In Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, does the weather affect your mood? Wan Li has clear skies, blue sky and white clouds, OR it's rainy and rainy. Will it decide whether you are cheerful or unhappy all day? When I saw this, I asked myself this question. My answer was: Unfortunately, for more than 2 years, my mood was affected by changes in external affairs, and my mood always depended on other people's words and deeds. Realizing this left a deep impression on me, and the first change I made at that time was limited to the analogy of such things in my life.
It was in July this year that I made positive changes in my work. When I discussed with my boss the newly recruited trial colleagues, I said, "I don't feel very active in adapting to the new environment." I was shocked when I said this, because I realized that compared with what I said, I was not much better. From the next day, my boss gave a meeting to the team members. I will attend it with or without participation, observe the logic of her speech, and propose solutions and attitudes to colleagues after raising objections. At the same time, actively increase their work content. This is the second change I made at that time.
If I hadn't met "Jingshili 1-Day Training Camp", I might have thought of doing so much. I'm glad that in the middle of the course, Cui Lvmei has a lesson "Heart: Positive Thinking &; Then what? " As mentioned in the article, a negative person will put a full stop to a failed thing, and this is the end of it. And positive thinking people are committed to question marks or commas, and this matter is not to be continued. This is not concrete enough, right? Because even if we realize this, it is still unclear what we should actually do in life. A small method is given: "ask one more question in everything, and then what?"
If you don't realize the power of this sentence at the moment, I strongly suggest using it more often in your life and work. For example, the boss gave me a temporary task, which was very difficult to complete, but now I can ask, and then what? What can I do? Whether to put off this task or actively seek a solution; I want to buy an oven when I see my colleague baking delicious food, but my husband will definitely object. Then what? What can I do to change his mind? He is worried that I will be underutilized on a whim, and then what? Can I prove to him the utilization rate and the three-minute heat by collecting enough recipes related to the oven first?
I don't know if you have found out after reading this, but a little sentence actually pulls your state and thinking back to "What should I do to achieve the result I want". Here my third change is even more detailed and detailed. Ask one more word in everything and do what you can.
Everyone knows that it is good to cultivate concentration and positive thinking. But I still want to talk about the benefits of the change of positive thinking in my life and work. Because only by giving something more meaning and value can we continue to stick to it before internalizing it into a habit.
When I made the first change, I reduced the number of times that my mood was affected by external factors in my life. For example, when I went out today, it was raining outside (there are quite a few such weather in Shanghai), and I thought it was lucky that it wasn't raining cats and dogs, and I could go to the subway while holding an umbrella. When my husband made an appointment to travel together, but delayed the time because he loved to sleep late, I would think that traveling was fun and didn't delay the appointment time of the scenic spot. Wait for him. The saving value of the relationship between husband and wife is getting higher and higher. The second change is that only one week after I made a change at work (I remember the time clearly because I was too shocked by the opening remarks of the other party at that time), when the department head asked me to go shopping, I talked about that I would handle some affairs independently because of the adjustment of the department, and the salary had been applied to the company for me. The third change was half a year after my supervisor asked me to go shopping. My boss decided to leave. Before leaving, he recommended me and another small partner to manage two departments respectively.
I don't need to think about how much it is lucky or strength, because I firmly believe that if I hadn't taken some actions to change my previous thinking and behavior, the words growth and luck would not have come to me.