1. The bloody cases occurred on April 26th, 20 1 and 20 14, respectively, and they were married for two months. Ge Yifeng lives in a rental house in Beijing with her parents-in-law. Before getting up in the morning, he heard his mother-in-law constantly criticizing him and his family, saying that he was not worthy of his daughter, which made him very angry. He sent a text message to his wife who went out to say that she was scolded by her mother-in-law, and her wife replied: My mother is like that. Ge Yifeng, who was wronged, longed for his wife's understanding and comfort. But no, the contradiction escalated when his wife came home, and his wife threw his clothes out during the quarrel.
Ge Yifeng walked out of the house and hid in the car to sulk. Although he had the idea of revenge on his wife and family for a long time, he also prepared scissors, hammers, fruit knives and other crime tools, but he never made up his mind to take this step. He called his wife to the car, still hoping to have a good talk with her and asked her to apologize to him and seek some psychological comfort. How can his wife understand his feelings and thoughts at the moment? After a few words, she quarreled again. When his wife was about to get off the bus for divorce, Ge Yifeng completely lost control and stabbed her with scissors.
He didn't realize what he had done until he saw his wife lying motionless in a pool of blood. He called his mother and brother in Anhui and told them that he had killed his wife, but his family didn't believe him. He took a photo and sent it to a circle of friends, saying that it was finally over. Later, he took a taxi to the local police station and surrendered himself, asking the police to shoot him immediately.
2. Court decision: Beijing No.2 Intermediate People's Court sentenced Ge Yifeng to a suspended death sentence for intentional homicide, limiting commutation. Why didn't he give his wife a chance to live? This involves surrender, the victim's fault and other reasons. According to the criminal law, those who surrender themselves after committing a crime can be given a lighter punishment. The rule is "may" be given a lighter punishment, but it is not "should". As for whether it can be given a lighter punishment, the key depends on the circumstances of the crime. In this bloody case, it is obvious that due to improper handling of family conflicts, the victim and his relatives have certain faults, and the court will consider a lighter punishment as appropriate. In addition, Ge Yifeng's ability to save his life when his parents-in-law strongly urged him to die is also related to the current criminal policy. Murder cases caused by family conflicts, as long as the circumstances are not too bad, generally will not be sentenced to death immediately. Ge Yifeng is currently serving his sentence in Bengbu Prison, Anhui Province, and his death sentence has been reduced to life imprisonment.
3. What caused this bloody case? Ge Yifeng is a native of Chizhou, Anhui Province, with a junior high school education. On October 25th, 65438 10, she got a marriage certificate from her hometown Chen Mou, got married on February 5th and became a son-in-law. Then I followed my parents-in-law to Beijing and lived in a rental house with them. What kind of family conflicts caused this bloody case? Let's analyze it according to the information revealed in the case.
1, family conflicts, it is difficult to tell who is right and who is wrong.
Ge Yifeng said that his married family life made him depressed. He had a bad relationship with his mother-in-law, who scolded him for trifles on his wedding day. On the day of the incident, it was also because of the abuse of his mother-in-law. The victim's father, Chen Mou, said that he always regarded Ge Yifeng as his son. When you have no money, give him money to spend and learn to drive. Ge Yifeng, on the other hand, is not enterprising, idle, likes playing cards and even beating his wife.
Analysis: Who is right and who is wrong between them does not need textual research, because family conflicts cannot be completely attributed to one party. Family conflicts are difficult to reconcile, and Chen Mou's parents, as the elders in the family, should bear the main responsibility.
2. Facing the inadaptability of the new environment.
Ge Yifeng said that before he got married, he went to work in other places and earned seven or eight thousand yuan a month. When I arrived in Beijing, I earned five or six thousand yuan a month. "If you want to be someone else's pug, money is not enough. I spend four or five hours on the subway every day. I can't adapt and I am very depressed. " He also mentioned that after his wife came to Beijing, her living standard improved and she looked down on him more and more. "I feel timid and have a big psychological gap."
Analysis: In their family conflicts, if Ge Yifeng's wife can understand and support them, the contradictions can be suppressed and alleviated, but no, his wife always stands in the same camp with his parents, making him feel lonely and helpless.
Ge Yifeng thinks that he has paid a lot, but he can't get his wife's understanding.
Ge Yifeng said his wife: "You said that you broke up with other boys and took me as an emotional sustenance, so I fell in love with you;" I'll be engaged to you if you say engagement; You said let me be a door-to-door son-in-law, and I will be a door-to-door son-in-law; You told me to quit my job and come to Beijing, and I came to Beijing to accompany you. "
Analysis: From this passage, we may see that he regards his wife as his whole, and she seems to be "supporting" him. After two months of marriage, the two filed for divorce, and their emotional foundation was not very solid.
Ge Yifeng feels that he has no way out.
His mother opposed this marriage at first. When his wife filed for divorce, he also discussed it with his mother, but her mother thought it was shameful to insert the door backwards. If it is even more shameful to let others drive out of the house, he will tell her, "Don't go home if you are divorced. Our family can't afford to lose this person."
Analysis: His mother also has an unshirkable responsibility for pushing Ge Yifeng to the extreme. ?
Every malignant case is caused by many factors. In this bloody case, Ge Yifeng's extreme personality is the main reason for this bloody case. Others are family conflicts, even including his mother's incomprehension and disapproval!
Fourth, how should "adopted" families get along? Now, the post-80s and post-90s are the times when young people provoke the family. Due to the influence of family planning, there are more only children in this group of young people, which will inevitably lead to the phenomenon that the man is "adopted by his wife". How should "adoptive" families get along? The author makes some comments.
1, don't say "adopted by son in law" easily.
Influenced by traditional ideas, discrimination against adopted children still exists. In the marriage of young people, don't say "adopted by the wife" easily. Even if the woman's family has only one daughter, and the son-in-law and daughter need to bear the problems of the development and death of the elderly, we should try to avoid giving the son-in-law the status of "adoption". For example, don't "marry" the man directly to the woman's house at the beginning of marriage when the parents-in-law don't need personal care for the time being. With the enhancement of legal awareness, the concept that daughters need to fulfill their maintenance obligations has also been popularized. Now there is no need to engage in the practice of "supporting".
2. The woman's family should respect the son-in-law.
The purpose of letting the son-in-law enter the door is to let the man provoke the beam of the woman's family. The woman's family should give more respect than the daughter's, give the man a certain right to speak, participate in the decision-making of family affairs, and let him have a sense of existence. The problem now is that, generally speaking, the man who is willing to go to the woman's house and be adopted by his wife will have worse conditions than the woman's house, and the man will feel inferior involuntarily. If the woman's family does not give enough respect, there will inevitably be contradictions.
3. How to deal with contradictions?
Once a conflict occurs, the most taboo is that the woman's family stands on the same front and isolates the son-in-law. This will make the son-in-law always feel that he is an outsider, and it is difficult for family relations to be harmonious. For the woman, it should be a bridge between parents and son-in-law. It is necessary to understand the truth that "it will be concealed from both sides at the same time and will not be passed on from both sides at the same time". When there is a conflict between the young couple, the woman's parents should favor the son-in-law rather than protect the daughter.
Conclusion: Back to this case, everyone will think that Ge Yifeng killed his wife because of this family conflict, which was too extreme and harmful to others and himself. The author believes that the root cause is that Ge Yifeng loved the wrong person and devoted himself wholeheartedly, but in the end he found himself a "spare tire" for his wife's lovelorn treatment, which made him feel cheated a little, but it was difficult to express. Ge Yifeng knows this, but he may not admit it!