The marriage of Sun Nan, a famous young singer known as the first king of Chinese mainland, and Pan Wei, a famous popular host of the travel channel, is one of the most sensational news in the entertainment circle in 2009. Sun Nan has been married to the famous actor Hongmei Mai for 8 years, and has a son and a daughter. He is regarded as a model of loving couples. After Sun Nan and Pan Wei got together, it was widely rumored that Pan Wei was a third party. At that time, rumors about the two were endless, and the smoke around the newlyweds was far more than blessings. ...

In fact, the relationship between Sun Nan and Hongmei Mai has come to an end, and they divorced at the end of 2008. Sun Nan married Pan Wei as a single man, but for the sake of children and career, they have been forced by external pressure to hide their marriage, while Sun Nan and his ex-wife Hongmei Mai are still high-profile in the name of loving couples ... Now things have changed, all the troubles have calmed down, and Pan Wei, who was once at the forefront, has finally started sailing again in life and career. Sun Nan once sang the song "Olympic Star" written by the famous poet Zhang Junyi, and Zhang Junyi witnessed Sun Nan's sincerity and responsibility in this difficult remarriage journey. This magazine invited Zhang Junyi to write an article about the misunderstood marriage between Sun Nan and Pan Wei, and recorded the hidden pain of this little-known love from the most authentic and appropriate perspective.

● Bravely remarry and taste the "third chocolate" of love.

At the end of 2007, the marriage between Sun Nan and Hongmei Mai was no longer sweet. Sun Nan is a very energetic person. Because she has been performing and participating in various outdoor activities for a long time, she doesn't care much about her family, while her wife Hongmei Mai completely gave up her career and became a housewife. The common language of the two people is getting less and less, the psychological gap is getting bigger and bigger, and the differences are getting bigger and bigger, which has reached the edge of breaking up. But at this time, their daughter is only 6 years old and their son is only half a year old. Besides, both of them are celebrities. In order to balance career and family, the couple can only make ends meet.

Sun Nan joined the Beijing Star Golf Club, hoping to vent his depression through exercise. But White Ball seems to bully Sun Nan. No matter how he holds and swings according to the coach's instructions, he just hesitates not to jump into the target hole. Sun Nan was full head big sweat. Depressed, he noticed a tall and beautiful woman. There are several shots, all taken in a hole 200 meters away. Sun Nan was stunned by her graceful posture and neat movements.

"I'm new here, can you teach me?" Sun Nan took the initiative to chat with her. The other party readily promised: "OK."

The lady's name is Pan Wei, and she is a well-known golf presenter on the travel channel. She has successfully hosted the British Open, the US Open and the American Masters. Knowing that she is full of youthful vitality, she is actually 38 years old. Sun Nan was surprised when she was the same age as herself. To his surprise, Pan Wei also admitted that she had two failed marriages.

Pan Wei, born in Fuyang, Anhui Province, used to be an announcer in the local TV station. She married an art teacher at the age of 20 and gave birth to a daughter at the age of 23. Despite his happy life, Pan Wei, who is full of enterprise, left Fuyang and worked as a host in Zhuhai TV Station and Anhui TV Station. The husband couldn't stand living apart and filed for divorce, and his daughter was raised by Pan Wei. After the divorce, Pan Wei jumped to the newly established travel channel and became the first host. Later, she remarried with a Chinese American. However, because both husband and wife are career maniacs, the warm love nest should be like an empty hotel, and soon she divorced again.

"If the feeling is gone, let the other person live." Pan Wei summed up her marriage in a relaxed tone.

Sun Nan was surprised and blurted out, "Do you still believe in love?"

"Of course." Pan Wei said with a smile: "My mother said in Forrest Gump that life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you are going to get. Why deny this whole box because the first few pieces taste wrong? " Then she changed the subject: "Do you know why I like golf? Because each pen is different from the next one, full of unknowns and various possibilities ... "

Pan Wei's words are like a bright light, illuminating the silent world of Sun Nan. Especially when he learned that 15-year-old daughter Hu was lively and cheerful, with excellent academic performance, and could not see the shadow of any single-parent family children, he suddenly became enlightened and decided to face up to his flawed feelings.

Hongmei Mai also found marriage difficult to save. In order to be truly independent after divorce, in March 2008, she returned to Southeast Satellite TV to host the entertainment program Happy 100.

