a ring: The bride-to-be sits on a high chair facing outward (inward if married) in the center of her main hall under the gaze of her parents and relatives, and the low chair is stuck; The middle finger wears a ring (male left and female right). The groom-to-be gives the red envelope to the bride-to-be

Renaming: The matchmaker guides both parties to change their names.

Ancestor worship: my uncle lights candles to burn incense, the matchmaker reads auspicious words, and then the woman's parents worship the ancestors of the gods and tell them that their marriage is settled and pray for blessing.

Reward: The woman accepts some gifts and betrothal money from the man and gives him six or twelve gifts in return.

Engagement party: After the engagement ceremony is completed, the woman prepares refreshments and holds a banquet in honor of the man (the man on the right and the woman on the left). The woman prepares chicken legs and gives red envelopes to the young man. In addition to pressing the table, the man will also give red envelopes to all those who help.

Seeing the guests off: After the banquet, the man's guests leave for home, and the woman's younger generation washes their hands for the man's guests with a bucket of flour. If they are outside the restaurant, this gift is unnecessary. Never say goodbye and send it to them.