(1) After being a full-time mother at home for a long time, it is inevitable that sometimes I feel depressed and find friends to chat and vent.

? I talked endlessly about the tedious housework, the loneliness in my heart, the hardship of raising children, and the nostalgia for my working life back then.

? A friend in the system strongly advised me not to be a stay-at-home mother anymore, but it would be better to leave my children in care and go out to find a good job while I am young.

? This is what makes me conflicted and depressed.

When my children were young, no one could help me, and conditions were not good enough to afford a nanny, so I had no choice but to resign and go home to take care of the children by myself.

? Now that the children are getting older and starting to go to school, they no longer need to take care of them as they did when they were children.

But my father and I both feel that this is an important stage for cultivating good habits, and we are not worried about the study and life of our children who are left in care.

?I told my friends, and also myself, to wait a few more years. When my children can learn and live independently and consciously, I will go out and work hard.

? A friend asked me as if he hates the iron: If you wait a few years and you don’t need to worry so much about your children, you will be over forty by then, and the better job recruitment has age restrictions, what else can you do?

What to do?

Cleaning?

? After hearing this, I suddenly felt extremely panicked.

?(2) ?My friend is absolutely right. The employment pressure in society is already very high and the competition is already fierce. How much more will it be in a few years?

In a few years, there will only be more capable young people and competition will only become more intense.

? And for a woman in her forties who has stopped working for many years, she is neither old nor young. What advantages can she retain when she moves from family to society?

?In terms of external image, no matter how much you pay attention to maintenance, I am afraid that the wrinkles at the corners of your eyes cannot be hidden even if you put on heavy makeup.

You have already unknowingly ignored a lot of industry information, and the abilities you were proud of back then can no longer be used; ? In terms of work enthusiasm, after working hard at housework for many years, I am afraid that your energy and physical fitness have long declined, and you still have family and children to need.

How can worries outshine the bravery of a fledgling?

? Under such disadvantages, how can you still find a place in a good job?

The waves behind the Yangtze River push the waves in front, and the waves in front are beaten to death on the beach.

I’m afraid I really have to go clean!

? The more I think about it, the more panic I get.

I have no professional discrimination, nor do I look down on cleaning, a profession that serves the public.

There is no distinction between high and low professions. They all rely on hard work in exchange for income.

?This kind of profession not only makes our environment more pleasing to the eye, but also provides people with little knowledge and skills with the opportunity to realize value and support their families.

? But it is undeniable that cleaning occupations are relatively low-end. Although they do not require high diplomas or good skills, the work is tiring and the income is low.

?In such a profession, if something unfortunate happens and you have to deal with a marriage crisis or a life crisis, although it is better than without a job, it is not enough.

? In such a profession, would you first consider choosing it if you have a higher diploma and a higher starting point in work?

?I don’t know how to do it anyway.

Maybe you will have to choose it in the end, but you will certainly not consider choosing it first.

? In this case, what should I do now so that I will not be so embarrassed when I am in my forties in a few years?

(3) I decided to find the answer from the stay-at-home mothers I know who did not return to work until they were in their forties after their children went to study abroad.

?Sister Wang, graduated from college, used to be an ordinary clerk in a private enterprise, and later resigned to become a full-time mother. She loves literature.

After my daughter was admitted to college, she returned to work and successfully joined a private company as an office director. She was also highly appreciated by her leaders.

Because she had already obtained the intermediate secretary qualification certificate and accounting qualification certificate when she came back, her writing skills were better than many others.

? Sister Li, graduated from kindergarten and worked as a kindergarten teacher.

Later, in order to accompany and educate her children, she resigned and returned home to become a full-time mother.

After his son was admitted to college, he returned to work and successfully entered an education and training institution as a teacher.

Because she has been very successful in educating her daughter and has rich parenting experience, she has accumulated several thick notebooks on educational experiences and reflections.

? Sister Tang, who does not have a high degree of education, used to work in a clothing store before becoming a full-time mother.

I usually pay attention to maintenance and grooming, and keep my figure in good shape.

After my son was admitted to college, he opened a clothing store and the business was very good.