The most common example around us is that some people complain that they are surrounded by very powerful people. So, the master of chicken soup began to instill: you must persist in believing that hard work can surpass the genius balabala…
It's not that persistence and hard work are not important, but that the above views easily lead people into a blind spot, that is, only persistence and hard work can succeed. As for people's own problems, the aspects that need improvement and the methods that can be improved are not mentioned at all in the chicken soup. The essential problem has not been corrected, and insisting blindly can only go further and further.
People need comfort when they are frustrated. Faced with heavy tasks and pressure from all sides, the mood of the senior three party is ups and downs. If a senior three party is in a particularly bad mood, tell him: in fact, there are differences between people, and it is not your fault that some things can't be done. ...
Oh, my God! Your non-chicken soup method is in the wrong place! You didn't tell him the truth. You're forcing him to jump.
Many times it's not that the other party doesn't know, they just need a reason to stick to it. It is painful to realize that there is nothing you can do. Don't be so anxious. Give others some time. I never think that warmth is a low-end word, and we have no reason to kill a little expectation in others' hearts on the grounds of "being good to you".
So, comfort and enlightenment, very good. We should first get the frustrated out of the predicament, and then gently tell him that some of your past ideas are wrong, or slowly unfold the reality in front of him.
Chicken soup was a compliment many years ago, but now it is spurned by the public only because it has been abused. Not all chicken soup texts should be scoffed at. As mentioned above, articles that emphasize one-sidedness and strip the spirit from the soil of life are all chicken soup that everyone spurns.
In addition to encouragement, don't forget to propose solutions to problems or help friends who are limited by objective factors find the right direction. This is a useful chicken soup.
Zhihu's disdain for chicken soup also stems from his abuse of improper chicken soup. But I don't think it's necessary to kill with a stick. Life is always higher than reality, which makes people look forward to it.
It is difficult to rationally handle the standard of chicken soup. Let's work together.