1, grasp the big and put the small.
Children will have many things to worry about when they grow up, but some things are irrelevant, some things can be passed with one eye closed, and some things may not be as serious as adults think. Parents should not be nervous all day when educating their children. They can relax themselves. Parents should learn to let go of some trivial matters in their children's lives. After all, the child is growing up day by day, and he has done a lot of things, so there is no need for adults to tell them again and again. At this time, if you remind them again and again, the children will definitely think that you are nagging. Parents should learn to pay attention to the most important things and take care of their children's core needs, such as their attitude towards life, values, future ambitions, study habits and learning methods. In this way, not only will parents be much more relaxed, but children will naturally be closer to you and will naturally listen to you more.
Step 2 learn to wait
Some parents have such a mentality that they want their children to follow suit immediately when they say a word and put forward a goal that they hope their children can achieve immediately. But let's not forget that children are children. His mind and ability have not developed to such a mature level. Some things he may not understand, some things he may not know how to do, some things he may not be able to do well for the time being, and some things he may often make mistakes. Therefore, parents must learn to wait, restrain their impatience, give their children some time to change, and allow them to repeat. Children can't grow up in a day. Their growth needs a process. Whether it is the improvement of self-care ability, the formation of good habits or the accumulation of cultural knowledge, it takes time to practice, and this time will not be shortened because of parents' nagging.
Step 3 say it only once
If parents want their children to do something, they should first choose the right time, then sit down face to face with their children and talk to them seriously. In order to attract their attention, parents can clearly tell their children, "Listen carefully, this is only what mom said once". When telling children, they must highlight the key points and choose weighty words to say once or twice. If you are not sure about their children, don't nag them again and again. Even when correcting children's mistakes, parents should not nag and lecture their children endlessly. As long as children can admit their mistakes and are willing to correct them, everything should be done. You know, nagging is unpleasant most of the time, but talking too much will not have a good effect.
4. About this matter
Even children make mistakes. When a child makes a mistake, what parents do incorrectly is to turn over the child's old accounts. Many years ago, old sesame seeds and rotten millet were used to talk about things, so they couldn't help criticizing their children. When children don't do well, when children don't finish, it is more and more powerful to criticize all the "bad things" of children. In fact, it is normal for children to make some mistakes in life. It is their right to make mistakes, and children grow up in the process of constantly correcting them. For children's mistakes, parents should talk about the facts and say whatever mistakes they make. Too many associations will only make children think that you are too annoying and nagging.
Tell parents the above truth, so that they can understand that their nagging is useless, which will only arouse children's disgust and force them to become so-called young rebels. They must understand the great harm of nagging.
Parents' Open Day Composition Alas, I am so nervous today.
Today's day is so special, it is the "parents' open day" set by our school.
As soon as I woke up in the morning, I sat up to open my eyes, but my eyelids were as heavy as iron, so I had to rub them hard, and then rub them again, and my eyelids opened.
I got everything ready for school as quickly as possible, and began to urge my mother to go out quickly.
When we arrived at school, the security guard gave us a timetable. I looked at it carefully, and after that, we were the first to appear! I broke out in a cold sweat at once and my clothes were soon soaked.
Just when I was nervous, there was an order to "start showing" on the radio, and I climbed the stairs trembling.
As I expected, everyone was nervous as hell. Although everyone has successfully rehearsed again and again in front of classmates, teachers and even leaders, they are still different in formal performances. Although facing such a kind face every day, everyone is a little discouraged.
Just as I was in a daze, Teacher Cao waved and motioned for us to start now.
Faced with these familiar faces, my heart slowly breeds a lot of warmth and courage. I can't help singing happily with the pace of the teacher and the rhythm of music, and I gradually integrate into the music.
At the end of the song, the teacher gently disconnected the accompaniment band and the melody slowly stopped. At this time, applause rang out. From the warm applause, I felt our hard work in the past, and today it finally paid off.
When will the parents' open day be held again?
Today is Sunday, and the weather is sunny.
We ushered in the parents' open day of the "Third Grade Department of Shixiaodong Campus".
Early in the morning, we combed our hair, put on our makeup and came to school in our dance clothes.
I remember the cold weather a while ago, and several students caught a cold. Everyone forgot to rehearse carefully and only prepared for this day.
This day has finally arrived, and our mood is extremely excited and nervous.
Our performance began with a burst of light music.
The first program is the dance of our class "Born in the Sun".
Standing on the stage, I can see my mother from a distance.
Mom is watching my program carefully.
