In daily life, talking with people, both sides hope to do it in a relaxed and harmonious atmosphere. Whether good communication can be achieved depends directly on whether the topic of conversation between the two sides is appropriate. Appropriate and interesting topics can make the two sides gradually deepen their feelings along the track of conversation, thus establishing friendship. If you are lucky, your chance meeting with a stranger may develop into a lifelong friendship. Come to think of it carefully, which of our friends is not a stranger?

In India, there is a salesman named Bernard Latier. He is different from the average salesman. His job is to promote Airbus aircraft. When he was recommended to Airbus, his first challenge was to sell planes to India.

This is a difficult task because the transaction has been reviewed by the Indian government and has not yet been approved. Whether we can find the chance of success again depends on the negotiation skills of the sales representative. As a sales representative, Lartier knows the heavy responsibility on his shoulders. After a little preparation, he immediately flew to New Delhi. He was received by Major General Lal, chairman of air india. When Lartier arrived in India, the first thing he said after meeting his negotiating opponent was: "It is because of you that I have the opportunity to return to my birthplace on my birthday. Thank you! "

This prologue is unique, and the choice of this topic has quickly narrowed the distance with the negotiating opponent. Although this sentence is only a short dozen words, it contains rich content. It expresses several meanings: thank the host for generously giving him the opportunity to come to India on his memorable birthday. India is his birthplace. Practice has proved that Latier's trip to India was a success. With his skillful sales skills, Lartier has created brilliant achievements for Airbus: in 1979 alone, he sold a record 230 aircraft worth 42 billion francs. Among them, it should be said that he is also good at "selecting topics".

People talk around a topic. If we actively choose a topic of mutual interest, the conversation will be conducted in a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere. Generally speaking, people will choose the following topics in conversation:

1. Weather

The weather is everyone's concern, because it has a great influence on life. The weather is bad, so we might as well exchange our worries: "Today, I am dressed like an Antarctic penguin." The weather is fine, so let's boast together. If a place encounters abnormal weather such as rainstorm or drought, you can also talk about it, because that is a topic that everyone cares about.

Confess your feelings.

When you are introverted and attend a party surrounded by strangers, instead of whispering "I am too shy for this kind of party" in the corner, you might as well tell the stranger sitting next to you directly. Maybe this sentence will make you become bosom friends.

Once, Edith, an American writer, talked with a psychologist. Addis is usually comfortable with this kind of visit and will benefit from it, so he was surprised when he found himself stuttering and didn't know how to speak. Finally, Addis said, "I don't know why I'm a little afraid of you." As a result, the psychologist became interested in Addis's statement, and then everyone chatted naturally.

3. I played some harmless jokes.

For example, we can share jokes such as being cheated in shopping and making mistakes in language, because people generally like to listen to these interesting things in life. Talking about this interesting thing, the other party may have encountered it, so that both sides can find the same topic. Besides, making fun of yourself shows that you are easy-going and approachable.

4. Take sensational social news as the topic.

This is also gossip information. If you have some special news or special opinions and opinions, you can attract a group of listeners around you.

5. Family problems

Some knowledge that every family member needs to know, such as children's education, shopping experience, how couples get along, social interaction between relatives and friends, family arrangements, etc. , will also arouse the interest of most people, housewives are also particularly concerned about this kind of problem.

Of course, we should also avoid asking some disappointing topics. When communicating for the first time, each of us should have reservations, and don't talk about something purely personal. Maybe no one wants to listen to you, such as pets, children, food and recipes, your own healthy golf, family disputes. However, we can talk about social phenomena and known hot issues in the world.

In a word, if you are good at choosing the right topic to talk with each other, I believe you will soon establish a strong friendship with them.