"How to take you out? You look older than me 10 years old. "

"Buy a bag? Buy real or fake? False, can't afford to lose that person; Really, you took it out to buy food? Does anyone believe this is true? "

"Can you make the child stop crying? I've been tired all day. Can I have a rest when I go home? "

……

These words were Xia Bin's mantra when communicating with his wife, and he never felt anything wrong.

Whenever his wife argues unfairly with him, he laughs, "It's all true!" "

However, since the end of last year, an epidemic has completely changed his views on himself, his wife, his marriage and his family.

0 1. The home she managed with her heart was taken as a hotel by me.

Xia Bin, an independent entrepreneur, usually works among workers, partners and distributors. His mind and energy are spent outside all the year round. He prefers to get together with friends and businessmen to drink, have fun occasionally, play mahjong, and just eat and sleep after returning home.

Xia Bin and his wife got married on 20 10. Soon after, his wife resigned because her mother-in-law was ill and needed care. Later, after the birth of two children, her wife became a full-time housewife.

"It's really miserable for me to stay at home alone, but my wife enjoys it, because she has been looking forward to the romantic moment with me, the sweet time for a family of four." Xia Bin said frankly.

In order to be happy at home, my wife even made a brand-new life plan.

First, end the separation of husband and wife. (After the birth of the second child, Xia Bin moved out of the master bedroom for fear of noise. The husband and wife have been separated for three years. )

Secondly, let Xia Bin play with the children more, so that his wife can take time out to do a comprehensive household cleaning.

Thirdly, the husband and wife work together to cultivate some good habits of the two children and improve Dabao's math performance.

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At first, the two children were not used to Xia Bin's "staying at home". Later, they got to know each other. Dabao wanted to ride a horse and Bauer wanted to wear a neck. At the end of the day, Xia Bin was so tired and out of breath that his temper naturally improved. Two days later, he showed his true colors.

Once, he helped Dabao with his homework. When the child can't think of an application problem, give the child a slap, let him use his brain and start playing games by himself. At the end of the game, he found that the child did not expect it, and it was another slap. The words "stupid", "stupid" and "not working hard" are stuck in the child like a knife.

Hearing this, his wife naturally had a big fight with him.

After that, the wife sat next to the child and said to the child seriously, "Mom won't either, but mom believes you can do it, and there are many ways to use it, right?"

So the child played back the video of the teacher's class, solved the problem and smiled through tears.

On another occasion, Xia Bin sat on the sofa, chatting with others about the boredom at home and brushing funny videos.

Bauer came over and dragged him to pile up the wood. Naturally, he didn't want to, so he yelled at the child.

But the child still cried and pulled him. Because of fear and injustice, he didn't hold his breath and peed on Xia Bin's feet.

He lifted his foot and kicked the child, who fell to the ground and cried.

The wife came over and reasoned with him with red eyes, picked up the child and comforted her lovingly.

In the evening, both children fell asleep, and the wife expressed her grievances with tears:

"I always hope you can stay at home for a while. After ten years of marriage, two people are either busy or tired, and occasional holidays are also given to the elderly, children, relatives and friends, and even unrelated people. However, you are really at home. I found that you are a maternity. You need to take care of yourself if you stay up for a month, eat and drink Lazar. It's like I gave birth to three children myself and gave birth to a devil who didn't grow up in the world. "

"I don't know when you will go home, just want to eat the best food, say the least, listen to the least nagging, have the greatest self-space and sleep more; And I am always eager for me to communicate with my husband more, my children play with my father more, some people ask about their daily lives, and some people share their daily changes; It can be seen that after ten years, you are more and more like a hotel, and I am trying to maintain a home with temperature. "

With these words, Xia Bin's nose became sour.

02. She is the child's parents, teachers and friends, and I am a symbol.

Being busy with work, Xia Bin is not familiar with his two children.

The two children brought him the pride of "being both a child and a child" and the pride of "being smart", but what he brought to the children may only be the money that the children have no concept and the title of a father.

In the days when she stayed at home, Xia Bin found herself a practitioner of "widowed marriage" and "cheating corpse to raise children".

During the period at home, the reserves of grain, oil, fruits and vegetables at home were insufficient, so my wife bought them online and went out to buy them herself, never letting Xia Bin worry;

Twenty days after the house arrived home, my wife asked the supermarket to send a big bag of flour and put it in the garage. She took it to the fourth floor three times, but Xia Bin, who weighed160kg, didn't do it.

Children's homework, wife punching in; Children's habits, wife's cultivation; Children's play, wife's participation ...

On the bedside table, there is a picture book that must be read every day;

Sticking to the desk is a log sheet that children are used to;

On the refrigerator, there are various nutritional recipes;

Even on the vanity mirror, there are precautions and operating steps for a good mother;

There are all kinds of parenting books on the bookshelf, which can be opened, sketched, noted, reflected and understood.

