Without money, a precious mother can be humble enough to give in to it, compromise and even lose her dignity.
Advise your sisters: Never take care of your baby at home full-time unless you have to.
Do you want to continue listening?
I have a good friend and only one daughter at home.
She has won the favor of her parents since she was a child. It is no exaggeration to say that she is really the apple of her eye that she is afraid of falling into her hand and turning it into her mouth.
In high school, she fell in love with a boy.
That young man, with an average family background, is in the middle and lower reaches. The only thing he can do is handsome facial features and angular facial contours.
Other aspects can be said to be useless: self-esteem is too strong to tolerate any negative comments from others, and inferiority complex is too heavy, leading to vanity, perverse and rebellious character and problem of juvenile mixed together.
I don't know what happened to my best friend. I love him to death.
After graduating from high school, the two openly fell in love, and the girlfriend went out to work with her boyfriend regardless of her family's opposition.
My parents were so angry that they blew their beards and stared, and there was nothing they could do. They really can't beat her. Before leaving, my mother gave her a bank card with 10 thousand yuan and her birthday password.
After that, pay regularly every month.
Best friends and boyfriends go out to work and don't know the hardships of society.
I can't find any good jobs after graduating from high school, so I can only find some jobs with no threshold and no technical content to make a living.
At first, the young man completely rejected my girlfriend's relief. He would rather eat white rice and pickles every day than the big fish and meat my girlfriend bought from the restaurant.
After trying to be brave for a while, the young man was a little overwhelmed.
At first, I clamped some chopsticks and pulled a few mouthfuls of rice. Later, I simply ate it before the dish.
My best friend is simple-minded, and I am so happy to watch her boyfriend eat big.
Since then, their expenses have basically been borne by my best friend.
In those years, even if there was no one to help her family, the young couple had jobs and their lives were still unsatisfactory.
I once visited her in Shanghai, and her simple and elegant little face added a bit of vicissitudes of life, and her sweet and moving smile was hard to show.
Three years later, my best friend was pregnant, and the young couple returned from Shanghai to get married.
Unexpectedly, the wedding is not shabby.
Think about it carefully and you will understand. After all, the young man loves face when he is at school.
Our high school classmates sat under the stage, and everyone laughed and applauded. Only math class represented several tears-later, at a class reunion, he drank too much and told the truth that he secretly loved my best friend.
Anyway, tearing down ten temples is better than ruining a marriage.
When two people get married, even if others and I think it is perfect, we will send our heartfelt wishes.
Shortly after the marriage, the child was born.
A cute big fat boy with eyes, nose and mouth like his father and my best friend.
My best friend quit his job to take care of the children and devoted himself to his family.
Her husband got a job in sales, and he was too busy socializing every day to take care of his family.
Once, I went to her house to play, and I was shocked as soon as I entered the door.
My best friend, with curly hair, gaunt face and dark yellow face, forced out an ugly smile to welcome me.
The child is crying, the washing machine is rumbling, and the soup is still on the gas stove.
I asked her how she was doing, but she sighed and didn't answer directly.
It was not until the baby was scalded by milk powder and fed to her mouth that she leaned back on the sofa, looked at the ceiling and choked and said, finally.
After the conversation, I knew that her life was a mess.
After resigning, she took care of the baby at home full time.
My mother-in-law has been here for some time, and said that she would help her with the children and housework. In fact, she is a lazy person. Every morning, she says she goes out to buy food. In fact, she went to the park to dance until nine o'clock, with some onions or tomatoes. Then I sit on the sofa and watch TV. The volume is so loud that my best friend sometimes can't coax the children. Even if the child cries until she vomits, her mother-in-law won't take another look. The two generations have different living habits and numerous frictions. It's just a routine to enter the house without knocking. What's more, my mother-in-law once even went into battle to breast-feed her children. Fortunately, my girlfriend found out and stopped it in time.
These things, for girlfriends who have never suffered since childhood, can be tolerated by biting their teeth. Until one time, their family sat together for dinner, and my mother-in-law insinuated that my best friend didn't cook well, changed the diapers for the children, and did nothing at home because of her son. My best friend broke down, her anger surged out and she was in tears.
