Mongolian wedding etiquette
Bridal gift: the man's parents entrust their trusted relatives to choose a good day to take their son to visit his aunt in China. If the girl and her parents take a fancy to this young man, they will accept Hada and the cake they brought, and the marriage will be settled. Mongolians often use livestock as dowry. Mongolians advocate white odd numbers, so most of them give white odd numbers of horses and sheep as dowry.
Weddings: Weddings in many parts of Mongolia begin at night. The man went to the woman's house to pick up the bride, and the woman stayed at home first. That man must be holding a sheep and screaming at the door? Sheep hit the door? Men who are good at rhetoric have to fight with the woman's house for several rounds before they can enter the woman's house; What's it called? Shane threw up? At the banquet, the bride and groom want to rob? Sheep festival? This? Sheep festival? Is an important symbol of marriage, understand? Sheep festival? The groom is very comfortable.
When the East was about to turn white, the wedding procession and the wedding procession went to the groom's house together. On the way, the two sides who sent the relatives and greeted the bride competed for the red tassel hat on the groom's head and launched a game similar to horse racing. Laughing and laughing all the way. Not far from the groom's house, the farewell procession stopped. The farewell procession went home first and then came to see the groom's parents and relatives for the second time. After the mother-in-law lifted the veil for her daughter-in-law, the bride and groom held a sacred ceremony of offering fire, that is, sprinkling koumiss on the lit fire in the yard and making a toast to parents, hosts and relatives. Everyone will also be excited to sing wedding songs and dance, and perform various interesting wedding programs at the banquet.
Mongolian marriage steps
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The banquet continued with enthusiasm. If the man's house is far away, the wedding reception team will stay at the woman's house for one night. After the party, everyone went out and sat on the prepared white felt, with fried buns, hand-grabbed meat and? Schumer? 、? Chagan? And so on, according to the old and young in turn to the guests. Female family? Hold a guest? The guests were toasted in turn with silver bowls, and the singers sang hymns. Then, bring the bride's mount (usually a beautifully decorated white horse), and someone will recite the horse's eulogy. After the ode, the bride's cousin rode a horse and ran around the yurt. At this point, the bride should leave.
Everyone walked around (a fire, a religious ceremony) for three weeks, and then the people who sent their relatives away rode around the yurt for three weeks and set off for the man's house. The bride walked through the crowd accompanied by two bridesmaids on each side. One of the bridesmaids of the woman is holding the bridle of the bride, and the two bridesmaids of the man are pulling a cover cloth (usually 3 feet wide and 5 to 7 feet long, with wooden poles at both ends embroidered with dragons, phoenixes and auspicious patterns), and the bride follows behind the cover cloth. Both mothers rode horses and walked in front of the cloth. In the bride's farewell procession, there are two tough and clever boys riding fast horses, each with a sheep's front leg. When everyone set out, the bride's grandfather or father was sitting in the room, shaking a wooden pole about a foot long and tied with various (mainly yellow) cloth (satin) strips in his right hand. This kind of religious ceremony, pray for Buddha to bless granddaughter or daughter's safe life and bright future.
Midway welcome ceremony, also called in some places? Lunch? Prepared by the man, the location is generally at the place required by the man and the woman, not in front of the man's house. Spread some white blankets on the lawn, put two or three small square tables on the blankets and put them on the tables. Chagan? 、? Schumer? Fried buns, buttered milk tea, candy, wine. When the wedding banquet and farewell party were far away from the lunch place, the man sent two tough and clever boys to meet them on fast horses. They wanted to eat some fried noodles. When they walked in front of the bride and four bridesmaids, they grabbed some fried noodles and sprinkled them on each other's heads, and then quickly rode back. At the same time, the woman's two boys are also anxious to beat the horse. If they get there before lunch, they'll get a leg of lamb. If the former arrives at the lunch place before the latter and dismounts, the chase is over and the latter can't start work. Playing with leg of lamb is symbolic, not real. It's a game to add excitement to a wedding. When everyone arrived at the lunch place, except the bride and four bridesmaids, they all got off the horse and sat around the felt mat to show their respect. Chagan? 、? Schumer? And wine. Then offer tea, steamed bread and so on. ; For the bride and bridesmaid, these ceremonies are carried out immediately, and after lunch, the journey continues.
Go to the husband's house.
