However, what is the emotional intelligence of this celebrity and elite in the late Han Dynasty? Let's first understand what EQ is.
Emotional intelligence is a new concept introduced from the West in recent years, and gradually accepted by China people. Simply put, if IQ represents a person's intelligence, then EQ represents a person's ability to deal with interpersonal relationships, and its core indicator is self-control. Yang Xiu faced a scheming and vicious Cao Cao. How to deal with the relationship with the boss Cao Cao is his top priority. How is his self-control against Cao Cao?
"Live" crossword puzzle activities. Cao Cao once built a garden. When it was finished, he went to check it himself. Without praise or criticism, he wrote "live" on the door and left, playing charades. The craftsmen were puzzled. They don't know what medicine is sold in the gourd of the Prime Minister. Just when they were in a dilemma, Yang Xiu solved the mystery: the word "live" was added to the door, which was a "wide" ear. The Prime Minister thinks the door is too small. Everyone suddenly realized that Cao Cao was really satisfied. But when Cao Cao learned that Yang Xiu had guessed the riddle, he was very unhappy. Theoretically, Yang Xiu pointed out the intention of the Prime Minister, and Cao Cao was very happy. Why not? In my opinion, Cao Cao's charades are nothing more than to show his intelligence and leadership depth. The craftsman can't guess, so he must come for advice. At this time, Cao Cao will be happy to tell the answer. Unexpectedly, this "limelight" was robbed by Yang Xiu. How can he be happy!
Eating a "box of cakes" incident. After he received a box of cakes from Cao Cao outside the Great Wall, he personally wrote the word "one cake" and put it on his desk. Seeing this, Yang Xiu made his own decision, shared it with his colleagues, and even cleverly explained that the book on the box said "Everyone is crisp", and he dared to disobey the orders of the Prime Minister? Although Cao Cao laughed it off, he was extremely disgusted. Eating a box of cakes is a trivial matter, ignoring the leadership is a major matter, and showing off cleverness is even more annoying. I think the relationship between Cao Yang has undergone subtle changes.
Expose the "dream killing" incident. Cao Cao was treacherous and suspicious, afraid of being assassinated, so he called himself a murderer in his dream. Sure enough, one night, Cao Cao's quilt fell off and when the guards covered it, he jumped up, killed the guards and fell asleep. After dawn, I pretended not to know, buried the guard and cried. It is said that this is Cao Cao's conspiracy and personal privacy, and he is most afraid of being seen through. However, Yang Xiu, who was extremely unwise, exposed his boss's tricks in public, saying that "the Prime Minister is not in a dream, but you are in a dream", exposing Cao Cao's hypocritical and cruel side to the public, making the leaders lose face and reputation! No wonder Cao Cao hates his guts, and it is inevitable that there will be cracks in their relationship.
"Inform Cao Pi" incident. Cao Cao is very upset about his successor. He hesitated about whether to have his eldest son Cao Pi or his third son Cao Zhi. Cao Xiu's talent, they have a close relationship. Cao Pimi asked Wu Zhi, an Acura singer, to help him make suggestions and compete for the position of Prince. In order to hide people's eyes and ears, Wu Zhi was put in a big bamboo basket and put into the mansion in the name of silk. Hearing the news, Yang Xiu rashly reported to Cao Cao. Who knows that Wu is superior in quality and technology? According to the old method, he continued to put the silk slices in a big bamboo basket and then put them in the basket.
"Teaching plants to kill door officials" incident. Cao Cao wanted to test his two sons' abilities, so he ordered them out of the city gate and secretly told the gatekeeper not to let them go. Xelloss arrived first, but was stopped and returned. According to the teaching method, Cao Zhi killed the door minister and said, "I am ordered by the king. Who dares to stop me?" Cao Cao was happy to see Cao Zhi's bravery, but when he learned that Yang Xiu had taught him, he was very angry and didn't even like Cao Zhi. Yang Xiu surpassed his elders, sabotaged his boss's exam plan, and disrupted audio and video. Cao can't tolerate his distinction between public and private, and the relationship between superiors and subordinates is already very tense.
