Teacher Tu Lei, an emotional expert, once described marriage like this:

In marriage, giving and taking are mutual. Both wives and husbands should try to avoid becoming so-called "slave" wives or husbands. Only by loving each other, caring for each other and taking care of each other can we grow old together. Please remember that "serving" marriage is doomed to be short-lived.

This reminds me of a friend's marriage. He loves his wife very much and is willing to give everything for her. So in this marriage, he has been playing the role of giver. At first, his wife was grateful, but in the end, she took his contribution for granted and began to ask for more.

One gets nothing in return, and the other only knows how to get what he wants. Over time, marriage naturally has problems. In the end, the couple's personal feelings are getting weaker and weaker. He always feels that he has paid so much but hasn't got the corresponding reward, while his wife thinks that these are all things you should do. Why can't you be nice to me?

Marriage has reached this point, and if it is not corrected, it is really hopeless. But change should be a two-way street. The change of one party is not enough to determine the success or failure of marriage, and both husband and wife need to make changes together.

As someone said: in marriage, both husband and wife need to "come back", and you can respond to what I have paid. This is the standard of a happy marriage.

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Meng Ying never imagined that her husband, who had a thousand choices, turned out to be a Phoenix man who didn't know the so-called, calculating himself everywhere. After two years of marriage, Meng Ying couldn't take it anymore, so she decided to divorce.

Meng Ying recalled her marriage experience. Although she suffered a lot, she also learned a lot from it. She said frankly: In fact, the biggest problem between my husband Jia Yu and me is that in this relationship, I was sincere from beginning to end, but he always had other plans. Just like two intersecting lines, they will only go further and further.

Other minor problems emerge one after another. From the beginning, this marriage was not favored by people around Meng Ying, because everyone thought that two people were not suitable, and Jia Yu was still a phoenix man, and problems would often occur after marriage. But Meng Ying didn't believe these words at first. She insisted on marrying Jia Yu.

To Meng Ying's surprise, Jiayu married her with ulterior motives, not entirely because of love. This is also a point that Meng Ying cannot accept.

-03-

Meng Ying has a good family. His parents have opened a restaurant in the city, which is small in scale, but the business is good. Meng Ying is the only child in the family, so she is very popular with her parents.

Jia Yu's family is much worse than Meng's winner. His hometown is in a remote mountain village, and his parents are farmers. He lives by farming and has never traveled far in his life. There are many children at home, so I have been poor. Jia Yu was admitted to the university by her own efforts and became the only college student in her family.

His parents borrowed a lot of money for his education, and his brothers and sisters also paid a lot. Finally, Jiayu was sent to college. After graduation, Jia Yu found a job and chose to stay in the city.

Jia Yu has always had a wish that he can change his destiny and stay in this city. He made a lot of efforts to this end. He works hard, has outstanding ability, and is highly valued by leaders.

Over the years, Jia Yu has never forgotten to subsidize the family. He only gives himself a small living allowance every month, and the rest calls his parents at home.

-04-

At first, Meng Ying liked Jiayu because he was mature, progressive, considerate, concerned about himself and felt safe with him. That's why I stayed with him regardless of his family.

However, their love affair was opposed by Meng Ying's parents. Parents think that if their daughter marries this Phoenix man, her future life will be very bitter. Parents can't bear their daughter's hardship and resolutely disagree.

However, Meng Ying felt that her parents' ideas were too old-fashioned, so she didn't listen to her parents' persuasion at all and insisted on marrying Jia Yu.

However, Jiayu has no money at home, and can't afford a house or a bride price when she gets married. But even so, Meng Ying insisted on marrying him.

Meng Ying bought a suite as a wedding room before marriage, and they lived in it after they got married.

Meng Ying thought that she would be happy after marrying love, but what she didn't expect was that the reality was just the opposite.

When I first got married, Meng Ying was responsible for the expenses of the whole family, and Jiayu's money was still given to her parents, brothers and sisters. Meng Ying thinks that since she is married, she should put her small family first and subsidize her parents, but she can't give all her money to her parents, can she?

-05-

However, Jia Yu said: At first, my parents owed a lot of money for my education. Now that I have made a promise, I must help them share it and let them live a good life. Otherwise, am I still human?

Meng Ying failed to convince Jia Yu, and the couple quarreled many times about it. In addition, Meng Ying found that Jia Yu was very concerned about his family's property and often asked Meng Ying to go home and ask his parents for money.

Meng Ying was puzzled. She is married and can support herself. Why did she go home and ask for money? Later, she understood that Jia Yu sent her back to her family to ask for money to support her family.

At that time, Meng Ying felt that Jia Yu seemed to have ulterior motives, and she was always on the alert.

Less than a year after marriage, Jia Yu took the initiative to take back her parents from her hometown. Meng Ying was very uncomfortable, but she was embarrassed to drive her in-laws home. But another contradiction appeared. She had many contradictions with her mother-in-law.

Due to different living habits and consumption concepts, there are great differences and contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and contradictions often break out. Meng Ying really can't stand this kind of life. Tell Jiayu directly that either you send your parents back to their hometown or I divorce you.

-06-

Jia Yu finally put forward a way to let his parents live separately from Meng Ying, so that they don't have to quarrel every day.

Meng Ying reluctantly agreed, but Jia Yu said, "I remember your parents still have a house, right?" Just beg my parents to live. "The house has been rented out. Meng Ying was embarrassed to ask her parents, so she refused without thinking.

Jiayu has been asking Meng Ying to tell her parents to give the house to his parents. The couple quarreled over this matter again.

Jia Yu puzzled: "Your family is an orphan, and the property will be mine sooner or later. What happened to the house for my mother? "

Hearing the word "homeless", Meng Ying suddenly realized. It turned out that Jia Yu married himself for the sake of "learning from a pit", which made Meng Ying angry and afraid.

She insisted on divorcing Jia Yu and ending this absurd marriage.

A marriage full of calculations and ulterior motives is doomed to be short-lived, and a calculated marriage will eventually be calculated by marriage.

Here, we should also advise the girls in the world not to be blind because of love. Be sure to think carefully, carefully understand the true face of men, and then make a decision.