First of all, the ability to accept failure is the bridge to success.
In a group society, there are more opportunities to lose than to win. Therefore, it is more important to try your best to do everything well than to put the goal first and strive for progress. Please don't forget that when you are afraid that your child will fail, your child is being deprived of more opportunities for growth. We can no longer cling to the first because of our own fears, which virtually binds our children's hands and feet. It is to cultivate the ability of children to stand up and move forward after falling. We should remember that a child who has no ability to fail will never succeed in life.
Second, the ability of philosophical thinking is the first step to cultivate children who can think.
Philosophical thinking, always with the spirit of doubt, don't take everything for granted, don't look at things too intuitively, not the mode of "following your feelings", but explain what you encounter based on theory. If you are unfamiliar, if you think, you won't get anything, not because your IQ is not enough.
Third, the ability to perceive happiness cultivates the ability to become happy.
Since being an official is not happiness and getting rich is not happiness, what is happiness? My teacher told me that happiness lies not in how much you get, but in the ability to perceive happiness! A person who has no ability to perceive happiness will not be happy no matter how much he gets; A person who can perceive happiness is happy, no matter how ordinary.
Fourth, leadership is the first condition of leadership, with the heart of thinking for others.
Leaders are not born, but cultivated, and before the age of 3, it is a critical period for children's emotional development, so parents should not just think about letting their children develop intelligently at this time, but miss the best opportunity to learn to communicate and observe others. A child who learns to communicate will be liked by his peers in kindergarten or school, and there will be many friends around him, laying the foundation for his good interpersonal relationship in the future. Even if you don't become a leader, you will become a popular person. Leadership needs to be enhanced through training, and an ambitious leader needs opportunities to hone his leadership skills. Let children join sports teams and boy scouts. Extracurricular activity groups and other community organizations, where they will gain experience in dealing with others. However, children should also be allowed to fight for leadership within their own interests.
Fifth, the cultivation of reading ability can provide insight into the world.
In the process of leading children to read, parents should remember that you only shoulder two major tasks: the first is to make children like reading; The second is to teach children how to read.
Sixth, the cradle of communication ability and comprehensive basic ability.
The road of life is tortuous. No matter how clever and excellent a person is, there is little possibility of achieving outstanding achievements without the support of others. Without the support of others, even the way to gain high wisdom can't be found. Smart parents should understand that if children feel that communication is a kind of enjoyment, no matter who they communicate with, they can be relaxed, physically and mentally consistent, and internally and externally consistent, his social circle will become larger and larger, and his future will become more and more harmonious with society. However, smart parents should know that children need the understanding, help and support of their families anyway.
English language ability: the basic condition for survival in the era of global village.
Language acquisition is mainly achieved by getting a lot of comprehensible input, and listening is the most important channel to get comprehensible language input. Therefore, we should pay full attention to the cultivation of children's listening cognitive strategy ability in English tutoring.
8. Economic ability is the key to a bright future.
Nine, self-control Self-control is a powerful force.
In the journey of life, in order to achieve your goals, you may have to do something you don't want to do and give up something you are deeply obsessed with, so you feel bound. However, for the sake of life and goals, we should not try to get rid of all constraints, but should make steady progress step by step along the established goals under the guidance of constraints. If a person who wants to achieve something lacks self-control, just like a car without steering wheel and brakes, it is bound to derail, cross the line and even overturn.
Success comes from self-confidence. If so, so is the relationship between parents and children. Now as parents of children, remember, you must believe in yourself and your children!
Words that affect a person's life
◆ There must be a method for success and a reason for failure.
Good luck leads to good fate: love or not needs courage, friendship needs loyalty, family needs kindness, work needs strength, career needs luck, and life needs good temper.
◆ Being able to love wholeheartedly is wisdom, and being able to eliminate troubles is wisdom.
◆ The lamp of life is lit by enthusiasm, and the boat of life moves forward by hard work.
◆ Three elements of treating people and things: a group of people can do great things, a group of good people can do practical things, and a group of bad people is not a bad thing.
◆ Three elements of progress: you can do it yourself, some people say you can do it, and some people say you can do it.
