1, respect differences

Everyone grew up in different environments and inherited different genes, so there must be differences between people. Even if we don't realize this difference, we should learn to respect it.

2, understand each other's growth experience

When we really hate someone, maybe we can try to understand this person's growth experience. Because after truly understanding a person's growth experience, we will understand each other's appearance now, thus making our eyes on the world more peaceful.

3. Subject separation

Subject separation is a concept in Adler's psychology, which refers to separating one's own subject from others' subject, neither interfering with others' subject nor letting others interfere with one's own subject. Do a good job of separating topics, and you can stay away from the troubles of interpersonal relationships. The topic means that what we need to take responsibility for, such as our attitude towards others, is our topic.

Step 4 stay away from this person

If we hate a person, and this person is not someone we can't live without, such as relatives, family members, colleagues and so on. Then we can choose to stay away from this person.

5, beyond each other

In life, when you meet someone you hate, you don't care, but you can't feel at ease, so the only way is to surpass him and win him, and maybe you will feel better.

Many people are psychologically unbalanced because they can't compete with others and then compete with themselves. In this case, you are determined to cultivate yourself, become a better self and surpass him.