Later, my mother-in-law went back to her hometown.
She thought that life would get better, but she never thought that this was just the beginning of a nightmare.
Because my husband is engaged in sales work, it is normal to accompany customers late into the night every day, so he is addicted to alcohol and goes to the bath center.
Alcohol addiction is not terrible, many people have it, but he can't tolerate my best friend's abuse after drinking.
Hit, hurt on the body, bruises will eventually disappear;
But scolding, the pain is in my heart, and it may not disappear for a lifetime.
He scolded the most, nothing more than:
In fact, he may never have thought that my best friend was someone else's child before marrying him.
Never washed dishes, cooked meals, or cooked dishes. From once slender and soft jade hands to now chapped and rough hands, from blown skin to now sallow and emaciated appearance, who did she do all this for?
Clothes can't be folded, the floor can't be wiped, and children can't iron milk powder when they are hungry-women's efforts are often in the details of life, but some people don't care.
Later, because of my work, I contacted countless women who were similar to my best friend.
They can be so humble that you can't imagine their families.
Therefore, I sincerely hope that:
If conditions permit, treasure moms must try their best to ensure economic independence, don't lose themselves for their families, and don't let others belittle their efforts and efforts!
My best friend Ma Bao has a second child. Her husband earns more than 10 thousand a month, so it doesn't cost a penny to eat and live in the unit! My best friend also borrowed money from me!
It's inconvenient to borrow some money from us after receiving the news from my best friend! I asked how much I needed, and she said two thousand! I'm confused. If something needs emergency, two thousand is not enough! But if it's not urgent, in her case, her husband earns more than 10 thousand a month. Where does he need to borrow money from me?
My best friend gave birth to two children and ran away from home after giving birth to the first child! My husband works in a large enterprise, with a stable fixed income of more than 10 thousand in January. After work, he can earn some extra money in his professional knowledge. The house is mortgaged by itself, and the loan is repaid with the provident fund. Her husband usually eats and lives in the unit, which basically doesn't cost money!
In-laws are also buddies. My mother-in-law always takes care of her children and often subsidizes her family. This kind of life should be very easy!
So I asked her what was going on. She directly said that her mother's family was seriously ill and her family was financially nervous. She wants to subsidize her mother but doesn't want to ask her husband for money (her parents divorced and her mother bought her a house as pre-marital property). Before that, her provident fund and her mother paid off the mortgage, but after leaving her job, she lost her income and her mother kept paying it back. Her mother spent money when she was ill, and she had almost no income and no brothers and sisters to help her)
I am sorry to hear what she said. I have been to her house several times and said that she is doing well. Her husband cooks and washes dishes at home! Still very happy! But when it comes to problems, it is obvious that her husband's savings are ok and her daily life is frugal. She bought clothes for tens of dollars from Taobao! She didn't tell her husband to tide over the difficulties! It is conceivable that the family economy has no initiative!
Maybe it's still inner anxiety. After all, I have given birth to two babies in a row, and I have no job and no income for several years, but who is this for? Is it her responsibility alone? So I still feel a little sad!
Now eating and chatting together are all baby families. As a student, I have no light in my eyes! Seeing me is urging me to get married and have children early. Oh, my God!
There must be income, and the greatest confidence is money. Don't believe the man's "I support you" sentence. When the nanny is a new moon, she doesn't get paid, and she is treated as a freeloader by the other half. She can't see her salary at all!
