When it comes to women in the Republic of China, besides Lin and Lu Xiaoman, there is such a strange girl. She grew up dressed as a good man, handsome and ambitious as a man.

She is the first female doctor of medicine in China. After she was 30, she married the best man in the world and gave birth to four daughters, all of whom were super schoolmasters.

She is Yang Buwei, the wife of Zhao Yuanren, a famous scholar. Zhao Yuanren, together with Wang Guowei, Liang Qichao and Chen Yinque, was once called "the Four Masters of Tsinghua".

Fu Sinian said of Yang Buwei: Talented women in the new era are heroes and heroes.

"I talk to people, and I talk to people very hard. If you intersect with me, I will intersect more than you; You are reasonable and I am more reasonable than you. "

She can directly sign her personality when evaluating her remarks. Only this one, no branches.

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Yang Buwei was born in a big family in Nanjing on 1889. His family has 128 big houses. His grandfather Yang Renshan was a famous Buddhist master in modern times.

Yang Buwei is her parents' daughter, but because her uncle has no children, she was adopted. Her uncle became her father, and her biological father became her uncle.

She was hurt by her mother, sister, adoptive parents and grandparents. And because grandpa has been to Europe, Yang Jia's family style is more open-minded than the average family.

Yang Buwei's childhood, it can be said, grew up in a honey pot-spoiled by an adult's family, but also free and independent, without constraints.

At the age of foot-binding, Yang Buwei resolutely refused and said a big truth: "Zhu Yuanzhang's original wife Ma Shi, with big feet, walked steadily, stood straight, walked far, climbed buildings and descended rivers."

Grandpa and father (adoptive father) both supported her: "Don't pester her if she doesn't want to."

At that time, the extended family did not allow children to ask questions casually, but no matter what questions Yang Buwei asked, his grandfather and father would answer them seriously and never perfunctory.

Once, seven-year-old Yang Buwei heard his grandfather and father talking about the western political system.

After returning to her room, she asked her father, "Do I also have the right to decide my own affairs?"

Father answered her very seriously: "People can't decide whether they want it or not when they have power. They must first see if things are right." You are still young, with knowledge and experience, you can judge things with your own strength. Foreigners cannot exercise their rights until they are 2 1 year old. "

In the process of growing up, Yang Buwei not only had enough food and clothing, but also got extremely rich spiritual nourishment from her grandfather and father. It can be said that she was really raised by rich people.

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Yang Buwei was raised as a son, always dressed as a boy, and all the servants called her "Little Third Mistress".

This "young master" was bold and stubborn, which once gave adults a headache.

When she was 7 years old, she wrote a song to make fun of her husband:

"Li Gansun, Mr. Zhao, no food;

Zhou Wuwang, Mr. No bed;

Mr. Chen Feng Chu Weiwang was not;

Mr Jiang Shen Han Yang has no mother. "

Mr. Wang taught them Confucius's words, "Don't eat if you don't cut it properly", which means that the meat you eat must be cut properly.

After hearing this, Yang Buwei even criticized Confucius for wasting food in public: "If he only eats diced meat, who will eat the remaining horns?"

There is another interesting thing. At that time, Li often visited Yang's house, and actually made a snowman in Li's quilt, which made the quilt and Li's pants wet.

When Li asked her about it, she was not afraid at all: "What proof do you have that I did it?"? Maybe you pee in your sleep and don't know it? "

She also slapped Li's ass five times with a ruler: "It's your own rotten ass that keeps you awake."

It was only at the age of 12 that Yang Buwei put on women's clothes for the first time and changed back to Miss San, but her generous and generous personality remained unchanged.

Seeing that Yang Buwei is strong-willed, "like a man, not a woman", his father taught his daughter to receive more education so that she could achieve something in the future.

He told Yang Buwei the stories of outstanding women in ancient and modern times, at home and abroad, and said to her, "Learning is always the most important thing for a person. Now I can let you read more books. I finally love you. "

/kloc-at the age of 0/6, Yang Buwei went to school with "the benefits of women's study". With a stroke of her pen, she wrote: "Women are also the mothers of the people." These brave words made the teacher sit up and take notice.

Yang Buwei is with friends.

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For the first time, Yang Buwei was able to really control his own destiny. He rebelled against the old marriage system and succeeded.

Before Yang Buwei was born, she was married by her grandmother. She will marry her second cousin in the future.

When Yang Buwei grew up, he didn't like this marriage, thinking that "this is his life and has nothing to do with others. Why can't he make his own decision? "

She asked her mother, "Why do I need others to decide for me when I get married?"

Mother couldn't answer her.

She made it clear to her grandfather that marriage should be her own decision and she would never marry her cousin.

Grandfather asked her, "Have you decided? Won't you regret it? "

Yang Buwei took a pen and paper and wrote a letter of divorce in front of Grandpa: "It is rare for me to show menstruation's kindness in the future, but it will embarrass my parents. It is better to save the present than to regret the future. "

Yang Buwei flatly refused: "That's ridiculous. Whether I get married or not depends on the people I know in the future. Naturally, I won't find someone to marry just to break the custom. I won't marry until I have a good one. "

This marriage declaration was an earth-shattering event at that time. Even today, many women may not have this kind of consciousness and courage.