I thought to myself: how hard my mother worked! I have endless housework every day, whether it is wind, frost, rain or heat, I am sent to school on time every day.
I saw our teacher again. How difficult it is to think of a teacher! Teachers are hard-working gardeners, and we are the flowers of the motherland.
With the help of my teacher, I have made great progress in my study this semester.
Thinking of this, I acted more seriously.
I secretly made up my mind: teachers and mothers, I won't let you down again. I will study hard and become a useful person to my motherland when I grow up.
Our dance was over, and our parents gave us warm applause.
The short one-hour performance is over.
Although the parents' open activity is over, it left a deep impression on me, and I will never forget it! Today is the parents' open day, with the first two classes and the last two activities.
Students are very active in class and want to show their best to their parents.
Jumping rope competition was held in the last two sections. I also bravely took part in the dance, and our class skipped it.
The teacher also participated in the competition, and everyone cheered for his teacher. The headmaster swung higher and faster like an old urchin, forcing the teacher to dance "ballet" in the air, which made us laugh. The math teacher is always active when he is tall.
Mom said that through observation, I found that I had three major shortcomings: 1, and I didn't take the initiative to speak in class.
Don't say what you can say, let alone what you can't say, especially English; 2. inattention in class.
Looking around, the teacher is talking about here, and I am still thinking about there; Answer the question in a low voice, so you can't hear it later.
Parents' open day is really good. We can learn, play and correct our shortcomings.
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2010 the composition about the parents' open day in junior high school on April 2 is our parents' open day. On that day, the students came to school happily with their parents.
It's 8 o'clock! It's time for morning exercises. Mother will see if her son is doing well in school. We not only do morning exercises, but also hold hands. This is a sign language exercise, which is a bit disgusting to do, but it can show the cuteness and vitality of our primary school students.
It's 8: 40, and the first English class is coming. I'm a little nervous occasionally.
When the teacher was in class, he made us a game called "passing the action", which was very fun and could give our big group extra points. It is ok to add points. The second period is math class, and the teacher asked us to design a travel plan. We went to Hollywood in the United States, and the transportation cost was 80 thousand RMB ... a total of 3.83 million RMB! The third class is Chinese, and the teacher mainly talks about some environmental protection issues, so that adults will also be environmentally friendly.
The fourth class is physical education class. The teacher has just practiced the sports meeting, so let's play better in the sports meeting.
Through this parents' open day, parents have gained something, and we have gained something, because we have learned something we don't know.
My feelings about parents' open days (400 words) Last week in junior high school, our school ushered in parents' open days four times a year. Countless students are looking forward to the completion of this "rare" open day writing class for parents. Many students rushed out of the platform and asked who was the teacher who gave us the lesson this time. What's the theme this time? "This time, the parents of Class One gave us a lecture. The theme this time is how to protect teeth." The students are ecstatic, and some are crazy enough to howl! At the beginning of class, the classroom suddenly quieted down, and the teachers and parents who attended the class were ready for class. After a long time, this "rare" dental class began.
The teacher who teaches us has a kind face and black and yellow hair like a big spring.
The teacher first introduced us to all kinds of teeth, such as grinding teeth, which are specially used for chewing; Tooth cutting, which specializes in tearing, cutting and biting things.
The teacher also told us the structure of the teeth: the outermost is the teeth, the red is the "coat" gum of the teeth, and the root is wrapped in the gum.
Through this open day for parents, we learned a lot about "teeth".
When the teacher walked out of the classroom, I began to guess how wonderful the next parents' open day would be.
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How did the parents tell their parents at the opening of the open day that their children were like mud that had never been filmed, and their parents wanted to carve a pool of mud into a work of art.
Among them, perfusion education is needed.
With the growth of children, this piece of mud gradually takes shape and becomes more and more solid and difficult to carve.
Even sometimes, this mud just doesn't work. No matter how hard you pinch, you can't get what you want. Just too stubborn.
If it is too late to carry out the education that should have been carried out at this time, it is simply out of date.
Of course, those bad habits formed from childhood are hard to correct. Even some bad habits developed more than ten years ago have penetrated into the bone marrow, and it is really difficult to correct them for a while. This is naturally a failed example, and it is doomed to be terrible.
Educating children is very important not only in childhood, but also in transition.
In particular, children's transition to adolescence is not only a physical change, but also a spiritual change.
During this period, children have formed their outlook on life and world, and have their own personal opinions. Because the life experiences and backgrounds of the two generations are completely different, it is naturally difficult to avoid the generation gap, and there are contradictions and conflicts in thought. Education is necessary in order to eliminate all unnecessary disasters.
