My girlfriend will stay in my hometown after graduation, but I still want to start a business outside. Is there no room for development when she goes back to her hometown?
My present job is quite formal. I go to work and get off work on time. There is still time to read and write before going to bed. A company with a higher salary extended an olive branch to me. I was excited, but I went. Is there not much time to do what you like?
Also, I want to change to a more profitable industry. Does the increase in income mean more freedom?
Imagine where there is absolute space and freedom. But because of different lifestyles, the pros and cons are intertwined. Such confusion can not be avoided by looking ahead and worrying about it.
I won't tell them that I know a friend who works as a waiter in a hotel. Listening to customers talking about all kinds of interesting stories and experiences, I can't help but imagine, and I finished writing a officially published story collection in less than two months.
I won't tell them that I saw a courier running around from the Internet, taking advantage of the fragmented time to take an examination of graduate students in famous universities;
I won't even tell them that a nanny aunt bought dozens of cooking books for her employer to learn, and finally got a senior chef's certificate. Her employer also invested in her and opened more than a dozen chain restaurants.
Environment can change a person, and people can also change the environment, depending on whether you are willing or not. The reason why I won't tell them is because they are too timid. A pessimistic ending is always more than a happy ending.
It is not a benign thinking to deny everything before it starts. Since you can only watch others change, but you are far away, don't blame fate for not caring, just blame yourself for not having the courage.
I have a female friend who recently went to Shanghai to attend a ten-day and ten-night training camp.
I have also participated in many such training camps, mostly focusing on teaching, with the aim of improving management level, interpersonal relationship and eloquence.
Anyone who goes to participate is a person with super mobility. Behind the powerful action, courage is gaining momentum.
Before his friend went, he was dissuaded:
"The girl's family has to take a train for more than ten hours to go to other places. Regardless of whether she was cheated or not. What if something happens to her on the road? "
"Just stay at home, not afraid of the sun and rain."
She just smiled, but set foot on the journey without hesitation. From Bengbu to Shanghai, then take several subways from Shanghai, and finally reach the destination.
She was very excited when she came back. Although she spent a lot of money, she did grow a lot. Although she encountered many difficulties along the way, she found the place alone and met many people with dreams and strong mobility.
I asked her, "What makes you have the courage to travel alone?"
She pondered for a long time and told a story about her: when she was five years old, she climbed a pile of wheat straw at the entrance of the village with her neighbor's brother, who was several years older than her and had flexible hands and feet. He climbed to the top of the wheat straw pile in a few steps. As for her, chubby little person, her run-up failed several times. Later, it was the neighbor's brother who had a hard time letting her go up. If you can go up, you will go up. What if you go down?
That pile of wheat straw is very high for her! It was getting dark, and the neighbor's brother went home for dinner, leaving her crying alone.
Not long after, my father came back from home and saw her on the straw pile. I thought dad would hug her down, but dad just looked at her from a distance, and no matter how she cried and shouted, she couldn't get a hug at home. Later, she can only get up the courage and get up the courage to jump.
Many years later, she realized that her father looked at her from a distance, not because he didn't love her enough, but because he loved her. She learned to be brave at an early age and to face every opportunity independently.
In fact, what we are really afraid of is not taking the first step, but being eliminated before taking the first step. Think about it. When we were young, didn't we fall by bike, skate and choke in swimming? Why do you have no courage now?
Is there too much concern? Not exactly.
All troubles are broken on the way, and people in action have no troubles. Because as soon as the worry arises, it is overcome by action.
Poet and politician Havel said, "The only factor that leads to failure is that you give up before you struggle." Most people in this world once dreamed that one day they could get rid of the shackles of reality and pursue the life they wanted. However, how many people have really realized it with their own practical actions? They are afraid that if they fail, they will never go back to the way they started.
People who worry too much can only be dragged forward by reality, unwilling to take risks and change the status quo forever.
There is such a group of people who have never given up hope and experienced strange eyes, but always believe in their ideals. There are such a group of people who have given up the comfort of their parents' placement and rushed to an unknown distance, but they are still happy and have light in their hearts.
Nothing in this world can really stop you. What really binds you is your retreat. As long as you find your way, the whole world will make way for you.