Make air at home.
Why make air?
Parents become air at home, and you are around when children need you, but you can't let children feel you all the time. Although children can't live without you, don't let your sense of existence be so strong.
Air is your love and care for children, and these oxygen can be absorbed by children.
In what state does air exist?
Silent and indispensable.
Parents carefully post nutrition recipes and food on the kitchen wall and cook each meal carefully. Even in order to make it taste better, I went to Tik Tok to search how to make it and what fresh fancy food there is so that children can eat it with peace of mind. Don't deliberately emphasize how important the exam is, and don't pretend to be indifferent.
What is air? Give an example of my friend:
The year before last, her son went to college for two hours. My friend went to a nail salon and made beautiful nails.
After her son finished the exam, she said to the child, honey, mom used your exam time to do her nails. Do you think the color made by mom is beautiful this time? The child said, mom, this one is particularly beautiful.
The mother expressed this behavior to her children. You should test you. I should be beautiful. I am in no hurry to wait for you outside the school gate. Mother's calmness will invisibly bless the child's inner energy.
And my classmate said that she didn't ask the children at all. How did you do in the exam? She said that every time a child comes out of an exam, if he wants to talk, he will take the initiative to talk to you. If he doesn't say it, there must be a reason. If you are particularly anxious to take the initiative to ask, it is likely to affect your child's mood. Besides, what can we do even if the children tell us how the exam results are? (According to the children's usual grades, 985 is a bit hanging. Finally, the children will take 985, and it is the best major. )
Then what can we say? Son, you have worked hard! Are you tired? What do you want to eat?
To tell the truth, during the exam, what we can give our children is nothing more than a very calm, gentle and stable state, as warm and safe as a particularly large container. No matter how well the child does in the exam, he will immediately relax when he returns to his parents and home.
This is the best help we can give our children.
Don't always dangle in front of children, don't always pretend to care about reminding children of something, and don't brush the sense of existence. Do whatever you want, don't ask for trouble.
Why pretend to care?
Because you don't care about the key points, you make the children more nervous.
We need to make a good meal: not too greasy, light and delicious, make what children usually like to eat, and make sure that children's health will not go wrong.
Do a good job of service: try to avoid some accidents, such as taking the escalator if the floor you live in is not too high to prevent problems with the elevator; Whether the admission ticket is ready and the road is smooth, parents can do these realistic and meticulous questions.
Be a stable parent. Don't stay outside the examination room, where a group of parents are chatting, whose children got how many points in the mock exam and how many points in the recent exam. Talking about these things won't do you any good, it will only make you more anxious. You need to appear in front of the children in a natural and relaxed state.
In short, I always think that the role orientation in life is very important: children have their homework and parents have their homework.
What children need to do is to study hard and try to improve their debts. An important course for parents to learn is to study hard and improve their children's parenting skills (scientific parenting skills, such as communication skills, emotional management skills and cultivating children's self-identity). When we can manage our emotions well and handle our anxiety well, we can find effective ways to present ourselves in front of our children in a stable state.