During this period, Sun Nan and Pan Wei became friends who talked about everything because of their common hobbies. With the deepening of understanding, he felt more and more that Pan Wei was different. She not only plays golf with one hand, but also is good at skiing. She is as proud and uninhibited as a wild horse in the sports field. Quiet, she loves to read classical books, and there are always "Cihua on Earth" or "Nalan Ci" in her bag. She also cooks well, ranging from ordinary Chinese food to western-style baking. She prefers interior decoration. Not only her own house, but also many friends' houses were designed by her, and several of them were published in fashion home magazines.

One day in April 2008, Pan Wei invited Sun Nan and other friends to her home for a party. In that uniquely decorated apartment, when Pan Wei, like a magician, brought out plates of bread and cakes baked by himself, then put on a halter dress and gracefully invited Sun Nan to dance in the music, Sun Nan suddenly felt in a trance. He hoped that the dance music would continue. ...

At this delicate moment, in May 2008, the Wenchuan earthquake broke out. In addition to personal donations, Sun Nan also recorded the theme song "Life and Death" designated by the China Red Cross as quickly as possible. "Life and death are inseparable/where does your dream fall/thinking about life going on/the sky has lost its beauty/but you are waiting for your dream to stand up tomorrow ..." After recording this song, he sent a short message to Pan Wei with tears in his eyes: "Life is so fragile, so hasty and so unpredictable, and only love is its only way out and redemption." Pan Wei didn't answer, but his heart trembled in the song. She also likes Sun Nan, who is as simple and lovely as a big boy, but after all, he is so famous that even if the divorce has nothing to do with him, public opinion will inevitably make irresponsible remarks. What kind of pressure will she face then?

Pan Wei, who is free and easy, dare to say and do, became timid for the first time. When they met again on the court, they were still talking and laughing as usual, but their hearts were different.

In the second half of 2008, Hongmei Mai made a successful comeback. Sun Nan officially went through the divorce formalities with her. In order to show her guilt for Hongmei Mai, Sun Nan occupied most of the property, and her daughter followed her, and her son was raised by Sun Nan.

After returning to single, Sun Nan no longer hides his love for Pan Wei. From June, 5438 to February, 2008, Pan Wei won the 100 championship in the annual golf all-star finals held in Dali, Yunnan, and Sun Nan was present as the awarding guest. Sun Nan was asked what he thought of the champion. He didn't comment on the ball skills, but just smiled and said, "She is like the afternoon sunshine-warm, warm and not harsh. I haven't felt this way for a long time. " Sun Nan's meaningful words caused an uproar around him. Pan Wei avoided his eyes, and his heart fluctuated again.

That is, after this competition, Sun Nan bought a villa in Dali Canghai Golf Club. Later, he sent the key to Pan Wei as far away as Beijing by express mail, and the postscript was short and clear: "Would you like to try the third chocolate?"

The warm past roared by. People who have hesitated have become brave. What reason does she have to back down? Pan Wei smiled with tears in his eyes. After thinking for a long time, she gently pressed a line on her mobile phone: "If the season comes, let the flowers bloom; If a flower blooms, let it bear fruit. "

Sun Nan told his family about his love affair with Pan Wei. Parents are afraid that their son will find a "beautiful but useless" daughter-in-law after divorce. When it was learned that Pan Wei and his son were similar in age and had a successful career, the hearts of the two old people were relieved by more than half.

In May, 2009, Sun Nan and Pan went to Anhui to visit a family and registered their marriage with the Civil Affairs Bureau.

● Marriage is hard to see the light of day. How hard is it to love without blessing?

On the Dragon Boat Festival in 2009, the couple hosted wine for Pan Wei's relatives and friends in a hotel in Fuyang. When Sun Nan, dressed in a black suit and wearing a "groom" red flower on his chest, appeared in the hotel, the hotel staff couldn't believe their eyes. It was not until the person in charge told them not to take pictures and the security guards patrolled around to see if there were any suspicious people that they were convinced that this was really the wedding banquet of the famous king of songs.

After marriage, every time he went in and out of Pan Wei's love nest, Sun Nan was cautious, just like a thief. His Hummer always stopped in the most inconspicuous corner of the community. When Pan Wei socializes outside, he is always nervous for fear of inadvertently bringing out the word "Sun Nan". The couple never dared to go shopping and travel together. ...

Nevertheless, the sensitive media still caught the clue. Soon, the news about Sun Nan's remarriage was overwhelming and spread all over the Internet, TV and newspapers. ...

