-dissect the mystery of life and destiny

Fate is innocent and easy!

Many people think that fate plays tricks on people!

But I don't know that people are playing tricks on fate!

Fate is innocent and easy, but people ignore it!

Only by grasping the mechanism of fate can there be life!

If you violate your destiny, there will be misfortune!

Everyone is lucky, because there are rules!

Why discuss people's fate?

Because we believe that everyone wants to succeed, but only a few people succeed and most people fail.

Because we see that although everyone wants to be good to themselves, many people are trying to hurt themselves.

Because we sigh that life is short for decades, many people have a feeling when they are close to the end of their lives, but it is too late.

If you don't understand the laws of life, life is meaningless!

If we don't understand the laws of life, we can only sigh that fate is wasted!

If you don't know the rules of life, your personal value can't be realized!

If we don't understand the laws of life, we will become our own enemies!

If you don't understand the rules of life, there will be no future!

Facing the confusion of fate?

What can we do to keep ourselves away from disaster?

What can I do to make myself happy forever?

What can we do to make the fastest progress?

What can I do to have more opportunities?

Fate is simple!

Fate, in fact, is not so mysterious!

You see, some people just help others blindly, never asking for anything in return, but they can return a lot.

A person takes everything as his own business, and the result is that he is proficient in everything and enjoys himself.

A person is always grateful to others, including those who have hurt him, so he has friends wherever he goes!

A person can always find the beauty and fun of life, always smiling and full of energy. Where there is him, there is laughter! But he is neither the biggest official nor the richest man.

Someone said: "In this world, no one needs to envy anyone, everyone has his own troubles!" " "

You think others are better than you, but you don't know others.

How about being an official? There are always people who calculate your power resources, so that you don't know whether it is true or false to be good to you!

Be an ordinary person, okay? The most bitter is the common people! Everything!

Rich, okay? It must be uncomfortable to have no money, but if you have more money, you will feel lost!

First, the turning point of fate

1. A person will have an epiphany when facing death.

A seriously ill patient, counting the days of his life, is very calm:

Struggled for half a lifetime, earned a lot of money, and finally sent to the hospital!

My wife and children don't know who will raise them yet.

Why do many points pay attention to benefits and more to health?

Enlightenment He once faced death.

There was a man who was hospitalized for more than a month because of illness and reflected in his hospital bed every day.

People who come to visit him can't see his usual arrogance, but have a pleasant face.

Before leaving the hospital, I specialized in studying recipes. After leaving the hospital, I went to the kitchen first. My wife wants to know: Are there any new problems in this hospital? He said, "I'm so sorry for all these years!" " "So, my wife is in the hospital!

2. There is such a manager.

He is very capable, so he works hard!

He is a perfectionist and the people who work with him are always criticized.

He doesn't trust anyone. Therefore, many things can only be done by yourself!

He heard someone say behind his back, "The boss is the most unprofessional person. I did a lot, but I didn't do what I should do!

He felt wronged: he helped many people, but no one appreciated him!

He always feels very tired. He can't take care of his family affairs. His family has many complaints. He thinks he is "a mouse in a bellows-both ends suffer indignities"!

He looks down on people who don't work hard, but he is also very pitiful! He has always been very enlightening, and now he doesn't understand his situation.

Inspired, he became a coach.

He is too strict as a manager.

As a father, he is too strict!

Once, when he went to school, he saw the teacher teaching his children: "You are very clever. What do you think will happen? " The children carefully watch the teacher demonstrate and then learn by themselves. He stood aside in surprise.

The child turned around and saw his father, and suddenly his face was full of dementia.

He suddenly realized that management was so simple: he began to teach his subordinates like a coach instead of simply criticizing. He found that everyone was smarter than before!

As a manager, are you harming children? Are you hurting your people?

3. The pain of a gentleman

He is honest, but he is always annoying!

He thinks he is a gentleman, but he will never do anything!

He speaks honestly and frankly, but he always hurts others!

He has a good heart, but he hasn't done much good!

He looks down on villains, but he is always defeated by villains!

The family said, "You are useless!"

Inspired, he said he was a villain.

He once considered himself a gentleman.

However, once an old friend said, "In fact, you are a villain in a gentleman's coat, worse than the average villain!" " "He was unconvinced, so his old friends listed all the bad things he had done.

He was amazed: "I'm not that kind of person!" " "An old friend said," You always say what you like, always in your own way, but never care about other people's feelings. You are happy, and you don't care if others are uncomfortable! "

He understood: "I told myself: I am the worst villain!" " "

4. Depression of a capable person

He has a degree and experience, and many people think he is very capable.

However, he always resists: he always fights with the leader!

Many people in the crowd like him, but the leader just doesn't pay much attention to him.

