1.

My friend A, whom I haven't contacted for a long time, suddenly called a few days ago and asked me how I was recovering after the operation. I happily agreed to come and see me. For me who hasn't been out for a long time, it's as good as a gift in the snow.

A is my former colleague at work, who is several years older than me. When we met, both of them had just divorced, but she had a daughter, so she was in the same boat, so it was easy to talk. There is also a girl C with us, who is a few years younger than me and unmarried. The three of us have nothing to do but chat together. The somebody else say lives of three women, is really of. A is a master storyteller with rich emotional experience. Even the story of her divorce can be told by her with ups and downs and fun. We are basically listeners who eat melons, but we are quite happy.

I don't know C very well, because she never told her story voluntarily, and I'm not used to asking. A got to know her earlier and got to know her better. As soon as C was away, she told me gossip, saying that C's parents were long gone, grew up with her grandmother, came out as a teenager and was kept by an old man who started a company. She hasn't left the old man for ten years. It seems that the other party didn't give her anything material, maybe she was too lacking in love and couldn't leave him … Finally, I don't forget to add that she heard it from someone else.

when I first heard her say this, I admit that I was also brought into the mysterious and curious atmosphere peculiar to gossip, and I kept asking really, no way … and then I would feel more different when I saw C. Although I heard the part about my life, I really couldn't ignore the latter part. The point is, I can't verify the truth of these contents at all. So later these gossips became a problem for me.

but it's not the only thing that bothers me more. When A told me this, it was obviously a sorry and contemptuous attitude. When she turned her back, she went shopping and went to the movies with C smiling like a sister.

what exactly is her position? Does C know her style? Or, that's what she and she said about me. What version is it?

that afternoon, a came as promised, and she looked a little haggard after half a year's absence. We went to a nearby restaurant for dinner together. During the period, they also greeted each other about the recent situation. A told me that she had another boyfriend, but she was still separated, so she didn't settle down. Then, sure enough, I talked about C again, saying that C, who was married, still lived in the house rented by that man, and her husband also entered a state-owned enterprise unit through that man's relationship. After listening to this, I was no longer interested, saying that I had come back in advance.

About the friendship between women, many people say that it is the product of exchanging secrets, recipes and gossip. I don't think exchanging secrets can buy friendship. If you can't keep your own secrets, can you expect others to help you keep them? But I agree with the friendship of exchanging recipes. Women who love food and cooking all think about where there is delicious food and how to make it delicious. In the exchange, not only the craft has improved, but also the spirit is more pleasant after being praised. Friendship will naturally improve qualitatively after both the mouth and the spirit are satisfied. In my opinion, it was a beautiful and solid friendship.

As for gossiping, apart from wasting time and causing troubles, I really haven't established any reliable friendship.

2.

One day, I was video chatting with my friend Z, and suddenly I remembered to ask her if she had told her two best friends in middle school about her pregnancy. Z seems to have forgotten who I'm talking about, and turned his eyes around in a daze before saying, you said they didn't. We have been out of touch for a long time.

I was surprised to ask, didn't we often meet before going abroad?

"Yes, I didn't finish IELTS at that time. However, after I got the notice and decided to come out, I asked them to get together several times. They all said that they were busy and they didn't get together. Until now, I haven't contacted them actively, and I feel that there is nothing to talk about when I contact them again. " Z said airily.

I feel very surprised. Good friends are going out to study for two years. Shouldn't they get together no matter how busy they are? Besides, this is a good thing, so we should celebrate it.

"aren't you close?"

"At that time, it was nothing more than eating, drinking and chatting."

Maybe I think that when they are forced to get married early and work hard, as women, Z can walk away smartly and create a different future. Originally, she was walking on a road, but suddenly she turned a corner and took the road that they were afraid to walk, so she felt a little lost. After all, not everyone has the courage to give up all their eggs in one basket for further study at the age of 28.

Some friendships are based on the fact that each other is on a horizontal line, pulling a rope and moving forward synchronously. Once one party goes too fast, the friendship line will be ruthlessly broken. If friendship can't stand the pull of you walking faster than me and can't smile and bless each other when they live to a wonderful place, really, it's not friendship at all.

As Paul coelho wrote in Zahir, "True friends are those who are around us when good things happen. They support us and are really happy for our victory; False friends are those who only appear when we are in trouble. Their faces are hung with' sadness' and' sympathy', but in fact our pain is being used to comfort them in a miserable life. "

3.

Yesterday, my best friend Y sent a sweaty running photo with the caption: I want to exercise and lose weight!

Her story of losing weight has been repeated many times, but none of them lasted more than a week. I replied to her, "You can persist for a month, no matter how many pounds you lose, I will reward you with a skirt." I know that her biggest dream, who is nearly 13 kg, is to wear a beautiful skirt.

"ok. What grade? " I don't doubt whether I can stick to it, but I will pick the price first.

"You have to get it. Don't worry, don't buy Taobao goods."

"It's a deal!"

"Wait, if you don't insist, you have to buy me one." If you don't reward and punish clearly, you will have insufficient motivation.

"no problem. You are responsible for supervising me. " She readily promised.

y and I have known each other since childhood. When we were teenagers, our family moved away and we haven't been in touch for a long time. When we got together again a few years ago, we felt as good as before. We basically don't talk about gossip, but only encourage each other to do what they want to do. I said I wanted to learn painting, and she said to go quickly. When I learned it well, I would draw a picture for me to hang at home, and the tuition fee was not enough to ask me for an advance. I said I wrote, and she said she would send it to me for review. Although her literary talent is not very good, she will read every article carefully and give advice. She will directly reward those who are satisfied, and point out those who feel bad.

I think this is the best friendship I want, which is neither flattering nor hypocritical, nor decadent nor grandiose, but plain but true and warm. Support and encourage behind each other, just to be the best together.