After winning the freedom of marriage, Yang Buwei felt that "for the first time in my life, I am my own person."

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At the age of 23, Governor Bai of Anhui asked her to be the principal of the school, and promised that her salary could be used as her tuition for studying medicine abroad in the future.

Yang Buwei, who didn't teach all day, really went to be the principal.

Unexpectedly, Yang Buwei managed the school in perfect order. Yang Buwei separated older and illiterate girls from more than 500 girls, and let them learn knitting, sewing and embroidery. For literate girls, she is divided into two primary schools and two middle schools according to her grades.

A rebellion surrounded the governor's residence in the school. Yang Buwei calmly commanded the guards to fight and called for support. Finally, all the rebels were disarmed.

Bai praised afterwards: "You can be a female army commander."

After one year as president, Yang Buwei went to Tokyo Imperial University to study medicine according to his own wishes, and received his doctorate at the age of 3 1.

After returning home, Yang Buwei and his classmates opened Senren Hospital in Beijing, offering obstetrics and gynecology and pediatrics.

Yang Buwei, the hospital director, does everything by himself. He goes to the clinic in the morning and afternoon, and often delivers babies in the middle of the night.

She summed up her experience as "seeing hundreds of people's illnesses and taking over hundreds of children's lives."

Yang Buwei is the first generation of female doctors in medicine, the first generation of obstetricians and gynecologists in western medicine, and the first female dean.

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Yang Buwei is very successful in his studies and career, but he is still single over 30.

"Your temper is too grumpy. Who dares to marry you at this rate? " My friend gave me good advice, but Yang Buwei didn't care: "I like it when I understand it."

Fate never let her down. At the age of 365,438+0, Yang Buwei met the only thrill-Zhao Yuanren, a genius three years younger than himself.

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When they met at a friend's party, Yang Buwei asked Zhao Yuanren, "What do you study?"

-"Philosophy."

-"Why do good people learn philosophy?"

When Zhao Yuanren came back from abroad, he was well-informed and had never met an opponent in his life, which made him complacent.

It was not until he met Yang Buwei that he discovered that there was such an interesting woman who didn't play cards according to common sense, loved to challenge stereotypes, and was extremely intelligent and insightful.

After knowing each other for a period of time, Zhao Yuanren got up the courage to express his love to Yang Buwei in Zhongshan Park, and they formally exchanged views.

At that time, Yang Buwei's career had just started, and he was busy with hospital affairs all day. Zhao Yuanren could only meet briefly every day.

After a while, she asked Zhao Yuanren, "Do you think we can get married like this? I can't help doing things. "

Zhao Yuanren replied, "I know you like doing things. You may change a little. "

A year later, they got married. Supposedly, both of them are from big families, so the wedding should not be very luxurious, at least formal.

But the two feel that getting married is entirely their own business. They decided to break all the conventions and customs, and the simpler the ceremony, the better.

1 921June1day, Zhao Yuanren and Yang Buwei invited their old friends Hu Shi and Zhu Zheng to dinner, and Yang Buwei personally cooked four home-cooked dishes.

After dinner, Zhao Yuanren took out a document and asked two friends to sign it as witnesses. Hu Shi and Zhu Zheng realized today that they were married.

As for other relatives and friends, they sent more than 400 copies of personals and even told the world that they were married.

The wedding notice is written like this:

"Dr. Zhao Yuanren and the Yang Buwei medical daughter respectfully presented this temporary notice to relatives and friends, telling you that before this letter arrived, they had got married independently in Beijing at 3 pm on June 192 1 day, when the average standard of the sun was east longitude 120 degrees."

They even returned the flower basket sent by Aunt Zhao Yuanren, because it was neither written nor music.

Yang Buwei has always been proud of this wedding: "Our wedding without ceremony was not only a sensation at that time, but even now, many people still want to learn from Mr. and Mrs. Zhao Yuanren's wedding ceremony, but they have never learned it."

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After marriage, Yang Buwei resigned as the hospital director and willingly became a "housewife". Of course, with her character, being a housewife is also restless.

When Zhao Yuanren was working in Tsinghua, Yang Buwei thought the food in the canteen was not delicious, so he opened a restaurant at his own expense. Because the food is full and delicious, students flock to it.

After a while, besides Tsinghua students, Yanjing students also came, and city people came to buy seats. Yang Buwei took the trouble and transferred the restaurant.

She opened a small clinic, thinking that the poor needed medical treatment most but had no money, and came up with a way: those who had the ability could introduce three people to see a doctor for free by leaving 20 yuan. Unfortunately, the situation is not good, and the clinic closed not long after it opened.

She also organized a "Santai Company" with two other wives to recruit girls from nearby, teach them to make various handicrafts, and wholesale the finished products to shops or sell them themselves.

When they were in America, they were in financial distress for a while. Yang Buwei made his own cloth bags and sold them to American professors and wives. The money sold is used to rent a house for dinner.

Yang Buwei and Zhao Yuanren.

