Wen/Cheng Yue with Jun

1

On the day my mother sent me a video chat, I was lying under the covers for a lunch break and was sleeping soundly.

After being awakened by a rush of ringing, I reluctantly grabbed my mobile phone and squinted it off at random, complaining impatiently: "Who is so ignorant, what video is sent at noon?".

then go back to sleep. But before long, the bell rang again, and when you look intently, it is mother!

"mom! You have finished, and you don't look at what time it is. You have to go to work later! " I said reproachfully.

she was silent for a moment and didn't speak. Maybe it's just that the signal is bad, or maybe my blame made her feel so wronged suddenly.

"Mom just wants to tell you that she has wrapped zongzi and wants to send you some. It's just cooked and still hot. Mom knows you like it." She finally spoke.

After that, she specially aimed the camera at her new package of zongzi. These zongzi are neatly lying on the table under her skillful hands, just like works of art.

"Eat by yourself. How can you get it so far away?" I quickly refused.

Today last year, Xiaobao was just born less than 111 days ago. Because I took maternity leave, I went back to my hometown and lived in the house my in-laws bought. My hometown is in S City, which is near the sea and mountains, and the location is unique.

The distance between the husband's family and the mother's family is not far, but two or three kilometers. Liu Shuji is a native of Jiangxi. After graduation, he came to Guangxi for my family and lived near her family.

many friends and relatives around me are not optimistic about this decision. In their view, first, the two families live close together and are prone to conflicts; Secondly, Secretary Liu will devote a lot of energy to taking care of his family, and care less about me.

But the reality is just the opposite. Because I am "swirling" from it, there has been no so-called discord for so many years, but as usual, I respect each other as guests.

Some people say that husband and wife are close, and the two families should be close, which is the most harmonious thing.

However, I hold the opposite view on the relationship between men and women, even the relationship between two families, and even the communication between people.

In my opinion, even intimate relationships need to keep a certain distance. Too lively feelings are often empty.

in this way, it is not necessarily a bad thing for two families to respect each other and be close to each other.

2

As I lived close to my mother during that time, she naturally took more care of me. Considering that it is not so convenient for us to take care of the children, she often buys some chicken, duck and fish and sends them to us by tram.

As for green vegetables, because I was worried about pesticide problems (because I ate unclean vegetables bought outside for dinner once when I was pregnant with Dabao, which led to food poisoning, and my mother guessed that there were pesticide residues), she planted all the vegetables she could grow herself, which was green, ecological, environmentally friendly and healthy.

Later, I went to work. In order to end the seven-year separation with Liu Shuji, I resigned and went to Nanning. Nanning and her mother's family are more than two hours' drive away, so meeting each other is much less.

First, she has to help take care of my little nephew, so she has little personal time. In her own words, she is too busy to even take pants, so she has no time to play. Secondly, because I am busy with work and have two young children, I can't get away from it often.

but my mother always thinks of me when she does something. My father said that since I got married and my little nephew had a rest at night, she would still open the door of my room from time to time, sweeping the east and touching the west, still mumbling.

I think she must have cried a lot in secret on my wedding night.

Usually, during the Chinese New Year and the holidays, she often cooks some snacks that I like to eat and asks me to bring them back when I go back. If I don't go back, she will ask others to help me. If no one really comes from Nanning, she will send a shuttle bus.

although I really like to eat my mother's snacks, I still say some harsh words to drown her wordiness, and I have nothing to do (because my mother has always been in poor health and often cries tired). My brother and I often see it in our eyes and it hurts in our hearts.

"There's nothing to fiddle about. It doesn't matter whether we eat these things or not, as long as you are in good health. Don't wait there to shout pain when it's finished. It's bad!" I said.

But no matter what we say, she doesn't feel at ease. She still likes to toss and turn. First, she makes zongzi, and then she grows vegetables and fruits.

"Mother's dumplings are filled with chestnut stuffing, and the stuffing is enough."

"Ciba has all kinds of flavors, sweet and salty, all of which you like to eat."

this dish is green and ecological, and the food outside is not so good. "

" Your mother likes to amuse herself, and she only knows how to sell these things every day. " My father, who is on the side, makes fun of her from time to time.

"What is entertaining and selling? Children like to eat and I like to do it." His smile upset his mother, so she quickly gave him a few thoughts with her hand and told him to shut up quickly.

3

Later, as a wife and a mother, I found that my mother's so-called "self-entertainment" was not just a kind of nonsense, but a kind of heartfelt dedication and self-satisfaction.

when children say they don't like eating, but they eat very well, that kind of happiness arises spontaneously.

Before I became a mother, I couldn't do anything. After I became a mother, I found myself with countless skills, making steamed bread, baked wheat cakes and various colorful nutritious meals for children.

when there is something delicious, people instinctively think of their children first. If children are picky and don't like eating, they will try their best to change their tastes.

Many times, I hope they will be satisfied with the "delicious food" that I have worked so hard to study.

"One minute on stage, ten years off stage, that's you. Don't feed them. They will eat when they are hungry." Every time I see me chasing after the newly developed food to feed my children, Liu Shuji is extremely distressed.

"Why don't you feed it? I've worked hard to make it. If I don't eat it quickly, it will get cold. If it gets cold, it won't taste good." I paid no attention to his sarcasm.

And every time I talk to my mother on video, I always have mixed feelings when I mention my child's recent healthy diet.

I suddenly seem to understand the meaning of that sentence: only by adopting a son can you know the kindness of your parents.

I also feel deeply that at some moments, I feel more and more like my mother, nagging, "messing around" and worrying ...

But that's a mother's nature, isn't it?

women are weak, but mothers are strong. I think how much mothers all over the world are alike! Their hearts are always the same, and every mother has a very pure heart.

and in this world, there is no better, more selfless, deeper and truer feeling than maternal love.

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