Anger is to punish yourself for what others have done wrong.
Hope for the best, try your best and prepare for the worst.
◆ Women are the most practical and inseparable from daily necessities; Women are the most unrealistic, dreaming about flowers and wine.
◆ Simplifying into wealth is smart; Turning wealth into simplicity is wisdom. Rich, helpful to thinking; Simple and easy to realize.
◆ Three elements of speaking: being able to speak when you should-level, not speaking when you shouldn't-smart, knowing when to say and when not to say-smart.
◆ Three elements of work: being able to do what you should do-ability, not doing when you shouldn't do it-wisdom, knowing when you should do it and when you shouldn't do it-wisdom.
◆ Know that a gentleman is behind others; Know that the villain is watching people behind their backs.
◆ It is safe to wait, let it pass, and endure it harmoniously.
◆ People who live for themselves feel inferior; People who live for other people's opinions are small; People who live happily for others are noble.
◆ A love can be a wave, but it is not a wave; Don't hold hands casually, let alone let go.
The masses are running, the leaders are criticizing, the departments are turning, and the meeting is held again and again. In the end, the question is where to go.
The present situation of contemporary physical exercise: the rise of the elderly, the awakening of the middle-aged and the deep sleep of the teenagers.
Wine is like water in a bottle. Drink it and your stomach is haunted. Slip your legs when you talk and walk. You get up in the middle of the night looking for water, and you regret it in the morning. At noon, one end of the glass is still beautiful.
◆ People who dare not get angry are cowards, and those who don't get angry are wise.
◆ No.1 is uncompromising, No.2 is inconsistent, No.3 is gossip, No.4 is, No.5 and No.6 just take notes and don't speak.
◆ The best way to comfort yourself is to look at the shortcomings of others; The best way to encourage yourself is to look at your strengths.
◆ Knowing what things should be like shows that you are a smart person; Knowing what things actually look like shows that you are an experienced person.
Dreaming is just a kind of intelligence, and realizing dreams is a kind of ability.
◆ You can choose such "half-hearted": confidence, perseverance and determination; Creativity and willingness.
◆ If you want to live a casual life, you can only live an ordinary life; If you want to live a brilliant life, you can only live a painful and complicated life; If you want to live longer, you can only live simpler.
You can lead others first, and you can convince others through self-discipline.
◆ Excessive expectations bring children's hopelessness; Overprotection leads to the incompetence of children; Excessive doting on one brings the child's ruthlessness; Too much interference brings children's helplessness; Too many accusations leave children with nothing to do.
◆ Sages and Seven Virtues in the eyes of ancient Jews: First, don't teach an axe; The second is not to interrupt others; Third, there is no rush for success; Fourth, questions should be directed at a certain gender; Fifth, the answer should be in line with the situation; Sixth, the conversation should begin and end; Seventh, we should base ourselves on reality.
◆ People's two eyes are parallel, but people are not equal. People's ears are on both sides, but they always listen to one side of the story. People only have one mouth, but they can always say two words.
A boaster may not have a high opinion, but he may be thinking when he is silent.
◆ Doing the right thing is often not mentioned; People often don't forget you when you do something wrong.
◆ Put a love and affection into a person and take risks; It is very dangerous to devote a love and a feeling to many people.
Successful people do what others don't want to do, do what others dare not do, and do what others can't do.
◆ Successful people find ways, unsuccessful people find excuses; There is no excuse for success, and it is impossible to succeed if you want an excuse.
◆ Cooking level affects the taste of dishes, and mentality affects the quality of life.
True love is not holding him in your arms, but letting him learn to walk.
◆ What people all know is life; What people don't know is art.
◆ Officials tell lies, experts tell lies, businessmen tell lies, stars tell lies, the rich say crazy words, and the poor say angry words.
He who loses money loses little, he who loses health loses much, and he who loses courage loses everything.
◆ Go out well, talk well and do things well.
◆ Be a man like water and do things like mountains. Be as low-key as possible, give way to others, retreat as far as possible when encountering interests and fame, and leave more room for growth for yourself. You must have your own opinions and goals, and stand there like a mountain to get things done.