He always said: "If the enterprise atmosphere is not correct, capable people will not succeed!" " "

His family said, "This man is so stubborn that everything is right and no one else is right."

I'm stupid, just enlighten me!

This is what the very capable man said just now. You may not believe it.

An expert told him: What can you do? But you can't! You know a little technology at best, but you don't! You fight, you think this is your integrity! Do you encourage your subordinates to confront you? You're kidding! Why? Are you dishonest? Exposed! Do you know what meanness is?

5. Confusion of the wise

He always gives people a very shrewd feeling: his eyes are alert, he can seize opportunities and he can talk.

His cleverness can give him many advantages, and he sometimes gloats.

But he has no friends, because everyone thinks he never suffers. With him, you can only suffer

There were several opportunities for promotion, but because the leaders thought he was too calculating, no one recommended him and no one spoke well of him, so they promoted others.

He never understood: I didn't do anything illegal?

Enlightenment is said to be selfless for the first time.

He is very clever and has more brains than the average person. But he just doesn't understand why he can't get development opportunities!

Once, an accidental professor told him: That's because you are a selfless person!

He's confused. He knew it was ironic, but he didn't know why he used the idiom "selfless". To tell the truth, he felt unworthy.

However, the professor told him: you take a little advantage, make others suffer a little, and educate all stupid people-being smart is selling yourself and doing nothing. You see, you didn't get much benefit yourself, but you betrayed yourself and had to educate others. Isn't this selfless?

6. The distress of a state-owned enterprise.

You said, work hard, and for whom? It's not as good as mine.

However, the more you don't work hard, the more bored you are!

Now, I really don't know who it is for. I'm too tired to do it myself. Maybe it's not the material!

Working in a state-owned enterprise is boring! What a loser!

So, he is lazy, but he is getting less and less energetic.

Really confused!

He really wants to leave this enterprise!

Enlightenment punishes state-owned enterprises unexpectedly.

So an experienced friend suggested that this state-owned enterprise is so hateful that you should punish them even if you leave. Thus, a "conspiracy" was born. However, in the end, this man became the chief engineer and vice president after the restructuring of state-owned enterprises three years later. Do you want to know the answer?

It turned out that his friend gave him such a trick: "If you take leaving as an action to punish others, people may expect you to leave. If you master the key technology of this enterprise, it will be a blow to others if you leave, until others can't live without you! " As a result, the person who has been complaining has managed to master the core technology. He studied hard and gradually gained the appreciation of the leaders. By the time he mastered the core technology, he was already the chief engineer and vice president.

It turned out that when he gave up complaining, studied hard and worked hard, his fate began to turn for the better!

People are always looking for meaning. As long as they can't find their own meaning, they will be wronged and derailed.

As long as you are insatiable and don't know the meaning, you will turn a blind eye to what you get.

And those who don't ask the outside world to give them silly and serious work will always benefit the most.

7. A cadre's ambition

A young middle-level cadre really cares about the enterprise: what is the way out for others to do this?

This cadre worked in state-owned enterprises for seven years and in private enterprises for two years, and finally came to a conclusion: there is no way out for people to work!

At the age of 33, he resolutely applied for the MBA. After graduation, he resolutely chose to start his own business.

Now, I finally don't have to work for others: he is happy!

However, the good times did not last long: I used to look at the faces of superiors, but now I start to look at the faces of everyone: subordinates, partners, social organizations and customers; Because I can't take care of my family, so I have to look after my family! I'm still working-working for everyone around me! Hey, this trick hurts!

Enlightenment boss is also a server.

I think being a boss can get rid of the pain of migrant workers.

However, it turns out that the boss is also "part-time"!

Later, I finally understood that no one can bully others with their superior resources, but must serve others. This is the premise of obtaining social services and realizing personal value.

8. I can only mix with it!

I want to do a good job, but no one values me.

I have worked hard, but the unit is really unfair to me. The harder I work, the more boring I am.

The system is not good, the leadership is unclear, and colleagues are fooling around. what can I do? So we're going out to play together!

Nowadays, age is increasing day by day. Is it really worrying?

Fool enlightenment and you will suffer.

An employee can't run in a muddled way, but he can live in a muddled way: he has no mood, no ability and becomes a cripple.

The ancients said, "Don't do it for good, don't do it for evil." .

Isn't it stupid to learn from people who humiliate themselves?

You do things just to get compliments? Why not work for your conscience?

What praise do you want for doing your job well? How can you say that you have finished your work? That's called greed!

If something bad happens, you study and your thoughts are not controlled by the bad guys.

9. A general manager's troubles

In this era, if you can't do it well, you can only say that you are incompetent.

However, I can't do it alone.

