Divorce does have some negative effects on children, but in families with divorced parents, there are not many children with particularly serious problems. Most children can get out of the shadow of their parents' divorce, and there are few lasting negative effects. That is to say, the impact of parents' divorce on children is not as serious as media propaganda or people's stereotypes think.
As early as 1987, Chinese scholar Xu et al. found through investigation and study that the breakdown of parents' marriage does have a negative impact on the life and physical and mental development of school-age children, but the injuries to children are not all caused by parents' divorce, but related to the marital conflict before parents' divorce and their own quality: parents' frequent quarrels worsen children's learning and rest environment, and children with high parents' educational level have relatively good academic performance; Parents' moral quality is poor, they have not fulfilled their family obligations, and their children's psychological defects are also obvious.
Research shows that children with higher marital conflicts between their parents often have more conflicts with their peers and are more likely to be rejected and bullied by their peers. If the husband and wife can't live in harmony and force themselves to maintain their marriage relationship with each other, it may not bring a good environment for children to grow up, but endless quarrels, verbal violence, cold war and other behaviors will bring more negative effects to children.
Divorce is the breakdown of love. Everyone has the right to pursue happiness, but children also have the right to love and happiness. Parents are divorced, and children are still parents' children. As long as both parents still love their children, they have the responsibility to raise them. Even if you are divorced and separated, you can re-learn with your children how to continue your parent-child life in the new environment and give them support and care. Whether parents do their duty to their children and take active measures to reduce the pressure and influence brought about by marital changes are important influencing factors for children from divorced families to get happiness.