Everything is difficult at the beginning, and education itself is a moral code of conduct.
Education should first set an example, make itself a role model for children and believe in the authenticity of education. Only when we do it ourselves will the children follow suit.
If we only talk about education and preach the truth, but we can't be role models for children, then this kind of education is just a treasure, and failed education will not play a role at all.
For example, parents teach their children to tell the truth and not to lie, while parents often lie themselves, even in front of their children.
If one day, children know, they will be very sad and learn to lie. From then on, he will distrust his parents and have a confused attitude towards them.
How can this kind of education succeed?
Education should also be close to reality, proceed from reality, and educate children, not empty fantasies.
As long as the education is effective, there is no need for exaggeration at all, as long as it is plain.
Moreover, education close to reality is more acceptable and easier for children to accept.
Every time, the child can do what his parents say, and every time he sincerely agrees, no one will be unhappy. But if education is too ethereal and gorgeous, children may not be able to accept it at once, or even fail to do it every time. He is likely to be sad. Who wants it? Not a day goes by when a good parent fails to educate his children. He may only have a short sentence or two, but he can speak in one or two sentences for three or four days.
Although for children, they may be upset, wordy and tired of listening, for parents, they are bitter, as long as children can listen to a word, even if they talk about it for a month.
Children always need education.
Parents should imprint what they want to say every day on their children's minds.
Even if children don't accept it, they should unconsciously print every word in their minds and always remind their parents of their advice and tireless education.
Sometimes, words alone cannot contain a child's stubborn heart, just like a mad bull rushing to a cliff.
At this time, appropriate punishment is also necessary.
Of course, while punishing, children should admit their mistakes and be completely convinced.
After you admit your mistake, of course you can't go too far. You should talk to your children and communicate with each other like friends. Parents should find their own shortcomings at this time and correct them later. This is a good time to educate children.
According to the requirements of the school's "Special Practical Homework for May Day Holiday", I need to work out with my parents how much money I have spent since birth and how much time I can spend with my parents.
This is a very interesting task and I am willing to finish it.
On Saturday night, my mother was still making clothes, and my father was drinking tea and watching TV.
Once, I heard my mother say that when others counted how much money the children spent together, the conservative figures were full of shock.
How difficult it is for a family to raise one or two children! I talked about the content of this special assignment, which is difficult and easy for parents to understand: the hard part is that it is already the second day of junior high school, and I can't remember the money spent. Why should I do this kind of homework? It is easy to understand that we teenagers who study knowledge can understand the hard work of our parents, and we can also repay our parents' parenting kindness, repay the society and make contributions to the society in the future.
Communicate with parents, record the expenses from small to large, and write a total of more than 20 thousand yuan.
With my present ability, I probably won't earn a penny back! But this is to lay the foundation and pave the way for later success.
I think this amount is too small. When I was a child, I wanted to buy everything. Next, I calculated the time I spent with my parents. Because I stay at school now, I stay at home two days a week.
But my geography and biology are not very good. As a result, I have to spend half a day, so the time spent at home with my parents has been reduced a lot.
Due to games, study or other reasons, the time spent with parents is getting less and less.
In the next three years, in the next 10 years, maybe I will gradually get rid of my parents' life track completely.
Only by cherishing the present and communicating with parents more can we make up for the deficiency.
After this exchange, I felt my parents' meticulous love for me since I was a child.
They have been paying for me, and I will communicate with my parents more in the future to relieve their depression and vent their bad emotions.
First, communicate sincerely and keep close contact with teachers. If you want to get in touch with parents, you should meet them actively and enthusiastically, and build a bridge of mutual trust psychologically, so as to win the effective cooperation of parents. For example, I visit each other through my hometown and contact them by phone; Hold a parent-teacher conference; Parents' open day; Parent-child games, etc. Through these activities, the distance between parents and teachers is brought closer, and the relationship between children and parents is also brought closer.
You can also regularly carry out individual counseling activities for parents to help them solve practical problems.
For example, Jia Rui, Rong Teng, Lotte, Jia Zheng and other children in the class have weak independence in life.
So how to cultivate children's good independence? This is the concern of these parents.
Therefore, in the communication between parents, I suggest that parents usually give their children more opportunities to deal with things, such as washing handkerchiefs and socks, bathing their children themselves, and packing toys, exercise books and small picture books for their children.