"Teach for Species" incident. Cao Cao once asked Cao Zhi about the top ten military events in the Song Dynasty, and he answered like a stream. Cao Cao is very skeptical. Upon inquiry, he was taught by Yang Xiujiao. Although we admire Yang Xiu's extraordinary talent, we can't help worrying about it. He has been deeply involved in the family dispute led by him, and a catastrophe is coming. By this time, Cao Cao had committed suicide, but there was no reasonable excuse. Finally, Yang Xiu was publicly executed for violating military discipline.
Cao Cao led hundreds of thousands of troops to attack Shu. As a result, Liu Bei and Zhuge Liang were defeated and had to retreat to the Hanshui River to camp, but Zhang Fei took away the food and grass. What's next?
If you attack it, I'm afraid you will lose it. Withdraw your troops. You can't tell me if you go back so depressed after a long trip. One night, Cao Cao just sat in the camp and thought about it. At this moment, the chef brought in a bowl of chicken soup. Cao Cao picked up a piece of chicken with chopsticks, but only caught a chicken rib. Take this bone. He's very thoughtful. It happened that General Xiahou came to ask for an audience: "Master, how about the password in the camp tonight?"
"Chicken ribs" Cao Cao seems to be talking to himself.
Yang Xiu said, "Chicken ribs are tasteless, but it is a pity to abandon them. This shows that Cao Cao compared Shu to chicken ribs, and his heart has long since given up. "
When Cao Cao was drinking chicken soup here, he heard the soldiers outside shouting, "Hurry up, we are finally going to retreat." "Well, it's really hard to send troops this time. It is better to go home early. " "Yes, it was really careless."
"You. What are you doing? Who ordered you to pack? Do you want to be a deserter? " Cao Cao rushed out to chase, and they said they would tell the truth.
Yang Xiu again! Cao Cao was so angry that he almost vomited blood: "Yang Xiu! You are making up lies to confuse the army! Alas, people's hearts are scattered, and the team is not easy to bring. " When Cao Cao recalls what Yang Xiu did, he always knows everything. Especially this time, his leak distracted people's attention and caused extremely bad influence. Fighting is not a brain trick. Cao Cao said bitterly, "according to military law, chop!" " "
Yang Xiu died in AD 2 19 at the age of 45.
Yang Xiu was a librarian when he was alive. Book is the official name of China in ancient times, belonging to civil servants. This official position probably began in the Han Dynasty, and was responsible for keeping account books and seals of documents, that is, drafting some documents, managing files, seals of various rights and so on. Roughly equivalent to a modern secretarial position. Both the central government and the county government offices appoint this official to collect documents and handle affairs. The status of princess book is second only to that of Gongsun Cao, and it is the first of recent ministers. After the Wei and Jin Dynasties, in the ministers' shogunate, the main book was an important subordinate, participated in confidential affairs and was always in charge of government affairs. During the Three Kingdoms period, Yang Xiu of Wei held this post, which can be found in Cao Cao's allusion to "chicken ribs" in Liu Bei's poems about Xishu. After the Tang Dynasty, the government offices, counties and counties still held this post, and their power gradually became lighter. There were also famous books or classic books in Ming and Qing Dynasties. Foreign officials, located under the magistrate of a county, are auxiliary officials with Xiancheng, and sometimes merge with other provinces. Today, the master book at that time is equivalent to the post of secretary now. Frankly speaking, from the perspective of secretarial science, Yang Xiu knows nothing about the nature of secretarial work. Clever as he is, he doesn't have the qualities to be a leading secretary.
Looking at Yang Xiu's performance in handling the relationship with Cao Cao, all of them highlight his poor self-control: arrogance, cleverness, hubris, revealing the privacy of leaders, sentimentality, carelessness, interfering in the family affairs of superiors, undermining the discipline of examinations, etc. To say the least, even if Yang Xiu lives in the contemporary era and meets a boss who is not as sinister as Cao Cao, I am afraid he will eventually pack up and leave, so he draws the following conclusion: Yang Xiu died of low emotional intelligence.
Of course, Cao Cao's killing of Yang Xiu has another meaning. He didn't want Cao Zhi and Xelloss to kill each other and lose both sides!