Winners look at the answers to questions, while losers only look at the answers to questions; Winners are often part of the answer, while losers are often part of the question; Winners have plans, losers have excuses; Winners often say: although there are difficulties, they can still do it; Losers often say: although it can be done, it is too difficult.
◆ Most enemies become comrades-in-arms for survival, and most comrades-in-arms become enemies for money.
Money can help the poor solve problems, but it can also help the rich create problems.
◆ Third-rate makeup is the makeup on the face; Second-rate makeup is exquisite makeup; First-class makeup is the makeup of life.
Being single is understanding, falling in love is wrong, breaking up is consciousness, getting married is wrong, divorce is awakening, remarriage is stubborn, a person without affection is a waste, and a person with a lot of affection is an animal.
◆ Location can increase people's power, but it can't increase authority; Location can increase people's energy, but it can't increase people's ability; Location can increase people's fame, but it can't increase knowledge.
◆ The difference between celebrities and mortals? Celebrities used cultural relics, while mortals used waste; Celebrities are eloquent and mortals are sophistry; Celebrities greet people, are approachable, and mortals are buttering up others. Celebrities don't dress neatly, which is called artist temperament, and mortals are just rude; Celebrity drinking is called binge drinking, and mortals are called gluttony; Celebrities are called Lao Wang when they are old, but mortals can only be called Lao Wang.
◆ We may not be beautiful, but we are healthy; We may not be great, but we are solemn; We may not be perfect, but we work hard; We may not be eternal, but we are sincere.
Learning is the source of wisdom, and morality is the foundation of career.
Meeting the right person at the right time is a lifelong happiness; Meeting the wrong person at the right time is a heartbreak; It is absurd to meet the wrong person at the wrong time; Meeting the right person at the wrong time is a sigh.
◆ Where there is no water, it is desert, and where there is no sound, it is lonely.
Living is a kind of luck, and being young is a kind of happiness.
Loving one and loving another is not charity, and you can't just give alms.
◆ True love is not a temporary move; But the aftertaste of a lifetime.
Sincerity does not mean to blame others for their shortcomings, but rather not to compliment others for their shortcomings.
Love is missing a person's heart, marriage is tying a person's heart, and love is devouring a person's heart.
Success is an idea, getting rich is an obligation and happiness is a right.
It takes thousands of years to change from a monkey to a human, and only one bottle of wine is needed to change from a human to a monkey.
◆ The more mature the husband who is deeply loved by his wife, the less mature the wife who is spoiled by her husband.
◆ The three most popular words are not "I love you", but "together".
◆ Giving people words is more important than pearls and jade; Words hurt more than swords.
◆ Compared with people suffering from diseases, being healthy and strong is naturally happiness; Compared with people who have suffered disasters, peace is naturally happiness.
Friends who are tolerant of each other must be in the same boat for a hundred years, couples who are tolerant of each other must hold their pillows for a hundred years, and the inclusive world must be peaceful and beautiful.
◆ Confusion is not liked, and cleverness is not necessarily liked; Everyone is happy only when he is smart and confused.
It is a famous actor who plays others vividly, and it is usually an official who plays himself smart and great.
◆ Ordinary people look at the world with their eyes open and often make mistakes. Extraordinary people turn a blind eye to the world. Extraordinary people are invincible when they look at the world with their eyes closed.
◆ Don't covet everything, or you will have nothing; Don't try to know everything, or you will know nothing; Don't try to be omnipotent, or you will become omnipotent.
People who chase two rabbits at the same time can't catch either. In a sense, losing is gaining.
Happiness is a state of mind, not a state.
◆ The stars are bright, it is better to be alone in the moon; Birds sing together, not as good as tigers roar.
◆ People should have key points; There will be a foothold again. The former is strategy; The latter is tactics.
◆ Laughing at failures and setbacks is optimistic and confident; Laughing off misunderstanding and hatred is a kind of calm tolerance; Laughing at praise and encouragement is modesty and sobriety; Laughing off troubles and sadness is a kind of calm and relief.
Morality is eternal, and wealth is temporary.
◆ There is only smoothness in the world, not perfection.
