Children's weariness of learning is what parents fear most. They always hope that their children will show a particularly good learning state as early as possible and keep it until the end of the college entrance examination. In order to achieve this goal, parents will diligently invest in their children's early education, will accompany their homework from the first grade, and will send their children to this class.

But even so, I'm always worried about whether my children will be tired of learning, and I find that my children are a little less willing to learn, just like facing an enemy, so I'll step up supervision. Then, some children are really tired of learning.

many parents have completely twisted their logic about being tired of learning-they think that learning is hard work, and children will not study hard without urging, but in fact, learning, including children's school study and other studies in life, has always been a very happy thing. It is only when someone makes their children unhappy that they will get tired of learning.

In fact, learning itself makes people very happy.

No matter what you study, no matter how old you are, when you study in a way that you like, suits you and makes you feel comfortable (please note that it has nothing to do with the degree of hardship), and the expected result is what you want, the whole feeling brought by learning will be particularly positive. People are just enjoying learning, and there is no one who is born to dislike learning.

For example, when a baby has just started practicing walking, he will try to stand up again and again, stagger one leg, and then try to take the other leg. In this process, he may fall down many times, but if the adults next to him don't urge him for a while, help him up for a while, and remind him to be careful for a while, the child will practice patiently for many times every day, and soon he will be able to walk steadily.

For example, this time, because of the epidemic, many people began to learn cooking, including some people who don't usually cook much. Everyone goes online to find recipes, and uses the existing ingredients at home to make all kinds of delicious food that they wouldn't even think about. The production process may be tedious, but when people enjoy it, delicious food is served on the table, or you get a lot of praise in the circle of friends, you will feel that everything is particularly satisfying.

Another example is children playing games. In fact, you need to learn to play games. You need to be familiar with the rules, understand the raiders, and practice constantly. It is not that easy to play well, have a good time and have a sense of accomplishment. But why don't children get bored? Because that's what he wanted to learn.

Then, why are many adults tired of all kinds of learning and don't want to learn anything, and some children will be tired of school and extracurricular learning? That's because they had a particularly unpleasant learning experience, and learning changed from enjoyment to tolerance.

What makes people tired is not learning itself, but the negative methods, processes, goals/results contained in the bad learning experience and the overall negative feelings brought by them.

If a person doesn't like a certain method used in learning, for example, he thinks that it is not suitable for him, that it is cumbersome and inefficient, that he has a better method, or that others are using a better method, he can also learn, so he won't like the present method and will get tired of learning with it.

If the learning process is unpleasant, for example, it takes too long, the pace is too fast or too slow, someone is supervised and always compared with others, and the whole process is often intervened, interfered and criticized, he will not like this process and will be tired of learning through this kind of process.

If a person doesn't like the learning goal or the learning result, for example, the learning goal is not his own goal, but the goal given by others. Although learning has produced results, it is not what he particularly wants, he will not like this learning.

boring methods, boring processes and boring goals/results will bring all kinds of negative feelings, including frustration, disappointment, frustration, helplessness, inferiority, lack of sense of accomplishment and happiness, etc. If learning is related to such feelings, no one will like learning.

why do parents worry that their children will be tired of learning, and children will be more likely to be really tired of learning? The reason is that when parents feel anxious and start to urge their children to study hard by means of high pressure and supervision, the methods, processes, results and feelings of children's learning will change, and the direction of change will be negative rather than positive, so boredom with learning will appear, and it will appear in various learning projects of children of all ages.

So, frankly speaking, it's not the children who are tired of learning, but more often, their parents make them tired of learning.

accompanying homework is a typical example. Many mothers are exhausted with their homework, and children don't get better grades because of their mothers' years of accompanying them. It is precisely because this process is too painful for children, and they experience such pain every day. How can children like learning?

it's a bit like being tired of marriage. If every day of family life is relaxed and happy, and two people strive to establish a more quality intimate relationship with each other, people will not think that marriage is desperate, but if there are three small quarrels every day and three big quarrels every day, even if they can't say a word well, marriage will become unbearable, and finally someone will choose to give up.

Protect all the positive feelings of children in the learning process, and try to avoid negative feelings of children in learning. Once a child is found to have some negative feelings, parents need to immediately reflect on whether they have done too much negative work on their children's learning methods, learning processes, learning goals/results.

In a word, there are no children who are born to dislike learning, only parents who use the wrong methods. To prevent children from being tired of learning, parents had better take a step back.