I want to recruit people, but you see, how many people are serious and responsible? How many volunteers are there? How many people don't feel wronged?

A few years ago, I trained three, but I left two-going it alone; The remaining one is capable now, but he is disobedient!

Now I really can't find anyone who can do business with me. They only look at the money. Hi! What a move!

Enlightenment general manager: manager

The general manager wants to do something and can't find the right person.

In fact, everyone has strengths and talents, and everyone is a genius; Everyone is a fool because his employment time is short.

General Manager: You must create people before you do anything! Doing things is to promote people: we should have virtue in the future and see virtue in everything.

Of course, the three provinces of Ceng Zi can be used for your reference: Are you cheating for others? Don't believe in making friends? Can you pass it on?

Only those who stress morality and faithfulness will be valued! This is the "principle of justice and benefit"!

10. Both sides lost in the battle.

Fight for office!

Fight for power and profit!

People who fight, after a brief encounter, are uncomfortable with each other!

* * * Things are uncomfortable and often hit the face, which is the punishment for fighting.

What can't we talk about? Junior year is nothing to be ashamed of! People! Always a subordinate!

If what you have done makes you miserable, you must be wrong! If you do something that makes others suffer and you are happy, then you must be sick!

Enlightened struggle sent away.

Bill Gates donated $40 billion to the society. Why not give it to your children? Children are incompetent, what can they do with money? Evil! Children are gifted, why give money? They can make their own money!

What is the official position? Serve people! For your own benefit, a dangerous place!

As long as you want to understand, you can serve others at any time and in any position, not for your own benefit, and you won't suffer!

After all, pain is the fruit of selfishness!

In short, people don't need much in their life, but they need a reasonable structure: some money and richer morality!

Second, the guidance of fate.

1. a gentleman's business book, based on morality. Do what you should do to satisfy others: superiors and subordinates, customers, friends, family members, etc. This is not a credit, this is a responsibility! This is the Tao!

2. Change your destiny and play a practical joke: let yourself commit a crime! This is the secret of success, repentance and reform will bring a new life; Complaining about others is just an excuse for incompetence and failure!

3. Love yourself and benefit others first: Love yourself is a villain; If you are neutral, then you are a layman; Love yourself and benefit others first.

4. Success lies in serving others: in a society with division of labor, only by serving others can we realize our own value and succeed in our career-serving superiors, caring for subordinates, respecting friends, being filial to parents, helping brothers and helping the weak. They are all your clients!

5. Be a great gentleman in life: A little gentleman is a disgruntled woman who only defends herself. A gentleman is considerate of others and has high value in helping others accomplish things; Little people think they are self-righteous, but they sell themselves cheaply. A gentleman with virtue can create value. A gentleman is better than a villain and can influence a villain. There are two kinds of useless people in the world: the first kind-always defeated by villains! But he calls himself a gentleman. The second-since it is difficult for a gentleman, just be a villain.

6. Only responsibility can eliminate pain: man is an animal born to serve others, and if he only does it for himself, he will suffer endlessly; If you want to do your duty for others, turning back is happiness. As long as you are responsible for others, you will lose most of your pain!

7. Dreams generate divine power: where there are dreams, there are goals; If you have a goal, you have a mind; If you have brains, you can avoid things that are right and wrong. This is a blessing!

8. Blessed are the grateful: Who is the most miserable? People who always sympathize with others! Self-charging creditors, no one pays the debt! In fact, everything is fine, just don't know! Accept a drop of water when necessary, and I will repay your kindness with spring water. Gratitude can be exchanged for a lifetime of kindness.

9. Heart of Heaven: What's the history? What about now? Without comparison, how can there be satisfaction and happiness? What about the future? Everyone is the same-temporarily possess, enjoy some, and throw away all others. Why be greedy? Only when you pursue pain!

10. New owner's point of view: Responsible for yourself, right? It's absolutely satisfying to take other people's business as your own, right? It's none of your business. Who cares about you?

1 1. Cultivate the heart of learning and be calm and positive: the world is infinite and people's cognitive ability is limited. Therefore, learning is a lifelong mission! Natural life is coming to an end, and only learning can make life always new. Learning: Everything is a textbook, everyone is a teacher, there are classrooms everywhere, and exams are always there. The future competition is the competition of learning ability!

12. It is wisdom to respect people's hearts and turn enemies into friends: all living people have their own strengths and weaknesses. To be a man, we must look at the strengths of others, so as to get friends and cooperation. To be a man, we must pay more attention to our own shortcomings. Therefore, we can make progress in life and reduce conflicts. Man's rationality is limited, and only by respecting others can he get close to the Tao-man needs to know something everywhere, but most of them don't. Respecting others means that everyone accepts the objective facts of themselves and others.

