Engagement, entering the engagement stage after marriage, that is, the man prepares gifts for the woman to get engaged. Gifts are usually a pair of gold earrings or a gold ring, as well as a gold necklace, sugar and noodles, which are all symbols of engagement. When the woman is engaged, she should give candy and cakes to her relatives and neighbors, inform them of their engagement, and then engage in bride price.

Hire, also known as rent. In the past, the bride price of rich people was gold and silver, colored satin, pigs, sheep and wine. The poor are betel nuts and chicken wine. Chaozhou people regards betel nut as an auspicious symbol and a distinctive employment gift. Modern bride price includes physical objects and cash. There must be more than four items: sugar, noodles, Daji (Chaozhou orange), gold and silver jewelry, cloth, cakes and so on. , but they must not be odd numbers, but even numbers. Cash, also called bride price money, is divided into one, two and four, but they are all multiples. When buying and selling marriage is quite popular, the amount of engagement money becomes the key to the success or failure of marriage. In order to avoid naked bargaining, the two sides called the engaged US dollar bill "tea ware", making it the reward for the woman's parents to have children. The "tea instrument" takes a load of tea as the unit, and the two sides run at both ends through the matchmaker, set a load that is satisfactory to both sides, and then exchange it for cash at the market price before hiring. Some men advance some "tea ware" as early as the engagement stage, which is the most typical commercialization of buying and selling marriage (after liberation, this kind of buying and selling marriage has basically disappeared in Chaoshan area). During the engagement, the woman should return the cake and food in the engagement, and give back "mandarin ducks and bananas", oranges, pig hearts and so on. Yuanyang and banana are two bananas that coexist, symbolizing a hundred years old; The orange homonym "Ji" symbolizes good luck; The pig's heart (half left in the woman's body) symbolizes concentricity. At this time, the two sides will also solemnly distribute cakes and food from each other's gifts to relatives and neighbors to report the wedding. Friends and neighbors should also congratulate them in return.

Please invite. After the engagement ceremony, you should choose the date of marriage and tell the woman, including telling her when to cut the wedding dress, when to "pull your face" (when to open your face, that is, twist the hair off your face with a thread), when to take a shower and when to get married. Most of the invitations are invited in the dark, and the hipster custom still retains the wedding custom of welcoming the bride in the dark, which is really an ancient heritage. In ancient times, weddings always ended in fainting, so wedding ceremonies must be held after dusk or even late at night. Therefore, Interpretation of Names defines marriage and says, "When you get married, you become a gift when you are unconscious; Marriage, female media also. " "White Tiger Yi Tong Marriage" also said: "What is a married person? Salute when you are unconscious, so it is called marriage. "

When Raoping girls in eastern Guangdong reach marriageable age, in order to pray for a satisfactory husband, they always run to the vegetable garden in droves at the Lantern Festival night to sit on mustard (commonly known as Chinese cabbage) and pray devoutly: "Sit on Chinese cabbage and marry a good husband in the future." If the child is older and the marriage is delayed, parents are of course anxious. Therefore, they often ask others for a straw rope to tie tobacco leaves, take it home and say loudly: "Anu's marriage star is floating."

When the Raoping man gives the bride price or betrothal gift to the woman, the woman will give back a piece of cut and undamaged pork, which is called "Yuanyang meat" to show "flesh and blood". The bride pays more attention to bathing and changing clothes before marriage: the flowers or leaves of pomegranate and other 12 plants must be placed in the bathtub. After bathing, the bride can sit in the bathtub and eat two boiled eggs, praying for a smooth birth after marriage. Moreover, the clothes worn by the bride can't be sewn inside and outside, which is intended not to take away the luck of their parents.