In the communication with parents, there is a very common question: "Teacher, my child's mind is too distracted. One minute I like this, the other I like that. I want to do everything, but everything is three minutes hot. What should I do? "
This is really a headache. If the guidance is not good, it will have a very adverse impact on the child's future life. But this is a normal situation, no matter how anxious you are, it is hard to change, and it must be accepted and allowed by every parent, because most people will have this situation when they grow up.
"What, accept and allow?" Perhaps many parents will give out this kind of wonder and feel incredible.
So today, let's learn why there is a "three-minute fever" phenomenon. What should we do?
Seeing the above picture, from the perspective of talent, one's innate development patterns can be divided into six types: highly centralized, centralized, medium, diversified, highly diverse and infinite. These six modes, when matched with the individual's innate response mode, will affect the width, breadth and depth of our lifelong hobbies and deeply affect a person's learning ability.
The innate development model represents a person's ability to accept new things and comprehensively deal with problems, as well as the activity of brain reactions. The higher the multivariate index, the stronger the ability to accept new things and the higher the activity of brain reaction. Generally speaking, such people are naturally fond of novelty and variety. Both study and work should be motivated by diversity. In study, they refuse the unchangeable repetitive learning mode. At work, they hate boring and challenging work.
The response pattern reflects the sensitivity of a person's five senses and the understanding of learning and accepting new things. The higher the acuity, the higher the sensitivity, and the stronger the learning ability and understanding ability.
As long as there are multiple sensitive people in these two indicators, they will have different degrees of interests and hobbies scattered, and there will be a phenomenon of doing things for three minutes. The higher the index, the more obvious it is.
In other words, children like this for a while, like that for a while and want to do everything, but everything is a three-minute fever, which is inherited from parents and families, so parents can only accept it and must accept it.
Knowing this, some parents will say, "OK! I accept it because it's my own, but I can't let it develop! Didn't the teacher also say that this will affect future study and work in the long run? "
Yes, people's life time and energy are limited, and it is impossible to do too many things at the same time, otherwise everything will be easy, and finally the bamboo basket will draw water with a sieve. So what should I do under such circumstances?
A person's life will be divided into several stages, and the learning and development period will also be divided into two stages: before 12 years old, we should learn from each other's strengths and avoid weaknesses after 12 years old; In the career development period, it should be divided into stages: before the age of 30, you can try and explore in many ways. After the age of 30, you should concentrate on a certain field before the age of 45, study deeply and accumulate continuously. Between the ages of 45 and 48, you can take a break and think about the life path behind you. After 48, there may be a new trajectory.
No matter in the face of study, work or even feelings, everyone will have an exploration period, which can be understood and tried in many ways, because only by studying and practicing in many ways can we sum up our feelings and experiences in the process and finally find our desired goals. Once we have a target, we can naturally concentrate on developing in one direction.
Put it on the child. He likes this one moment and that one moment. Isn't this a process of understanding and trying? Before he 12 years old, you should allow and even encourage him, because in this period, no matter what he learns, as long as he learns, he will increase his knowledge, ability and experience, which is better than nothing.
As for the "three-minute fever" problem, it is better to solve it yourself. Put yourself in others' shoes. There is a dish on the menu that looks delicious. You ordered it, but when you eat it, you find it doesn't suit your appetite, not your favorite feeling. I won't order again next time.
However, if you don't give up for the first time, will your curiosity still exist? Yes, this curiosity is "heat". Only when you satisfy your curiosity can you know how long this fever will last. If you like it, you will keep it. If you don't like it, you're no longer interested.
The so-called "three-minute fever" is just a process of screening children's interests. Parents should actually encourage their children to try as much as possible so that they can find their goals better.
If there are enough attempts to enrich their knowledge and feelings before the child 12 years old, then after the child 12 years old, he will easily judge things based on the development of time and energy and his own wisdom. As he knows more about life, he will slowly start thinking about his future. At this time, you will find that the goals and objectives of children's work are gradually clear, and the phenomenon of "three-minute fever" will become less and less.
At the end of sharing, I want to tell parents that life is a process of constantly exploring new things, constantly summing up experience and internalizing it into wisdom. From ignorance to having their own opinions, children must explore and understand many things in order to produce their own cognition. What parents can do in this process is to allow, encourage, accompany and guide.
Three minutes of heat is not terrible. What is terrible is that you have no curiosity about anything for one minute. Because it takes three minutes to be possible, and many minutes later.