"You can do anything, don't do housework!"

They said it took me so many years to train me to go to a private junior high school, a key high school and finally a famous university.

Not asking me to go to someone else's house to clean up.

I've thought about it, really.

Tuition, tuition and living expenses invested in me over the years. If you save up to buy a house, it is estimated that it has turned over dozens of times.

While I was studying hard since I was a child, when it comes to housework, my parents often say:

"Don't go into the kitchen! Go and heat up your book! "

"I don't need your help! Do your homework carefully! "

"Leave it to us, you don't have to worry about anything!"

So much so that I 17 years old began to live on campus, and I took my dirty clothes home to wash them every week. I was so busy that I even threw all the clothes I shouldn't have machine-washed into the dormitory washing machine and finally washed them into a crumpled ball.

In cooking, it may be better. Get a tomato scrambled eggs or something, so as not to starve yourself to death. But don't mention complicated dishes, and even a debt may burn the pot.

In the first year of living in Beijing, many friends advised me:

Hurry back to Shanghai. We can't bear to see you living here alone, unable to take care of yourself and killing yourself.

I am now the owner of the kitchen and living room, and I can arrange every meal in my family neatly and tidy my room meticulously.

It should be a miracle, right?

When I left my home in Beijing, I bought some paintings, a wall clock, a tablecloth and some flowers.

The rented house, the humble living room, smells like home)

I don't know when our culture began to belittle the existence of "housework" and "housewives"

It also makes a child who grew up in a dual-income family like me lose the ability to "do housework" and "survive in the family".

As far as I can remember, the time for each member of our family to go home from work and school is very different. We may not be able to book a table before 9 o'clock, so we have been eating separately for more than ten years.

Many years later, I didn't know until I visited a friend's house.

It turns out that other people's homes are waiting for someone to eat.

(This year's New Year's Eve, I spent two days cooking a table of eight-treasure duck, sweet and sour mandarin fish and other annual dishes. )

If you are busy all day in the name of "supporting your family", you can't have a good meal together neatly.

What's the point of being so busy?

Unfortunately, the meaning of housework, the meaning of a family eating a hot, freshly cooked meal together.

Many times, it is natural to be unable to resist the fatigue and burnout of work and the fast pace of city life.

Last year, I especially liked a Japanese drama: Escape from Shame but Useful, which tells the story of a graduate student Moriyama Miri, Malaysia who graduated from clinical psychology. Unable to find a job, she took over her mother's business and started a "contract marriage" in exchange for housework.

25-year-old, graduate student, with a license in clinical psychology, but can only be a junior clerk in a dispatch company.

She said: "Suffering from all kinds of dissatisfaction is also part of my salary."

In the end, because of "high academic qualifications, you can find good jobs everywhere?" Prejudice, lost to colleagues with much lower ability and education in layoffs, was ruthlessly dismissed.

The arrival of the turning point is a conversation with friends:

"The original full-time housewife's job is converted into an annual salary of 3.04 million yen (equivalent to about RMB 6.5438+0.83 million, equivalent to the average income of a person with 3-5 years of work experience)!"

Also carefully clean the employer's screen window.

Let her embark on the road of "monthly housewife".

The hero in the film, because he hired a "full-time wife", lived a beautiful life in which he could eat steaming rice and delicious food for three meals, and his room would never be chaotic again, and someone would take care of him when he was sick.

In this play, apart from the love story of two people, what attracts me most is Merry Dian Man's warm housekeeping skills.

With Merry, the hero's lunch pattern will not be repeated every day.

And this standard of "doing routine cleaning except washing clothes and mopping the floor every week", even cleaning the dust in the cracks in the floor, is the "housework concept" developed when I went to Beijing to live alone and started to hire a cleaning aunt to clean every week.

After all, when I was at school, even the dormitory took turns kicking around. Few people of the same age like to do housework. Occasionally, one or two hardworking people will be taken advantage of by us lazy people. In line with the principle of "whoever can't stand it", let people who like to work go all the way.

However, I forgot, in fact, the order of life and the cleanliness of the room itself are also a mirror reflecting people's life and psychology, work and study.

I want to start sorting out my feelings and living conditions and start learning housework skills again.

Like the heroine in the play, I am a graduate of psychology and fascinated by various psychological principles.

One day, I read a report on a foreign website that when I feel depressed, tidying my room will improve my mood. So with the idea of giving it a try, I started the road of finishing.

Since then, it has been out of control. Whenever I feel uneasy and depressed, I will pick up the broom and start sweeping the floor, or rearrange the messy desktop.

Whenever I do this, I will gradually feel that I have regained control of my life and my mood will suddenly become clear.

Indeed, there is an old saying:

"If you don't sweep a house, how can you sweep the world?"

The ability to manage family affairs and family space is the beginning of one's self-management and aesthetic ability.

If you don't manage the dozens of square meters of space you live under your feet every day, how can you talk about other more complicated people and things?

The enthusiasm for "living" also comes from "eating". I once had a friend who was keen on making cakes. I asked her, "You are so tired of working overtime every day, why do you spend so much time making cakes?" Don't you feel hard? "

She smiled and replied, "You think I'm baking, but I'm actually resting."

For everyone who has to go through the storms and changes in the workplace, nothing is more lovely and certain than the kitchen, recipes and pots and pans.

As long as you are familiar with the taste of ingredients and the proportion of condiments, carefully follow the recipes and cooking steps, and cook step by step.

You will be able to make delicious food that makes people feel happy.

Cooking for myself helped me overcome the fear of "going home from work and buying food and eating alone".

It also made my parents completely put down the fear that their daughters or their children would starve to death in the future.

My mother, who worked in our family for 26 years, retired gloriously this year. The task of buying food and cooking falls on the daughter who used to be a "housework imbecile".

My family criticized me a long time ago: "Why is a graduate of a famous university so keen on doing housework?"

Such criticism has been lingering in my ears for a long time.

My answer is as follows:

"No matter how well educated, home is still the starting point for each of us."

"In this matter of housework, regardless of rank. We need to pay for this and ultimately benefit from it. "

"After all, aren't we working so hard to enjoy life better?"

Finally, I recommend a small book (actually quite thick, divided into two volumes, with a total of 1300 pages), which can be called the housework management manual of the housework bible, Comfort of Housework.

It is worth mentioning that the author of this book, Meng Desen, is an "intellectual woman", and her stereotype can never be related to housework.

Growing up in a farmhouse, he obtained a doctorate in law from Harvard University; I was a lawyer partner and a university professor, but I finally returned to the family field because it was difficult to give up my love for my family.

In this book, you can find all kinds of details of home care, from how to change sheets to how to choose tableware. Although there are many family initiatives that only apply to American culture, it is still a good introductory book for common sense cancer patients to systematically learn housework.

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