Smart people manage health, understand that people store health, ordinary people don't understand health, and confused people ignore health.
Those who criticize you are your enemies today and your friends tomorrow; Those who flatter you are your friends today and your enemies tomorrow.
Make a first-class wish, make a first-class wish, enjoy the first-class blessing, choose a high station, sit flat and walk wide.
People who don't take a shower won't smell good if they wear perfume hard. Fame and honor come from real talent and knowledge. Germany is naturally fragrant.
◆ The dinner invited by classmates can be casual, like family; Friends (comrades-in-arms) can invite a dinner party, be generous and be like a host; The meal invited by the leader must be careful, like a stranger; Please invite leaders to eat, be respectful, like servants; The meal invited by others is naturally polite, like a guest!
◆ There is a kind of fate, which becomes a landscape after being put down. Have a heart and stick to China is sincere.
◆ The most eternal happiness in the world is ordinary, and the longest possession in life is cherish.
Without economic independence, there is a lack of "self-esteem", without ideological independence, there is a lack of "autonomy", and without personality independence, there is a lack of "self-confidence".
When you are alive, you need to constantly dust off your heart, introspect, blame yourself, since the enlightenment, and respect yourself.
Never be curious about things that may be bad, or you may die. Never make a decision when you are in pain, or you will regret it later.
Pursuing science is true, pursuing morality is good, and pursuing art is beautiful.
Kindness is a kind of wisdom, a kind of foresight, a kind of self-confidence, a kind of single-minded strength, a kind of culture and a kind of happiness.
◆ You have the right to be angry, but you should not trample on the dignity of others; You have the right to fail, but don't give up; You have the right to succeed, but not at the expense of others; You have the right to argue, but you shouldn't take revenge as a means. You have the right to demand a better life, but you shouldn't cheat today for tomorrow's happiness.
Patience is the abbreviation of perseverance and ability; Learning is the summary of hard study and diligent inquiry.
Ignorance and ignorance are things that everyone hates, but they can only be avoided through study; Beauty and health are things that everyone is proud of, but it is best to add maintenance.
It's fun to flatter yourself and deceive others, but it's despicable to slander others.
◆ Greedy ill-gotten wealth is easy to destroy; Believing in unfaithful people is a disaster.
◆ The tragedy of one love and one feeling stems from picky; Marriage is perfect because of tolerance.
People who create opportunities are brave. He who waits for an opportunity is a fool.
Although sunshine and light are warm, they can be exposed for a long time and will be abused.
Even if you smash the clock, no one can keep the pace of time for half a second.
◆ There is no scenery in familiar places; There are traps in unfamiliar places.
◆ Dedication enriches the soul, and creation makes life better.
Lifelong motto
1. Showing off needs an audience, and showing off just makes us lose the audience.
When a great man really stands in front of you, you will think that he is shorter than you.
The most promising winners are not those with outstanding talents, but those who make full use of every opportunity to explore and develop. Socrates
Most of the articles I have written in my life are on three occasions: immediately, on the pillow and on the toilet. Ouyang Xiu
Good things always take time, and great things can't be done without a lot of effort and labor. If you want to eat walnuts, you must first bite open the hard shell. Grimmelshausen
6. Whoever is the Dance Academy will never achieve anything, and whoever can't dominate himself will always be a slave. Goethe
7. Heaven and earth are the most affectionate, and young people are reluctant to vote. Rola Chen
8. When many people are stuck in a road, we should give way to a road and let those who cherish time go ahead. Socrates
9. Regret is an emotion that consumes the spirit. Regret is a bigger loss than loss and a bigger mistake than mistake, so don't regret it.
10. Opportunities need us to look for. Let's summon up courage, use wisdom, grasp every minute of life and create a more wonderful life.
A complete collection of aphorisms that affect a person's life.
1. There is a difficult problem in life, and that is how to make one inch of time equal to one inch of life.
2. Knowledge plays with wealth.
Now that everything will pass, we must seize the present.
Success will not come in the future, but will accumulate from the moment you decide to do it.
The so-called hero actually refers to people who can survive under any circumstances.