With the continuous exercise and training of children, I believe that children will gradually enhance their ability to live independently, think independently and do things independently.
These are the ways for teachers to communicate with their parents.
Second, respect parents and enhance understanding. In educational practice, there are many uncooperative phenomena between teachers and parents, which are largely caused by teachers' lack of respect or understanding of parents. Therefore, in the interaction between teachers and parents, we should respect parents, their feelings, their opinions and their personalities.
Teachers should not put on airs of educational authority or attack parents by innuendo, so that parents are unwilling to approach them.
Second, we should understand parents and let parents understand teachers. As parents, they usually expect their children to grow up and are very concerned about their growth. Children will feel ashamed if they don't behave well in school. Teachers should not always point out their children's shortcomings and deficiencies to parents, "complain" to them, and don't use harsh language to accuse and dig at students. They should exchange views objectively and learn from each other and cooperate in education.
The third is to encourage help and do a good job of cooperation. In order to make parents and teachers cooperate better, teachers should encourage parents to establish educational confidence and help parents improve their educational literacy. Teachers should know more about students' parents and take different measures according to their different situations.
For the parents of underachievers, it is necessary to help them make clear their education plans and directions.
For example, Yufeng, Yiyun and Zhaofeng in our class often find that they are aggressive in their interaction with children.
Afterwards, they will pass the buck or accept criticism to show that they won't dare in the future, but most people will do it again soon.
In view of this situation, I had feedback and communication with my parents, hoping that the family would jointly provide a healthy and upward living space for their children and not speak aggressive words in front of them.
Parents are also advised to pay more attention to their children by "diverting attention", for example, consuming energy when their children are nervous or angry, taking them to run, play ball or play chess; Guiding children to engage in such activities often helps to restore their psychological balance and gradually transfer aggressive behavior.
Refer to it and adopt it.
Message to parents of composition Tuesday is the parents' open day of our school this month. My mother came to school early in the morning and watched us do exercises first.
Everyone's movements are uniform, heroic and spirited, and their mental state is very full. They all want to show their parents well! Next, the first class is Chinese. Teacher Wang gave us 26 "thriving" lessons. The classroom atmosphere in the class is very active, and everyone actively raises their hands to speak. Mother thought our class was very lively and expanded, and a class ended unconsciously.
The second section is the inquiry class. We all lined up to go to the classroom on the second floor. There are two teachers in the classroom, China and a foreign teacher. This class wants us to explore the mystery of plant growth, mainly talking about "life cycle", and President Sun is also listening.
The third section is our most relaxed physical education class. Everyone came to the playground, lined up to practice stomping and queuing, and did exercises one by one. During the rest, I simply lie on the grass and let the sun warm my whole body. It's so relaxing! In the fourth quarter, Mr. Pan gave us a math lesson to learn the calculation method of abdication subtraction within 20 years. In class, everyone listens carefully, orders muscles to lift snow, uses their brains and actively raises their hands to answer the teacher's questions.
After all the classes in the morning, the teacher also showed us the talent show of "Fukuyama Little Talent", and we waited for dinner while watching it! Through the open day visit, my mother felt that I was really lucky and happy to go to school in Fukuyama, because Fukuyama's hardware and software were excellent!
Today's activity is parents' open day. The teacher decided to hold a food competition for making cold salad in the fourth class. A group of four people cooked cold salad in 20 minutes. In the fourth class, we brought materials, including gloves, sesame oil, soy sauce and vinegar.
Then the teacher said, "The game has started.
"Students race against time, and we don't want to fall behind.
I am very nervous, because I am a little flustered under the fierce competition of my classmates and the eyes of my parents.
But time is limited, I secretly told myself not to panic, not to panic.
A classmate and I are responsible for cutting cucumbers and tomatoes.
At this point, I cut the cucumber well and beautifully, immediately put it on the plate, and then put the tomato slices on the edge of the plate for decoration.
Unconsciously, more than half of the time has passed, and we have accelerated our speed. I handed the plate to the team leader, who put sesame oil, vinegar and soy sauce in it, and then stirred it to finish the first course. Then another student put the cut cucumber into a circle, put a tomato like a flower in the middle, and add sugar to make another cold dish.
Finally, I served the food for my parents to taste. My parents thought it was delicious, and we were very happy. We also tasted it and found it really delicious.
After this activity, we experienced the fun of doing it ourselves, showed the spirit of cooperation and unity of the students, and enjoyed the happiness brought by the fruits of labor.
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Please indicate the source? My parents are always nagging and annoying. What should I do?