13. Cultivate optimism, the world changes with you: the color of the world is only the physiological mechanism of human retina. The color of the world lies in people's thinking mode. Devil's character: nothing is good, always criticizing. Angel character: Everything is natural and should be improved. Emotion is not dominated by others, and optimism is no longer presupposed. As long as you want, you can get happiness instantly!

Third, the code of conduct

1. Mastering principles, as long as it is right, is my own business.

2. The principle of gratitude, thanking all the events in our life for bringing us luck.

3. Loyalty principle, loyalty belief, never betraying principle, suffering is also a blessing.

4. the principle of self-blame, everything is wrong because of my mistake.

5. The principle of suffering, all truth and happiness are accompanied by suffering.

6. Service principle, serving others is the mission, and helping others is also helping yourself.

7. The principle of fairness, gains and losses, advances and retreats are all due to my personal behavior.

8. Take the initiative, don't ask, don't rush, don't fight, and don't induce yourself to act.

9. Learning principle, learning can gain the advantages of others and protect yourself.

10. The principle of unity, one should never be self-righteous when doing things by unity.

Fourth, the principle of doing things.

1. The concept of life and death regards what is destined to be done as a matter of life and death.

2. The principle of example, make what you do an example for others' reference.

3. Expert principle, you must become an expert in this field when you finish one thing.

4. Rest assured principle, so that leaders and customers can rest assured instead of being self-righteous.

5. The principle of high-quality goods, making small things into high-quality goods, and knowing the rules in the process of doing it.

6. Active principle, passive acceptance is a task, and active commitment is awareness.

7. Key principles, what leaders require to emphasize is always the most important.

8. moving principle, it is not a matter to do many things, but it is a real thing to move others.

9. the principle of character, it is not a matter to do something, but it is a good thing to show character.

10. the principle of satisfaction, doing one thing may also be a mistake. Only when others are satisfied can they achieve something.

5. Calculate your own destiny

There are not many people in the world who are not interested in their own destiny.

Many people like to find someone else to tell their fortune. Actually, you might as well do the math yourself!

1. Are you likable? If no one likes it, the fate will be miserable.

2. What is your value to others? If the value is small, the fate is also very bad!

3. How many people need their own value to others? If only a few people need it, it is of little value!

4. How many people can offer their value to others? If many people have it, it is of little value.

5. Do you have a goal? Without a goal, you can't achieve it, you can only muddle along.

6. Is your goal outstanding? A mediocre goal, a goal that everyone has, does not constitute the goal value.

7. What do you eat every day? Food structure determines a large part of health. If the food structure is unreasonable, the disease will definitely come to you.

8. What spiritual food do you eat every day? If there is no clear input, this day must be hungry; If there is no effective investment recently, spiritual devaluation must have happened.

9. How often do you find your own problems? It would be very tragic if we only looked for it after it happened.

10. I can't find the problem myself How many people sincerely help you find it? If no one helped in this respect, most of their problems would have been moldy and fermented!

1 1. How much do you know about your future needs? If you don't know the demand and only care about your current output, most products are in stock!

12. What's the difference between yourself and comparable people? If there is no difference in manufacturing value, the competition involved is mostly low-level and expensive!

13. What events are triggered by your own habits? If it is positive, it goes without saying. If it is negative and accumulates, the fate is doomed to be tragic.

14. Do you wait or hesitate when you meet something of strategic value to yourself? Or have come to the conclusion: I can't! Fate is among them!

15. Are you repeating what you said yesterday? This does not refer to specific things, but more to the mode of doing things and thinking. Some people, fate is repeated; Some people create their own destiny. What kind do you belong to?

16. What is the ideal self after ten years? Clear people are expected to achieve! Those who are vague will realize it, but they don't know what it is, and most of them are dissatisfied with themselves.

17. What are you most dissatisfied with? What is the specific adjustment operation plan? What are the indicators for evaluating yourself? It's easy to fool yourself!

18. I know a lot. What do I know? Count them, put them all on the table and look at your home. Maybe you know what's behind!

19. Look around. How many people are different from you as your close friends? If it's all the same, it's simple copying. Only people with low self-esteem will deliberately look for people similar to themselves, while great people are the opposite!

20. What will a good man choose after some blows? Those who are hit, those who hit us or others, may all be hit, but they made a wrong choice after being hit. Only by copying some of your own misery and sorrow can you have a little happiness. Childishness-being beaten-pain-hitting others-pain is reduced-happiness is increased. What a terrible devil chain this is! Kindness is not only a wish, but also a choice in the face of evil. Kindness is only the wish of many people, and true kindness is a choice without regret in the face of evil.

We should combine these points to analyze ourselves, constantly enrich such a work of "calculating our own destiny" with wise thinking, and effectively improve our destiny!