6. Inferiority is a more terrible poverty.
What makes us happy is not the environment, but the attitude.
8. People who study hard always feel that time passes too fast; Lazy people always complain that time passes too slowly.
9. Whether there is a goal is the fundamental difference between a successful person and a mediocre person.
10. No one can give you strength except yourself.
1 1. Don't set your life goals too high. Look for one thing, invest interest and enthusiasm, and you will succeed.
12. If you are afraid of failure, you will never succeed.
13. Mediocre people are too lazy to kill time, while capable people try their best to use time.
14. Don't forget to smile no matter how annoying you are; Pay attention to your tone no matter how urgent you are; No matter how difficult it is, don't forget to persist; Love yourself no matter how tired you are.
15. Learn to be healthy based on exercise; Based on promotion, learn to seek knowledge. Based on morality, learn to be a man; Based on adaptation, learn to survive.
16. The curtain of the life stage may be opened at any time. The key is whether you are willing to perform or choose to escape.
17. Life is like a flood, and it is difficult to stir up beautiful waves without touching the islands and reefs.
18. Despair is the end of your wrong idea and the beginning of your choice of the right method. Walking out of the corner of life will usher in a beautiful life.
19. Update your thoughts and you will get a new life.
If you are afraid of failure, you will never succeed.
2 1. A good life should be full of expectations, surprises and gratitude.
22. To change your destiny, you must first change yourself.
23. I feel I can do it, but I can't. Actually, it's just a moment.
24. Nothing is impossible, only those who can't.
25. The past can only be used for memories. Don't indulge in the shadows, you will never see the road ahead.
26. The most wonderful thing in life is not the moment when you realize your dream, but the process of sticking to it.
27. Forget the pain of failure and remember the reasons for failure.
28. The rudder of fate is struggle. Don't have any illusions, don't give up an opportunity, and don't stop working hard for a day.
29. If a person doesn't know which dock he is heading for, then no wind is downwind.
30. Action is the noblest expression of ideals.
3 1. Since a road has been determined, why do you ask how long it will take?
Courage is the control of fear, not the absence of fear.
33. If you don't step, you can't cross the fence; You can't climb a mountain without walking.
34. People who don't know what to do tomorrow are unfortunate!
35. No matter how beautiful the dream of a wise man is, it is not as good as the footprints of a fool.
Don't let comfort steal our vitality.
37. Others can only show you the way, but can't help you walk. You need to go your own way.
38. Diligence can make up for cleverness, but cleverness cannot make up for laziness.
39. Regret is an emotion that enervates the spirit. Regret is a bigger loss than loss and a bigger mistake than mistake, so don't regret it!
40. Make good use of your inner potential, and you are a lucky person.
Ten sentences that affect a child's life
The best five sentences
1, make your own decision.
If you want your child to do something or stop doing something, we suggest you say so. This is to let the child know that he is responsible for his actions. For example, you can say to your daughter and her little friends: Do you want to stay here and play quietly or go outside? After five minutes, the children are still making noise. You can tell them again: I see, it seems that you have decided to go outside. In two simple sentences, you not only let your child understand the causal relationship, but also won't be regarded as a bad policeman by your daughter. She can clearly understand that she made her own decision and chose this ending.
Mom loves you, but she doesn't like you like this.
As parents, it is inevitable that sometimes they will blame their children. The most important thing at this time is to separate the thing itself from the person who did it, so that your child will know that he did a bad thing, but that doesn't mean he is a bad person. Tell your mother that she loves you while criticizing your child. This can also remind yourself that the purpose of criticizing a child is to help him distinguish right from wrong, not to punish him. If you can think like this, it will be easier for you to remain calm in the face of your child's mistakes. Only parents have their own way of raising their children.
3. What are you trying to say?
Sometimes, a child will lose control because of anger or excitement. He couldn't tell his feelings clearly, but kept shouting: I don't want you! I hate you! At that moment, the poor little guy could only think of these words. At this time, you are needed to help children better understand and express their emotions. Except to ask politely: What are you trying to say? You can also give him some reference answers: Are you angry because Xiao Ming's brother leaked your secret? When your child gradually learns to understand his inner feelings, he can clearly express his feelings to the people around him even if you are not around.
