Divergent topics
When chatting, you must have divergent thinking. Don’t grab a topic and talk from beginning to end. This will not work. For example, if the other party sends a picture of the food she cooked, don't always say that the food looks delicious and then stop talking about it. Instead, start with the food: how much did it cost to make this dish? Because girls usually come here. I'm more careful about budgeting, and I'm more interested in talking about things like expenses. I'll show you the dishes I cook, so that I can make comparisons and won't just stop at the deliciousness of the food.
In fact, it is not that difficult to spread a topic. For another example, if you chat with the other party about mobile phones, you can expand on many topics: what phone case you like, what brand of mobile phone you like, what software you commonly use, etc. These are all topics that can be discussed. Don’t just stay on the surface. . For many girls, you may think that they are cold and cold, but this is not necessarily the case. It's very likely that you didn't find a suitable topic to talk about, and the other party didn't know how to answer your words, so it was cold.
Learn humor
Everyone likes happy and funny things, and so do girls. If you always talk about very serious topics, such as life planning, it will be difficult to arouse the other person's *****. Of course, there are indeed girls who like to talk about this kind of topic, but there are so few that there is no point in discussing it. When you're having a cool moment, you have to show your sense of humor. You can find emoticons and jokes online, it's very simple. However, it should be noted that there is a problem here, that is, the problem of appropriateness.
To express your humor, it must be above the topic of the girl's post. Don't go beyond this scope, otherwise it will be very embarrassing and abrupt. It's like a girl saying that a certain star has fallen down. If you suddenly say that the sun will rise from the west tonight, it will make people feel confused. You must follow up on what the other person said and use humor instead of forcing humor. Boys who are full of joy are very popular wherever they go. If you try to be humorous, the problem of being cold will be easily solved.
Be prepared
Although chatting is not an exam, it is still difficult without any preparation. If you don’t know some of the other party’s information, such as where they are from, what they like to play and eat, their work status, etc., it will be difficult to have topics to talk about. In fact, if you want to understand each other, you can observe many places, and the real details will be revealed. For example, just a WeChat account can reveal a lot. The meaning of the other person's avatar, the meaning of the other person's ID, the other person's signature, etc., these can all reveal some of the girls' preferences.
If this girl is introduced by your friend, then you can get a general idea from your friend first, and then chat with her so that you won’t be left in the cold. The so-called "know yourself and your enemy, and you can fight a hundred battles without danger". Although this sentence is used in military terms, there is nothing wrong with it in emotional terms. Only by understanding each other and understanding each other can we find common topics. Even if you just met online, you can still learn something from the channels you met before, such as games, so that there will be no silence.
Learn to praise
In fact, both men and women like to hear nice words, especially when the other person praises them. Even if they sound false, they will be very useful. Because everyone really likes the feeling of being the protagonist. Complimenting the other person's behavior is, to put it harshly, "flattering". Many people may feel very disdainful when they see this, but in fact this method is very useful. When you praise, the other person will have other reactions, and then you can open other topics based on this reaction.
When you feel that the topic is a bit cold, praise the other person and the atmosphere will naturally relax. And there is actually a lot to praise. For example, the other person's appearance, skin and even clothing can be points for you to praise. There is a saying that says, "Don't hit the smiling person." Appropriate compliments will make the other person think you are "sweet" and open up the conversation again, which will naturally solve the problem of silence.