Mark, a professor at Emory University in the United States, said: "One of the signs of a person's maturity is to understand that 99% of what happens around us every day is meaningless to others."

Have you ever found that people's enthusiasm for their circle of friends has decreased, and they no longer share their daily lives frequently and praise others easily? Are you like this?

A reader left a message yesterday, which amused me.

She said: I don't know why there are fewer and fewer people who like my circle of friends.

I dressed up to climb the mountain yesterday, took a lot of photos, carefully selected three of the most beautiful ones and sent them to my circle of friends.

As a result ... two friends just praised it. So sad! What a waste of time!

Am I that bad?

Ha ha. At first glance, she is an honest and frank girl.

I comforted her: don't think too much, it's normal, everyone is the same.

First, don't be an irrelevant audience.

Is your circle of friends getting colder and colder?

And yourself, you don't like interacting in other people's circle of friends more and more, do you?

If you feel left out, don't feel sad. It may not be your fault.

It is said that the circle of friends went online from April 20 12, and has been wandering for almost seven years now. The seven-year itch is coming.

I still remember that in those days, many people would rather not eat than brush their circle of friends. That kind of passion and desire is not the first love, but the first love.

But after watching too many beautiful lives, everyone basically found out the routine of this circle and began to feel aesthetic fatigue.

This kind of tiredness makes us not punch cards in the circle of friends so diligently, and we have no enthusiasm for participating in interaction.

A friend of mine said that every time I praised this, I would give it to other friends, otherwise it would be like owing someone else, and I was tired.

And every time I like it, I will be told who likes it and who will reply. Very annoying.

So ignore it and get it over with.

This should be a very common mentality. I also think this is an improvement.

Everyone is busy. There is no need to be an irrelevant audience all the time in other people's hardcover life.

Second, a good relationship is sitting opposite, not stopping in a circle of friends.

I have a friend Xiaoyu, who is in the same city, but seldom meets each other. On the one hand, we are busy with our own affairs, on the other hand, we usually order a few praises in our circle of friends, so that we can get a general understanding of each other's situation.

I've always felt good. There's nothing wrong with it.

But not long ago, a group of friends got together and we both went. I didn't feel so close until I met you.

There were so many people at the party that we didn't have a chance to talk more. After the break, she drove me home and we talked all the way. When I got home, I still had a lot to say, so she parked her car next to a buttonwood tree downstairs and we continued to talk.

The light shone on her face through the shadow of the buttonwood tree, and I suddenly felt that my two hearts were so close.

There are many feelings and doubts about feelings, career and future, so we sit in the car and talk until two o'clock in the middle of the night.

I really like that feeling, quiet, relaxed and happy.

This kind of high-quality time, this kind of intimacy and emotion can't be replaced by a hundred thousand praises from friends.

After that day, I know that the real good feelings must be sitting in front of each other, looking at each other's truest appearance, feeling each other's most direct expression and touching each other's softest heart.

Instead of picking up a compliment in a circle of friends.

He Jiong and Huang Lei have been good friends for many years. Huang Lei said that apart from his wife, he cooked the most meals and He Jiong ate the most. It is said that when Huang Lei broke his bone, he tried to cook for He Jiong, while He Jiong not only played a play with Huang Lei, but also accompanied Huang Lei's daughter.

This friendship must not be praised by friends.

And Gao he. Gao was jailed for drunk driving and gave him100000 yuan when he got out of prison.

Later, when they were interviewed together, Lao Lang said something that almost made Gao Made Song Xiao cry: "I performed a lot, and you ate chaff in it, which was bitter. That's what I think. "

Later, Gao also made a lot of money for a while. The old wolf was very happy and said it was great, otherwise I was always worried that I would support you when you were old.

Gao is also very moved. Where did he think that Lao Lang was sincerely prepared to give him the bottom?

Such feelings must be mixed together in life, and plastic feelings in the circle of friends are absolutely impossible.

Of course, more than just friends. Parents, lovers, classmates and colleagues are all the same.

Friends circle can be an effective supplement to interpersonal communication, but if you regard it as the focus or even the whole relationship, it is a big mistake.

? Third, the life you live for your circle of friends is too empty.

Once I asked my little sister out to play, and she was so lazy.

Until I said I could take her to the 3D Art Museum, it would be nice to take photos and send friends. She woke up at once. I managed to lure the snake out of the hole.

Maybe many people are like this:

I should have gone to see my mother at the weekend, but I went to the cafe to read a book in order to take pictures.

Obviously it's time to go to class, but I'm making desserts in full swing all afternoon, just to show off my skills in my circle of friends.

I obviously want to travel and relax, but after I go out, I spend most of my time wondering how to take pictures and send friends, and I have no mind to enjoy the scenery at all.

I obviously don't like concerts, but I go to a circle of friends to show my taste. Take an hour by car, take some photos, brush your mobile phone for a while, and then sleep until the end. ...

Why bother? I can't sleep well at home if I want to.

Living to show others is a waste of life.

So, if you say that there are fewer and fewer people praising you in your circle of friends, I want to say "congratulations".

I can finally stop living in a circle of friends.

Since everyone doesn't watch it very much, there is no need to rack one's brains for the circle of friends.

You don't have to travel, exercise, eat a big meal or go to a concert to make friends.

Spend time with mom while pretending to be B in the coffee shop.

Take advantage of the sleeping time in concert to catch up with a favorite American drama.

Go back to your own life and waste your time on what you really like, live high's real life and feelings.

To live for yourself is to live.

The life of performing for others is too empty.

Fourth, the best things are always in the most real life.

Man's greatest happiness lies in two places.

One is to dance happily and intently in your own world, no matter whether there are people outside or not, no matter what they think.

The second is to interact deeply with the person you like, and deeply feel that you and the soul of ta are intimate, blended and danced together.

These two things can't be given by friends.

So, thank those friends who often praise you in the circle of friends first, then put down your mobile phone and go back to your real life. The best things are there.