One day, Sun Nan visited his daughter Mai Baoyao at his ex-wife's house. Baoyao pointed to a dead little goldfish in the glass jar and said, "Dad, do you know why it died?" Before Sun Nan could answer, he replied, "Because it is too small, it has no father to take care of, and I have no father." Sun Nan was stunned. He hugged his daughter tightly and said, "Don't talk nonsense. How can you have no father? Dad will always be by your side and love you forever. "

In order to appease the fragile daughter, Sun Nan and Hongmei Mai decided to publicly "refute rumors" after discussion. On June 30th, Hongmei Mai took the initiative to call Netease Entertainment and said, "I have always had a good relationship with Sun Nan. We are not divorced. " And uploaded intimate sketches and a large number of photos recorded with Sun Nan in the past on his blog. On July 20th, Sun Nan held a public concert in his hometown of Dalian. He specially invited his daughter to the stage and sang the song "Little Happiness" from his new album.

The warm affection won a flood of applause and made Xiao Baoyao laugh happily. Pan Wei is in unprecedented chaos. Many relatives of Fuyang called Pan Wei and asked, "Why do people say that Sun Nan is not divorced? Did he marry you? " What Pan Wei didn't expect was that from one day on, the media began to chase her. Every day, when she goes out, there are flashing eyes and cameras everywhere. The whole TV station is also in trouble, and the phone of "breaking news" keeps ringing all day ... In mid-July, she had to ask for leave and bid farewell to her beloved screen temporarily.

Without the support of his career, he dared not go out, which made Pan Wei, who was used to being unconstrained, very depressed. But even so, her life still failed to calm down. When Sun Nan traveled to Dalian, he forgot to close the curtains one night. In the middle of the night, she got up to cook noodles. When she looked up, she saw a man's head shaking outside the window. She screamed and trembled with fear, and even dared not call the police. Only after the police arrived did they know that it was a daring reporter who climbed outdoors along the water pipe to take candid photos.

"Life can't go on like this." Pan Wei thought anxiously. Turning on the TV, she saw Sun Nan being interviewed. The reporter asked Sun Nan, "Are you really divorced?" Sun Nan was vague: "This is not important. I will tell you clearly in 20 years. "

Pan Wei's heart suddenly sank to the bottom of the sea. After Sun Nan returned to Beijing, he tentatively proposed to disclose their relationship. Sun Nan was a little worried: "Wait …" Originally, the brokerage company also thought that remarriage was not good for Sun Nan's personal image. In Sun Nan's post bar, a large number of fans think: "Sun Nan can't divorce and remarry, which is just the slander of competitors with ulterior motives." More extreme fans said: "If Sun Nan really remarries, then his image of a good man is purely a scam, and I will jump from the twentieth floor."

When the marriage was in darkness, the media began to publish a lot of reports about Pan Wei. These reports comment on her appearance, dig deep into her past, and beautify her marriage history ... She is described as a calculating woman. She "chased" Sun Nan just because she took a fancy to his money and status, so she did not hesitate to break up his family and let a pair of lovely children lose their father.

The media even claimed that she was "pregnant and forced to get married". At this time, a reporter took a candid photo of Pan Wei wearing a tight dress and holding a belly. I didn't expect rumors to start on the Internet: "The husband who robbed people was retribution, and Pan Wei unfortunately miscarried."

Pan Wei can only bear the humiliation! Looking at the haggard lover, Sun Nan was distressed, but she never made up her mind. "Maybe this relationship is another mistake. I'd better go. " Pan Wei thought of breaking up.

● Bravely admit remarriage, happiness is finding the same person.

At this moment, Sun Nan's sister Sun Yizhe stood out. In an interview with Dalian Evening News on July 27th, she denounced the false report: "The Pan Wei I know is a gentle, modest and reasonable person, and he is also very low-key. Friends around me like her very much. " Sun also bluntly said: "As for my brother Sun Nan's married life, I think he has his choice, which is the basic right given to every citizen by the Marriage Law."

Sun's words are tantamount to admitting Sun Nan's remarriage. Strangely, after that, there was much less gossip. This also made Sun Nan realize that it is better to face it frankly than to avoid it blindly. Hidden marriage may really be unnecessary. At the beginning of August, he dropped his work and flew to Hainan Villa for a holiday with Pan Wei. Away from the hustle and bustle of the world, chasing the magical little white ball in the bright sunshine, the couple resumed their original warmth and harmony. Subsequently, Pan Wei announced that he would return to work and start recording golf programs again.

At this time, the entertainment circle exposed explosive news: At the end of August, Andy Lau's father-in-law died, thus detonating his secret marriage with Zhu Liqian. Many fans called him a liar. The popularity plummeted, the image was damaged, and the cause was seriously dragged down. "Hidden marriage is hidden for a while, but it can't be hidden for a lifetime. Once passively exposed, the impact is even worse. " At the same time, Sun Nan made up his mind: "Officially open marriage, so as not to harm others and harm himself."

