Although Fang is only thirteen years old, he "goes to the kitchen under the hall". Because my brother is still young, my parents are busy with work, and sometimes they have no time to cook. At this time, the first thing for Fang to go home is to cook. She has mastered pots and pans at an early age, and cooking a table of home cooking is simply fatal.
I can cook at an early age and help my parents share housework, so that A Fang can be independent from an early age. Such children can reassure their parents wherever they go.
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I think of one of my junior high school classmates-Han. Han's personality is very independent and strong. He always actively answers questions in class. She has been cooking since she was a child. When I was in junior high school, I got up early to make breakfast every day, not only for myself, but also for my younger brothers and sisters who got up late.
I asked her why her parents didn't make breakfast for the children. She said that her parents worked very hard and were very tired. In any case, she will get up early at school, cook by herself and let her parents sleep a little longer.
When I was in high school, we were in different classes in the same school. She studies science and I study liberal arts.
In my sophomore year, the olive branch of the SM2 project of the Singapore government also extended to our school. Their goal is to recruit excellent science students from Chinese mainland to study in Singapore, and the Singapore government will provide tuition and living expenses. After studying for one year, students enter universities in Singapore and work in Singapore for six years after graduation. After that, you can go back to China or stay in Singapore.
Han passed the exam with excellent results and went to Singapore.
In the inland town of 1998, Han's carp Yue Longmen is really enviable for those of us who are struggling to prepare for the exam.
Many years later, after hearing her news, she stayed in Singapore to get married and have children, with a successful career and a happy family.
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Jessica Hester Hsuan, my friend's child, can cook since he was a child, but this is another story. My friend and her husband work leisurely, but neither of them will get up early to cook for Xuan. Either buy some breakfast for the children on the way, or the children get up early to eat and leave two more bowls for their parents who haven't got up yet.
Usually, their kitchens are hardly used, and it is more common to order takeout and eat out. Sometimes, Xuan wants to eat some home-cooked food, so she has to help herself. My friend is very proud of the announcement of cooking. She feels that she has taught her children well, which she also calls "cultivating children's independent ability".
As we all know, when Xuan came to my house to see the delicious food I cooked for the children, she complained a little: My parents won't cook such delicious food for me. If I want to eat it, I must cook it myself. When I saw the child say this, there was a sadness in his eyes that was out of proportion to his age.
In the same year, Xuan and her daughter were not very cheerful. They liked to play mobile phones and had no hobbies. He is not active in the class and doesn't like to take part in any activities in the class. He is a relatively silent child.
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The story that Japanese girl Ahua can cook at the age of five made many parents cry. Ahua's mother, Qian Hui, is seriously ill. In order to let her young daughter learn how to cook, she was assigned the job of preparing breakfast when she was five years old. She taught her daughter how to hold a knife, wash vegetables and cook. When I first saw Ahua using a knife, my mother Qian Hui said, "It was scary at that time, but I kept quiet and didn't reach out." .
Qianhui believes that knowing how to cook means knowing how to live, and learning can be put in the second place. As long as you are healthy and self-reliant, you can live wherever you go and whatever you do in the future.
Qian Hui died in 2008. In the book "Children who can cook can live wherever they go" written by the Qian Hui family, the idea of educating children is put forward: If you love children, you should teach them the ability to live independently.
Ahua is doing very well now. She gets up at five in the morning to make breakfast. She said that this is her agreement with her mother, and the moment of cooking is "the happiest time in life!" "After dinner, play the piano for a while, study for a while, and then go to school. Qian Hui will laugh at her daughter's present living condition!
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The story of Ahua tells us that whether children want to cook or not must be based on the love and guidance of their parents. "Parents' love for their children is far-reaching. "Parents who treat their children as individuals and love them will cultivate their children's ability to cook and do other housework very early.
Willent, a Harvard scholar, spent more than 40 years following and observing 256 Boston teenagers. The conclusion is that when children are young, their ability to keep good relations with all kinds of people is twice that of children who don't like labor, their income increases by five times, and their unemployment loss decreases by 65,438+06 times. Their health is much better and their lives are full, because labor can enable children to acquire various abilities and feel useful to society.
As the core part of housework, cooking is more conducive to children's growth.
If a child can cook, train the flexibility of his hands in the process of cooking, and the nerve bundles on his hands lead to the brain, which will promote the development and perfection of brain neurons; Mastering the cooking steps skillfully and learning to make overall plans will transfer this ability in various occasions.
If children can cook, they will make mistakes and correct them in the process of cooking, and they will find ways to solve problems themselves, so that they can cultivate their self-confidence and the spirit of overcoming difficulties. German educator karl witte said when talking about how to educate his son Carl Jr.:
Many parents think that children can only do something at a certain stage. This view is actually incorrect. I never thought of it that way. What I value is to establish Carl's self-confidence in his young mind.
If children can cook, they won't develop the bad habit of "opening their mouths with food and reaching out with clothes", and they won't rely on their parents for everything and become an "old man" spurned by everyone. Recently, the "26-year-old boy who is still wearing diapers in his mother's house" is estimated to be a guy whose fingers don't touch water.
If a child can cook, he will experience the hard-won three meals in cooking and be more considerate of his parents' hard work; If a child can cook, he will have a deeper understanding of human happiness and love life more under the influence of fireworks.
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It is not difficult to make children love cooking. Parents should be good at seizing opportunities. At the stage when children imitate adult games, they should be actively guided, starting from knowing the kitchen and gradually transitioning to washing and cutting vegetables and using gas. When children are interested in cooking, parents should never say: What can a young child do? No need to help, just play. This casual behavior will dampen children's enthusiasm for learning cooking, and when they grow up, children can only stand by and watch adults cook.
Cultivating children's habit of loving cooking is not developed overnight, and parents need to constantly strengthen it. However, parents must never regard their children as labor. Just like Xuan mentioned above, her mother's euphemistic "independent education" is actually an escape from being responsible for herself.
Parents still don't think that cooking is an expression of love for their families, but an inevitable job. How to make children feel love and enjoy cooking? Parents still cope with life irresponsibly and rashly. How can children be self-sufficient and confident, and how can they gain enthusiasm for life?
Cultivate children's habit of loving cooking, and don't use cooking as a means to punish children, let alone strengthen it with material or money, but strengthen it with praise and encouragement.
In short, all this stems from parents' love for their children.