The National Day holiday is over, and group sandbox courses have begun.

After getting off work, eating dinner and settling the children, I hurried to the learning institution, but I was still late.

As soon as I entered the door, I saw many teachers sitting in a circle waiting for class. At that moment, I was a little surprised and felt uneasy.

Ask yourself why I feel this way.

There are two reasons. One is that seeing so many unfamiliar faces makes me worry about whether I can integrate well into this collective environment.

Also, I feel like everyone is ready, so I feel a little guilty for being late.

It wasn't until other students came later that the guilt disappeared.

Emotions come and go quickly.

? The sand table teacher briefly talked about the theoretical knowledge.

, among which the four-no-two principle is mentioned in the practical operation: the four-no refers to 1. no analysis, 2. no explanation, 3. no evaluation, 4. no judgment. The two-principle refers to emphasizing feelings and companionship.

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Feelings include physical feelings, emotional feelings and situational picture feelings.

After the theoretical knowledge sharing, the group sandbox officially started.

The group I was assigned to consisted of 5 people. One sand table teacher led the group and another sand table teacher observed.

The grouping of team members was determined by drawing playing cards. I drew the Ace of Clubs, and I learned from the sandbox teacher Zheng who had previously led me to experience it.

I remember that the first time I came into contact with the sand table last year was with Teacher Zheng.

That time gave me a great flow experience. My negative emotions flowed away, my body and mind felt relaxed, and I even cried.

Since then, I began to slowly fall in love with the sand table.

Today, Teacher Zheng is still leading the class, and I was actually a bit resistant at first, because I have done sandboxing with Teacher Zheng several times this year, and some negative emotions have arisen during the process, which have not been sorted out.

However, I also believe that this is God’s arrangement.

So, I followed her into the group with peace of mind.

During the sand caressing experience, I felt the sand was cold and cool. I was very happy and relaxed. Along with the soft music, I was immersed in the world of my own enjoyment and didn't want to come back.

Later I completed the group's flat sand routine.

The friends each choose their favorite sand sets and place them in order according to the order of drawing lots.

One *** is divided into four rounds. After each round, everyone talks about their feelings. At the same time, there is a privileged person who can move any sand tools she wants in the entire sand table field.

In the first round, I chose the cartoon doll Pikachu.

I noticed it as soon as I entered the sand table room. You can choose 2 sand sets from the same group at the same time. I also chose Dabai to keep it company.

When I chose these two sand sets, I had my son and me in mind.

Pikachu represents my lively and lovely son, and Dabai represents me who brings warmth.

When the group members have finished placing the sand, the friends who exercised their privileges began to move the sand.

Unexpectedly, he moved the Pikachu representing my son away.

The mother doesn’t want to be far away from her son’s mother, so separation anxiety occurs.

At that moment I felt angry, sad, and powerless.

The furniture I chose in the second round was from two government offices, one was the municipal government and the other was the Beijing Hotel.

My friends later gave me feedback that it felt quite depressing. In fact, I felt the same way.

However, what I was thinking about at that moment was a distant friend.

He works in the city government and loves good food.

In the third round, I chose Shaqi, a boy with a doctorate hat and academic success.

The sand set I chose in the fourth round was the faceless man from Hayao Miyazaki's animated film "Spirited Away", with a little mouse in his arms.

Because it is a group sandbox, everyone will have conflicts and inadvertently make judgments during the game.

But because I am being true to myself, I don’t seem to be disturbed by other people.

On the contrary, when others expect me to be closer to them, I give reasonable explanations.

Because I don’t like excitement in life, I still have requirements for a safe distance.

I don't like being restrained, and I don't like the chaos of everyone being crowded together.

However, I also deeply felt the love and ability of group members to cooperate and resolve conflicts when they encountered problems.

The first group sandbox ended successfully, and I look forward to greater gains in the following learning experiences.