At that moment, Xia Bin really felt a lot.

What made him even more ashamed was that once Dabao drew a picture for his wife, who cried excitedly.

Xia Bin looked at it carefully and found that it was very common. There are four people on the screen, which is a family of four at first glance.

But his wife said that since the child was five years old, he broke his word, didn't take Dabao to the amusement park, and didn't beat the child. The child has always refused to draw his father on the painting, only drawing three people at a time, and occasionally drawing a devil or a black man. Now he finally drew his father.

Hearing this, Xia Bin felt sour and immediately remedied: "The baby is really well painted, which is the pride of dad."

Who knows that Dabao looks disdainful: "It is not sincere when you listen."

The wife explained: "Encourage children to be serious and specific, so that children can feel it."

Later, the wife demonstrated: "Mom thinks the baby is well painted and colorful. She painted her mother beautifully, her sister cute, her father cool, and most importantly, this painting is very loving. Mom should put it away, okay? "

Later, his wife educated Xia Bin: "To be a qualified parent, it is never that you have a child, but that you have studied, practiced and grown up.

03. Her heart will never leave, but I always want to escape.

"The biggest difference between my wife and me is that her heart is rooted at home, and my heart is always far away." Xia Bin said frankly.

During her stay at home, Xia Bin's mother-in-law felt unwell and asked her wife to take care of her for a few days.

When packing, his wife told Xia Bin some precautions and wrote some post-it notes to stick on the bedside, bathroom, refrigerator and kitchen.

"You don't just take care of the children? What else did you do? What bothers you? " This is what Xia Bin used to say to his wife. This time, he was lucky to find the answer by himself.

At six o'clock in the morning, I was awakened by the child on time. Dabao shouted that he was thirsty and hungry, and Bauer peed first and then pulled; Dabao wants to eat rice, and Bauer must have egg soup; Xia Bin went to the toilet and was knocked on the door three times by the child; Cooking a dish in the kitchen, the living room is already a mess; For a while, Dabao climbed The Upper Terrace, for a while, Bauer put the toy in his mouth, and from time to time there would be a brother-sister war. I haven't been idle all day.

Besides dealing with children and basic meals a day, Xia Bin must also reply to his wife's series of messages, WeChat and phone calls to report her safety.

When he asked his wife how to straighten out her messy daily life, she sent him the alarm clock in her mobile phone.

"This is really shocking. My wife ordered a 24-hour alarm clock for 16. From 6 am to evening 1 1, I send my children to school, help them with their homework, buy daily necessities, clean, disinfect toys, cultivate interest, read picture books, and study by myself in the morning ... I really don't know that this woman, who I regard as nothing but a nanny, is so busy. Xia Bin regretted it.

Xia Bin admits that even if he works day and night, he can't finish everything listed on his wife's alarm clock.

I thought my wife would go for a week, but she came back two days later and said that her mother had recovered and she was really worried about her family.

Pushing through the door, I saw a messy room, two hungry and dirty babies and a husband with thick black eyes.

"Before that, I always thought that after the epidemic was over, I would be eager to eat and drink with my friends for several days, get drunk several times and play mahjong to relax ..." Xia Bin said bluntly.

She has always been the pillar of the family, not me.

"Once, I always thought that this family was rock solid because of my efforts and contributions. Through this epidemic, I realized that she is the pillar of the family. " Xia Bin said.

After staying at home for a month, there is no sign of returning to work. Xia Bin's enterprise loans have to be repaid, workers are drained, products are unsalable, and production is hopeless ... These difficulties have dealt a great blow to small enterprises.

From Xia Bin's phone call, his wife realized the crisis.

She comforted Xia Bin that she had saved some money in recent years by scrimping and saving, and borrowed some from her parents, so that Xia Bin could give him an explanation and turn the money around.

"What if the company is yellow?" Xia Bin asked.

"Then come again!" The wife replied.

"What if you don't make money for a long time?" Xia Bin asked.

"After the second child is sent to kindergarten, I can make money. I can do anything for the new moon, early education and preschool education, and I have also learned a lot of professional knowledge. " The wife replied.

"Can you stand so much suffering?" Xia Bin asked.

"Children are happy, the elderly are healthy, and husband and wife are harmonious. What is pain? " The wife replied.

These three questions and three answers broke Xia Bin's heart. It also made him understand how he should fulfill his responsibilities as a husband, father and son in the future.

Write at the end:

Marriage is not a one-man show, but a double spring of two people, which will be based on cooperation and tacit understanding;

Husband and wife are not short-lived one-act dramas, but long-lasting series that need long-term love and companionship;

Home is not a temporary place where you can come and go freely, but a warm and affectionate residence, which is touching.

A happy marriage requires learning, and good books, reading habits and putting them into action are the simplest and most effective methods.

May the above words encourage my readers.

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