Worship heaven and earth, worship the new house. When the crowd came to a distance of about 100 meters from the bride's house, they sent relatives to shout: You don't want people, we will take them back. Surround the bride in the middle, walk around the groom's house, and shout while turning. The man's house has been simmered, and the welcoming staff (welcoming the woman's important guests with Hada) has been sent to blow the conch. At the same time, the man sent a tough and clever young man to rush into the farewell party around the yurt, grabbed the bridle of the bride tightly, led the people straight to the front of the new house, politely asked the bride to dismount, and everyone followed. At this time, the groom came out to meet the bride. There are several white carpets and carpets in front of the yurt, and the bride and groom are standing on the white carpet in front of the new house accompanied by four bridesmaids. The guests on both sides sit on both sides, and there are several small square tables on other carpets. Chagan? 、? Schumer? And all kinds of food and wine. There are two things in the middle plate, one is square wood glue wrapped in satin, and the other is sheep hind leg bone wrapped in Hada. This symbolizes and wishes a new couple inseparable and loyal love. Then perform the following ceremony;
1. While chanting and praying, the Lama washed and watered the couple's face with milk to show the purity and happiness of their marriage. There is also a special person to recite congratulations.
2. Two newcomers kowtowed three times to the sun and three times to the mountain.
3. kowtow to both parents (and grandparents) through the cover.
4. The bride and groom hold a sheep's hind leg bone tied with Hada, and worship three times, symbolizing the two pure hearts tied together, wishing the marriage world everlasting and bright. There is also a special person here to recite the congratulatory message of specific content.
5. Congratulations to relatives and friends. Is it called in Mongolian? Bud is like a set, Hannah? . Relatives and friends of both sides lined up to give gifts to the two newcomers in turn. Generally, each person should prepare two gifts, regardless of weight. Hada, satin, cloth, etc. Be worn around the neck. There are tea, pots and pans on the white carpet in front of us, and the people who send gifts such as cattle, sheep and horses hold two hadas. Just explain when you hang Hada for them. If there are too many things hanging around the neck, the bridesmaids of both sides will hold them in their hands.
6. Relatives of both sides should send a representative (usually an important relative) to report all their dowry and dowry (including wedding expenses) to relatives and friends, and even the needles and knives should be counted clearly.
7. The man gave the woman a 3-year-old mare, prepared a saddle, tied it with colorful silk or red cloth, and delivered it to her. The groom's cousin gave it to the bride's cousin, who took the reins and rode around the yurt for three weeks, then went straight to the bride's house. When handing over the horse, someone also recited the horse's eulogy.
8. Grab the hat and put the hat of the bride and groom about 10 steps away. Each side sent a maid of honor to grab it (the man's maid of honor grabbed the groom's hat and the woman's maid of honor grabbed the bride's hat). Whoever grabs it first and puts it on the accompanying couple's head is the first owner (shopkeeper) of this new family. Of course, this is a game, not serious.
At this point, the ceremony in front of the new house is over. The bridesmaid accompanied the bride and groom to temporarily enter other yurts to rest. When everyone enters the new house, the relatives of the bride's family sit on the right according to their seniority, and the relatives of the husband's family sit on the left according to their seniority. Respect? Chagan? 、? Schumer? The supply of milk tea, cakes, all kinds of food, dried fruit, toast. Two bridesmaids presented Hada to relatives on behalf of the bride and groom. Then, accompanied by the first two bridesmaids, the bride and groom entered the new house and stood by the door. The two bridesmaids of Xian Hada stood behind the two newcomers. From then on, the most solemn ceremony in the wedding began.
Mongolian marriage system
The first is the system of extramarital marriage. That is, marrying a nation other than one's own, which is the rule of matriarchal society and paternal society. At that time, every clan had to cross the vast grassland to get married. Over time, Mongolians have mixed lineages, and there is a rule that people of the same clan cannot get married.
The second is the engagement system. After entering the feudal society, the whole family got married, and the man's family had to marry the woman, mainly cattle, horses, sheep and other livestock, with nine as the lucky number, followed by gold, silver and other wealth. The more dowry, the more valuable it is, the better. In this way, at the age, the bride price under the husband's family has become a measure of women's value, and marriage has become a business transaction for parents. For the poor without dowry, they can only be single.
The third is that people praise marriage, also called recruiting a son-in-law, which means marrying a man into a woman's house. There are permanent compliments and non-permanent compliments. Most of the former are men who are unable to marry the woman. After marriage, they moved to the woman's house. In the latter case, it is superfluous for a woman's family without labor force or a woman's family without a man to inherit the family business. After giving birth to a boy, they can take their wife back to their parents' home.