In fact, men are the bridge between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and also the problem of dealing with the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. After all, men are the bond between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law depends on what men do.
My name is Xiaoling, and I'm a girl from Sichuan. I am quite open-minded and direct, but my husband's personality is completely opposite to mine. My husband is a very smooth person. He doesn't have a definite view, and he is always unconfident and a little timid when he speaks. Fortunately, he is honest and kind in nature, which is very important for me. That's why I married him.
My personality and my husband's personality are both neutral, but sometimes there are some shortcomings. Sometimes my husband's behavior is annoying and he always makes up his mind. Before I married him, I was actually struggling, but I knew I liked him very much. He is very kind, and it is ok to live with him.
In fact, my family and my husband's family are not very rich. My mother's house is in the mountains. Although the air is good and the scenery is beautiful, it is a poor mountainous area with slow economic development. Now it depends on the development of state subsidy policy. My parents are very hardworking. Locally, our home is better.
The city where my husband lives is developing well. With the development of third-tier cities, every family is doing their own business. My family used to have a good financial situation, but since my father-in-law died of illness, my husband's family almost used up their financial situation at that time, and even owed a lot of foreign debts, and I paid off the debts as soon as I entered the door.
I love him very much, no matter how far away his home is, I decided to marry him. I'm not afraid to live in poverty. I believe this life will be better. I have always believed that I chose the right person. My husband is hardworking and smart, and they do business together. Now life is getting better and better.
Now we have bought our own house in the town, driven a car and earned a considerable monthly income, which is the result of our husband and wife's efforts day and night.
In fact, an incident that happened three years ago almost ruined such a happy family. It was a very important turning point for my husband and wife, and we almost parted ways because of it.
Three years ago, I just married my husband's family. At that time, we couldn't afford a house at all, so we always lived with my mother-in-law. Soon, I got pregnant. This is a great event for this family. My mother-in-law is very happy, and my husband is happier. He cried with excitement.
But it didn't last long. When I was pregnant for three months, my husband worked in a company, and the company wanted him to be transferred. Actually, this is what my husband wants to go. He said to me, "Wife, the salary for transferring jobs is twice my current salary. I have to save more money so that I can give you and your baby a good life. "
What my husband said moved me very much. He also promised to come back to see me once a week as much as possible. Although I really wanted him to stay with me at that time, I finally agreed.
My husband took care of me. Although her mother-in-law is young, she may be alone all the year round. Her personality is withdrawn and eccentric, and she is not particularly close to me. And my mother-in-law has always said that she is in poor health and can take care of herself. She can't take care of people. So after my husband was transferred, our mother-in-law and daughter-in-law got along for a long time and there were many problems.
Mother-in-law says every day that she is ill and can't take care of people and see them. I can't find her at the top of my lungs, but she will appear again every time I eat. Fortunately, I didn't encounter any emergency when I was pregnant, otherwise it might be unimaginable. I survived the hardest time of pregnancy on my own, and the second trimester was relatively stable. I can take care of myself without bothering my mother-in-law, so I don't feel anything.
But just when I went home to have my confinement, my pain began.
Every month, my husband sends money home. When I was pregnant and gave birth, my husband always gave me more money, but what made me unhappy was that at first my husband's money was directly credited to my card. Later, my mother-in-law found out and her face was old. She kept calling her son and crying. I have been talking about how hard I take care of my eldest son. When I marry my daughter-in-law, I forget my mother, which makes my husband have no choice but to give this money to my mother-in-law. I was actually very unhappy, but later I thought that my husband would be embarrassed, so I put up with it.
My mother-in-law takes a lot of money from her husband every month, but in the end she only spends a little fur on me. Sometimes the food is just right. She will buy some ribs and stew a pot of soup, or buy some stewed fish.
Actually, I can't stand it either When I was able to get out of bed, I always paid for it myself. I have never been so unkind to myself, but my mother-in-law is still like this when I am confined to the moon. At that time, my mother-in-law said that I would have breakfast with my old sister in the morning, and I wanted to have breakfast. My mother-in-law bought a box of instant noodles directly and cooked a bag for me every morning to make an egg, saying it was nutritious.
I ate instant noodles like this for a week, and finally I couldn't stand it, so I told my husband about it and wanted him to talk about her mother-in-law. My husband is embarrassed. Although he promised me verbally, he never put it into action. Later, because of this, I had a big fight with my mother-in-law and almost got into a fight.
After her husband came back, her mother-in-law immediately shed tears. Under pressure, her husband scolded me in front of her mother-in-law, saying that I didn't respect the elderly, let my elders go, was not filial, and didn't do my duty as a wife.
I am a straightforward person, so I immediately went back and said to my husband, "Did your mother do her mother-in-law duty again? Is there a mother-in-law like her? I went out to eat by myself and let my daughter-in-law eat instant noodles for a week. Is this what a normal mother-in-law would do? "
My mother-in-law cried even louder, and her husband felt caught in the middle: "My mother cooked for you, too. I heard that I didn't give you an egg, and I didn't treat you badly. Shall we stop fooling around? "
Every time I tried to reason, he refused me. The mother-in-law looked at her son to defend her, and she was more emboldened. My mother-in-law gave me a push, which was not heavy, but angered me.
I have nothing against my mother-in-law Instead, I walked up to my husband angrily and slapped him. This slap directly blinded my mother-in-law and her husband. I said, "I slapped you, you must bear it." I have a great contradiction with my mother-in-law, and you, as my husband and my mother-in-law's son, have done nothing well, which will only make me swallow my pride. If I have problems with my mother-in-law, I will call you. It's your duty to do that. Either we divorce now, or I have a hard time and you don't want to get better. "
That was my slap, too. These words made my husband completely awake. He said to his mother-in-law, "Mom, stop fooling around and leave my son alone. It is difficult for our family to marry a daughter-in-law again. Don't make my son a bachelor all his life. "
Husband's words really worked, and her mother-in-law instantly bowed her head and didn't speak again. Although my mother-in-law didn't apologize to me later, she was very close to me and was sincere in being kind to me.
In fact, there is a good saying: "The hate of the moon does not * * * wear the sky." For a woman imprisoned by confinement, the hatred of confinement can be remembered for a lifetime. If the husband makes the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have grievances, it means that the husband has not fulfilled his responsibilities, and the contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often inseparable.
Xiaoling didn't make a scene with her mother-in-law because of the contradiction between her mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law, because she knew it was useless to confront her mother-in-law for a long time, because it would only make everyone lose both sides, but it would be different if a man came forward. It may be because Xiaoling's husband is too weak, so she has to use this trick. She actually wants her husband to maintain stability and balance the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
A man should have a man's attitude towards the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Happiness is not waiting, it is created and grasped by yourself.