But Sun Nan is still worried that her daughter will find it hard to accept. In early September, Poon Wai Yuen went to Hongkong to host the competition. Before leaving, she specially made a bunch of delicious food and put it in the refrigerator. Sun Nan invited his parents, brothers and sisters in his hometown, and Xiao Baoyao, and the whole family got together, which was as lively as Chinese New Year. Just as Sun Nan was wondering how to talk to her daughter, Xiao Baoyao suddenly pointed to a cake on the coffee table and said, "It's delicious. What brand is this? " That cake is made by Pan Wei! The atmosphere suddenly became tense. Sun Nan said to her daughter carefully, "This is not bought in a store, but made by an aunt, that aunt …" "Is it your new wife?" Yao interrupted his father and asked casually. The whole family stood there unexpectedly, and Sun Nan nodded quickly. Xiao Baoyao was noncommittal, grabbed a piece of cake and rushed to the balcony, happily continuing to study potted plants he had never seen before.

It turns out that children resist their parents' divorce because they are afraid of losing their family ties. Once they find that their parents love them as always, they are no longer sad.

Sun Nan heaved a sigh. After Pan Wei returned to Beijing, he struck while the iron was hot and sent snacks and clothes to Xiaobaoyao from time to time. On weekends, she also specially took Xiao Baoyao, Hu and Sun Nan to visit Hong Kong Disneyland. A family of four shuttled between those lifelike Mickey Mouse and Dumbo, and the two children were happy from ear to ear. When riding a roller coaster, Pan Wei specially sat with Xiao Baoyao, and Sun Nan took Qingqing. When the flying car suddenly stopped on the rugged mountain road and then went backwards at the speed of jet, Xiao Baoyao screamed and hid in Pan Wei's arms, and Qingqing also held Sun Nan's hand tightly. ...

At the end of September, 2009, Sun Nan attended the 5th International Beer Festival in Kunshan. After recording the program, Pan Wei went home and suddenly received a text message from her husband: "Watch entertainment news online." With some doubts, Pan Wei turned on the computer, and a headline came into view: Sun Nan admitted remarriage for the first time. In the news, Sun Nan said humorously, "Thank you so many people for paying attention to us and making headlines every day."

Underground marriage will see the light of day! Pan Wei's eyes were full of tears. Instead of keeping secrets from the media, she told reporters frankly: "I am very happy now. Happiness is when the same person finds the same person. " She also told the whole story of her first two marriages: "I have experienced many setbacks, but every time, I believe in love more."

The frankness of the couple not only gave those unfounded speculations and fabrications a hiding place, but also won a lot of applause. Some people think: "Parents are role models for children. Instead of teaching them to struggle in a cold marriage, it is better to teach them to be brave in happiness. " Others think: "They can walk today in gossip and wind sword, which is enough to show that this relationship is true and reliable."

Hongmei Mai also blessed Sun Nan in his blog: "Brother Nan, you should be happy." At this time, Hongmei Mai has come out of her marriage, with a full work schedule and a glorious life.

The happy marriage has also pushed Sun Nan and his wife's acting career to a new peak. At the end of 2009 10, Sun Nan joined Emperor Entertainment as a superstar. The emperor promised to release three records for him within three years after signing the contract. He will also take part in the filming of a new film High School Musical (Asian version), which will be shot in Shanghai. Pan Wei, who used to get paid only, now her appearance fee has soared by more than 654.38 million yuan.

But for them, money is obviously not important. The important thing is that they can finally sing along with the woman in a justified way. On June 5438+065438+ 10, 2009, both husband and wife participated in the "Wenzhou Chamber of Commerce Cup" Nanjing Charity Golf Celebrity Invitational Tournament. Pan Wei is wearing a pink coat, and Sun Nan is wearing a yellow combat uniform. They smiled brightly and matched each other well. 20 10 in mid-February, friends celebrated Sun Nan's upcoming 4 1 birthday. Pan Wei came to the hotel early, ordered the menu, arranged the box, and fulfilled the duties of the hostess. When Sun Nan helped her mother out of the car, she hurried forward and took her mother-in-law's other arm affectionately. This is an ordinary little gesture, but Pan Wei has a different feeling in his heart-how happy he is to appear side by side with his lover in broad daylight.

Of course, for Pan Wei, the happiest thing is that the couple flew to Melbourne, Australia to play golf with their good brother and actor Yu Xia. Lying on his back on the endless green lawn, the sky is so blue, the wind is so soft and the sun is so warm. She suddenly wants to eat a piece of chocolate, which can be put in her mouth and tasted slowly. It must be very sweet, very sweet. ...