Having no money is more than humbleness. I have a cousin's daughter-in-law At that time, she was too young to understand and had been working outside. After she and my cousin found a date, they lived together. Adults at home don't know. When her parents said that she had agreed to get married, she gave birth to a child and lived in my cousin's house after giving birth. At that time, her wedding room was ready and the ceremony was over, just waiting for her to get married. This made my uncle and aunt very angry. After the full moon, the babies are getting older. After that, my cousin's family looked down on my cousin's daughter-in-law, and my aunt went too far, always scolding my cousin's daughter-in-law. She has not given birth to the boss for a year, and she is pregnant again. The second child is a boy. She only looks after two children. All the money my cousin earns is given to my aunt, who is in charge. My cousin's daughter-in-law always borrows money from friends to buy snacks because she has no financial resources. Sometimes I don't understand. I mean, what about the money you used to earn? Aren't you tired that your husband won't give you living expenses? She said she was used to it. She doesn't go out or buy anything now. She was wearing old clothes and everything. When the baby is two years old, she will go out to work. Before the second child is two years old. She is pregnant again, weaning the baby and pregnant with the third child. When she was pregnant, she was greedy for my family or my family to cook. Call her. She brought two children to eat. The third is a boy. I'm almost two years old now, and I'm still not weaned. Auntie said it would cost money to eat milk powder, so she was given breast milk. I thought she would be in better shape after giving birth to three children, but that's not the case. What we talked about together was what a little wife told me: one day her maid was ill and she had no money to buy medicine. When her mother-in-law went out, she called her husband and gave the money to our friend's husband, saying that she would give him several hundred dollars in cash. My brother-in-law was waiting at our friend's house. At that time, our friend didn't have any cash, so the township health center wanted cash, and my friend's husband went to the bank to withdraw money. I heard from a friend that the curse was terrible. After a few days, I didn't know what was going on and hit my cousin's wife. Cousin's daughter-in-law can't afford to go back to her family by car. I'm a little angry to hear that. My cousin's wife is a little sloppy, but she has three babies and has to do housework. She sometimes tells us that she wants to go out to work, but she doesn't even have the travel expenses and can't bear to have three children. Her family has no income and no money to eat. I cried when I said it, and now it's not near us. My other friend and I are not rich or expensive, but our living expenses are not bad. She also feels inferior and doesn't play like us. Sometimes we have an appointment to eat mala Tang together. My friend and I paid in one lump sum, and she didn't pay. Slowly, she won't go either. So nothing. Don't go bankrupt.
No money can humble people into the dust, but it can't bloom.
1 I dare not take my children to play with others, because every time I take my children out, I talk about what they wear, eat and use. Once I took my children out to play, I dressed them in clothes that I bought a lot. Because of the poor quality, the corners were broken, and Ma Bao laughed at them. [punch] [punch] [punch] [punch]
I dare not get sick when I have no money. A few days ago, a friend of mine was taking care of her children in her hometown, and suddenly sent me a message to borrow 100 and asked her if she had any difficulties. As a result, she burst into tears and said that she had a fever of 38.5 and had no money to see a doctor, so she had to take care of the children herself. Calling her husband will only blame her for spending too much money. I don't know how to persuade her in an instant!
3 when the child is 2 years old, the child is in poor health and weak. He was hospitalized with a cold twice in three days. The couple really can't afford to give money to their newly-married child. The child is still in the hospital and needs a loan. She lent me 20 yuan. We said it wasn't enough, so she went back to her room and got 50 yuan. My husband said that she needed a needle for 60 yuan, so she borrowed more. Later, she reluctantly 100 took it out.
Money is not everything, but you can't do anything without money. If a treasure mother has no money, it will be even more difficult for you. You will become unwilling to go out, unwilling to talk, even afraid of getting sick, afraid of socializing, and even afraid to go back to your parents' home. ...
This question really touches the hearts of married women.
Although I don't have children yet, having no money really makes me nervous day by day, and I dare not get pregnant at all. I'm afraid of pregnancy, that the company will transfer me to a bad position, that I can't afford the mortgage with less income, that my child can't afford it (I don't have any savings now), that I can't give anything to my child, that my child can only go to the worst school and can't afford ice cream, alas.
I didn't know that rice, oil and salt were expensive until I got married and had children, and I didn't think much about buying things before marriage. After marriage, every pill is hard. Ma Bao can wear shoes and clothes for tens of dollars and buy very cheap cosmetics. All this is for the children and her own children. ...
You have to hesitate for a long time before you buy yourself a pair of socks.
You get what you pay for!