Try to help me solve this problem.
If your child does something that makes you angry, you can say that he is humming a new song he learned in kindergarten while eating, or trying to draw a picture with vegetables in his hand. Speak as if the problem is your own, and then ask your children to help you think of a solution. For example, this way is to wait until after dinner and when you start washing dishes, he will sing to you again.
This is a magical saying, which can make children feel that their actions are welcome and respected, so that they will not regard you as his opposite. If the only solution to your satisfaction is to let your child stop what he is doing completely, then you can work together to make your child remember when he can't do anything.
5. Different people have different needs.
Xixi has a doll, so I want one too. Xiaoming's father lets him eat ice cream, so I can eat it. This is a simple logic that children often use to bargain with you. In this case, you must tell him clearly that different people have different needs. You should let your children know that everyone can only get it when they really need it. For example, just because the young lady next door has glasses doesn't mean that all the children in the building can wear glasses. Just because my cousin's shoes are small doesn't mean that all brothers and sisters need to buy new shoes.
Five worst sentences
1, why is it getting bigger and bigger?
If a six-year-old child cries because he can't get what he wants, it's because he is only six years old; If a four-year-old child can't keep quiet in the car seat, it's because he is only four years old. Although we always hope that children can be more mature and obedient, the thing is this: children always have to go through stubborn, naughty, self-centered and hyperactive ages, which is necessary for their growth.
Many parents easily forget this fact, because these naughty behaviors of children always annoy them. However, when you say such things to your child, you express empty blame and ignore the reasons why the child will do so. When you yell at your child: How can you be more disobedient as you get older? You only care about your feelings. We suggest that you know more about the feelings of young children. When you can't help blaming him, please start with some sympathetic sentences: you look angry. Or I know you are unhappy, but this kind of thing is always inevitable. Mothers should learn to recognize their children's distress signals.
Don't run, you will fall down.
Of course you are kind. As a mother, you always want to protect your children. However, we still want to say that such warnings are more likely to make children suffer setbacks. You know, when you say this, you are actually sending a message to the child: Are you sure he will fall? For a child who is trying to be independent, such information is undoubtedly a heavy blow. So it may be better to remember to tie your shoelaces before going out to play. In this way, you emphasize shoelaces, not children's clumsiness.
Besides, when your warnings don't come true again and again (be careful, the juice will spill! You'll break the cup! ), your child will slowly show disapproval of your suggestion, because he thinks you are just talking casually.
I'm just teasing you.
Don't expose the baby's shortcomings in front of outsiders.
You may think it's no big deal to play a joke on a child, but it can also cultivate his sense of humor. But have you ever thought that when you tell your child that if you don't listen to your mother carefully, I will glue your ears together next time. Did it ever occur to you that children might really believe you would do this? As a parent, it is your responsibility to love and help your children, instead of making yourself so humorous with seemingly humorous but insulting words. So, some things you didn't mean, you'd better not say. Talking to children, pay attention to five points.
4. Why can't you be like Lily?
This comparison can only lead to one result: make your children feel like second-class citizens, and may also lead to hatred and fighting between children. If you want your child to always get red flowers like the children next door, or be polite like the little cousin, this comparison will never work, and the only effect is to dampen the child's self-confidence. Remember, the more you tell your child that he is inferior to others, the more he believes that he is not good enough. Therefore, it is wise to accept a child's strengths and weaknesses with a tolerant attitude, and then encourage him to grow up happily in the direction that suits him best.
5. What did I tell you just now?
Of course you know the answer to such a question. Therefore, this kind of sarcastic question is actually a kind of accusation. If you really want to blame your child for not meeting your requirements, you might as well make it clear: I am very unhappy because I have told you three times. But I'll tell you again, put the toys you don't play with back in the box.
Even if you want to express the same meaning, what kind of expression and words you choose will have a great influence on your children, even if you think they sometimes can't hear you at all.
In the process of interacting with children, whether it is to make demands, give answers, or talk to him about conditions and reach a compromise. The sentences you use may make children more cooperative and confident, but they may also feel depressed and lose confidence.