Yang Buwei is very bold. Even if she is Mrs. Zhao, she will never "converge"

When she first went to America, she was pregnant and couldn't speak a word of English. She dared to walk around the street alone, gesticulating with her hands, buying ice cream and sandwiches for lunch and a big bag of daily necessities.

After decades in the United States, Yang Buwei's English is still poor and she often makes grammatical mistakes, which does not prevent her from chatting with anyone.

When my friend heard Yang Buwei speak English, he couldn't help sighing, "Mrs. Zhao is so bold."

Yang Buwei proudly replied, "What am I afraid of? If you dare not do anything in the world, how can you do it? "

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What is even more enviable is that this family, from parents to daughter-in-law, is a super university tyrant.

Needless to say, the genius Zhao Yuanren is not only a linguist, musician, mathematician and physicist, but also proficient in philosophy and logic. He has taught in many famous universities such as Harvard, Yale and Tsinghua.

He is gifted in language, knows 33 local dialects and is familiar with English, German, French, Japanese, Russian, Greek and Latin. He is simply a walking dictionary and a translator.

Yang Buwei is the first generation female doctor of medicine in China. Although she has not made great academic achievements in her life, she has a wide range of interests, learns everything quickly, and gets particularly good grades in science when she is studying.

Family photo

Zhao Rulan, the eldest daughter, graduated from Harvard University and is the first Chinese female professor in Harvard. Theodore Hsueh-Huang Pian, the eldest son, is a famous authority on computational mechanics, a tenured professor at MIT and an academician of the American Academy of Engineering.

The second daughter, Zhao Xinna, graduated from Harvard University and is a famous chemist. The second son, Huang Peiyun, is the founder of powder metallurgy in China, an academician of China Academy of Engineering and a professor at Central South University.

The third daughter, Zhao, graduated from the University of California at Berkeley and is a professor at Cornell University. The third son-in-law Zuo is a professor at Washington University.

The fourth daughter, Zhao, graduated from Cornell University and is a professor at MIT.

Among the four daughters, only the youngest daughter has an unfortunate marriage, which has become a regret in her parents' hearts.

family

In educating children, Yang Buwei's philosophy is to interfere with their growth as little as possible, not to blame them, but to encourage them to be brave.

Once my second daughter crashed her car into a tree and the front cover of the car was knocked open. My daughter is too scared to drive.

Yang Buwei was sitting in the car, but she didn't blame her daughter at all, and she wasn't afraid. Instead, she always comforted her: "Never mind, you can drive again. Walk slowly. You drive the best. Don't be afraid to drive. "

Encouraged by her mother, her daughter overcame her fear and drove all the way to her destination.

"If a person doesn't do well, the most important thing is not to blame him at that time, nor to say that you can't do it anymore. We should encourage him to move forward and help him regain his confidence. " Yang Buwei said.

In educating children, Zhao Yuanren never forces them, but encourages them to enjoy themselves.

When teaching his daughters pinyin, he will compose music and teach them to sing while playing the piano. In the evening, he will take a flashlight and take his daughter to see the stars.

Of course, there are good genetic reasons for the achievements of the four daughters, and we can also learn from the idea of parents encouraging and guiding education.

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Although Yang Buwei gave up her career after marriage, she never wanted to be a professor's wife.

She has published many books.

China Cooking Book introduces the food customs and cultures in China in detail, with concise words and vivid humor. It has been translated into more than 20 languages and has become a bible for westerners to understand China cuisine.

The autobiography of a woman tells the story of her growth. The language is straightforward and interesting, and it sells well.

Miscellaneous Notes Zhao Jia describes her married life with Zhao Yuanren and hundreds of the most famous scholars of her time.

Yang Buwei and Zhao Yuanren.

However, with her talent and ability, Yang Buwei should have made greater achievements in her career. I wonder if this is the only regret in her life.

Yang Buwei's real name is Yunqing, but her good friend said, "You will be a great person in the future. Tell him not to be afraid. "

My grandfather once said, "Although my granddaughter is a woman, her ambition is stronger than that of men."

Yang Buwei himself said: "Marriage will inevitably take up a lot of time and spirit for the cause, and as a result, it is likely to lose a woman's chance to reach the highest position in the bank."

But Yang Buwei did not regret his choice: "It is not shameful for a woman to be interested in being a housewife. However, if she learns more and experiences more as an adult, the more she can regard the development of her family as an opportunity for her knowledge growth, and she will not shirk her retrogression. "

She advised women to "get as much education as possible at first, and it is best to do something before getting married."

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It's hard to see a woman like Yang Buwei who has lived all her life.

She is the earliest modern new woman in China. In that era when women were mostly conservative, she resisted the bondage of society to women, insisted on independence and dared to do it all her life.

Her thoughts are far ahead of the times, and even today, she is more advanced than many people.

Whether fighting for freedom of marriage before marriage, going to Japan to study medicine, establishing a hospital, or having children and taking care of the family after marriage, she is making her own choices on her own initiative and never regrets.

Her words: "I am me, not others."

How many people take this sentence as a declaration of life, and how many people can really do it? She did it!

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