This morning, the air is crisp and clear.

The chill was so overwhelming that I couldn't get out of bed.

Recently, crazy Trump became the President of the United States, global stock prices suddenly plummeted, and Jacky Cheung’s concert filled the screen of the mobile phone ticket circle... When I was browsing the information on my mobile phone in a daze, my friend Xiaoman

Suddenly, she chatted with me privately on WeChat, and she said: "Why do girls immediately get teased when they talk about some dirty topics in public, especially boys? It makes the atmosphere a little awkward, and I really can't stand it." After hearing this, she crackled.

I complained, and I was shocked. To be honest, in my impression, Xiaoman was born to be a straight-forward girl, with quite a boyish personality.

She is very curious and likes to learn and try new things. She is naturally a typical life veteran.

Therefore, when we usually eat and chat together, we always have endless topics to talk about, and we can also make some very relaxing and inappropriate jokes.

However, she often complains that when she encounters many "weird" topics, she clearly understands them, but she is forced to pretend not to understand anything because of the eyes of others... So I replied to her.

In one sentence: "Everyone else is pretending to be serious." She directly replied to my voice: "Damn it, I know it, I hate those who are pretending to be sexy. Who wants girls to be portrayed as serious in public?

After all, we are all adults. "Yes, we are all adults, so we have the capital and ability to pretend to be serious, whether it is the pressure of complex interpersonal environments or a disguised self-protection.

It implies the rationality of pretending to be serious.

Regarding this, I can also understand why many girls talk to each other about dirty topics in the dormitory, but in public places, everyone pretends to be serious, consciously or unconsciously.

On the one hand, it may be to cater to the image of a pure and good girl in the eyes of boys, appearing reserved and introverted. On the other hand, it may be due to the strict family upbringing that has been unspoken since childhood.

Girls pretend to be serious because they are afraid. If they are not serious, they will give people a feeling of frivolity and seem to do things without thinking. This is also a long-standing assumption about women in a patriarchal society.

So girls can only maintain a serious appearance with trepidation.

When we were children, we had n more innocence and freedom, playing informally every day, and n+1 less pressure in life and worries about doing things. We were unrestrained, we didn’t have to look at other people’s eyes to do things, and others wouldn’t care about you.

Not serious.

At worst, if you do something wrong, you'll be beaten and scolded, and that's the end of it.

But in the adult world, pretending to be serious is the norm for both men and women.

It just so happened that there were examples of girls around me so I brought them up to talk about.

In "The Little Prince", adults who pretend to be serious are compared to "mushrooms". Compared with the delicate, thorny and lively fragrance of "roses", "mushrooms" give people the impression of being dull, rigid, pragmatic and boring.

And it's also poisonous.

Romance and vividness contrast with practical rules, but most people choose mushrooms as their gesture.

There are many traces of pretending to be serious in life.

For example, at a gathering of old classmates, a few elites were showing off their successful experiences. They were either CEOs of XX listed companies, or they owned several properties, or they were self-made entrepreneurial masters... As ordinary people

You young white-collar workers find that you can't get into the topic, so you suddenly think of a few jokes to liven up the atmosphere. But when they look at you seriously, you have to forcefully

Swallowing back the joke that reached the tip of his tongue.

For another example, as a girl, you dressed up beautifully and went to a certain mountain or a certain family area with some funny friends today. Unfortunately, you were accompanied by an elder.

When taking photos at scenic spots, you foolishly want to hold up your selfie stick with your hands high, pouting your little mouth filled with red glazed lips, and flashing your cute scissor hands. Unfortunately, your elders insist on taking a photo with you.

Faced with their serious but slightly smiling expressions, you still choose to give in and take a serious group photo together, but in your heart there are thousands of grass and mud horses galloping around.

When it's time to eat, you turn on the beauty camera in gourmet mode and prepare to wipe the card a few times. The elder said seriously: "There are no rules when eating. If you take any pictures, put them away."

From then on, I guarantee you will fall in love with this crazy trip even if you are alone.

If you are crazy, you don't have to pretend to be serious. You can jump around and add flash skills. You don't have to be afraid that if you flash, you will hit a cold black wall with: "Serious" engraved on it.

Pretend to be serious.

Perhaps it is the inherent rules of the adult world, a self-regulated behavior pattern.

It's not just about telling others about your maturity and stability, your etiquette qualities, it's more of a disguise tool to adapt to the environment.

But in life, there are always some people who like to pretend to be immoral.

They understand the rules of the game and do not want to finish their lives in a regular manner. They are a group of interesting and lively people who do not care about other people's opinions and are free and easy.

For example, they can make all kinds of jokes carelessly in public, eat and drink without scruples, and they can use various methods to flirt with girls and men, but they can try to balance it in the balance between work and life.

The difference between them and those who pretend to be serious is that, in addition to working diligently and diligently according to the rules of the game, those who pretend to be serious also need to please their leaders and let them see their efforts while using official accent to follow the crowd among similar people.

, talking eloquently, exuding the smell of excellence, making friends think that he is busy doing serious things all day long.

People who pretend to be immoral, on the surface, don't care about everything, and laugh all day long, which makes people feel that they are immoral.