"Eat without speaking, sleep without speaking."

Ancient people, up to the court audience, down to dress and eat, a pile of pieces have strict rules. These regulations for ordinary people may not necessarily follow all, but for the scholar with a certain status, in most cases it is a habit and nature that he has incorporated into his life.

Zeng Guofan, who was strict with his children at home, set up many rules at home." Throughout his life, he was strict in ruling his army, his family, cultivating his body and nurturing his character, practicing the highest pursuits of feudal scholars who established merit, speech and virtue."

Such a politician and strategist, who was strict in disciplining himself and equally strict in treating others, once avoided a wrong decision by figuring out a person's temperament because of a single meal, and at the same time, warned us that people with this kind of behavior at the dinner table should never be made friends with in depth, so, what happened in the end?

1, the nuances see the real chapter

Zeng Guofan was born in 1811, is Hunan Xiangyan. His life was spent in the midst of China's national weakness, and although he was able to save the country, he was ultimately unable to save the building from falling. Zeng Guofan was always self-reflective, and his character was appreciated and admired by many at the time and in later generations, and he himself was "regarded as a model of moral cultivation by later generations".

To be recognized by the majority of people, this requires not only a high level of personal cultivation, but also a very high level of emotional intelligence and skills in getting along with others. The ability to observe from the details of a person's true location, so as to timely prevention and prevention, will do things just right, which will allow people to always be invincible.

The late Qing dynasty wanted to set up a brave and courageous team out of thin air, and it was very difficult to do so. At that time, the enemy was very well armed, and the local army of the Qing Dynasty not only did not have a lot of armaments enough to fight against each other, but also did not even have enough money to pay for their troops.

But in this case, in order to be able to do his part for the country, Zeng Guofan still took on the task of eliminating the rebels, and immediately began to recruit talented people from all over the world.

At the time, transportation around the world was not as developed as it is now, and technology hadn't advanced to the point where you could learn about the folklore of other places through the Internet.

In order to facilitate the unified management, but also in order to minimize the situation in their own ranks because of the different customs of the different regions and the emergence of suspicion, Zeng Guofan decided to be based in his hometown of Hunan, through the recruitment of local people to form a cohesive Xiang army.

Wanting to set up an army that meets a certain standard in all aspects as soon as possible in a short period of time, the selection of people is a crucial part of the process, and only when you can quickly judge a person's real situation through details is it possible to set up an army that is as comprehensive as possible.

When Zeng Guofan spread the news of the formation of the army, soon a simple and honest-looking fellow villager came to join him.

2, not even a fraction of a mile

The selection of people, a carelessness may be a total loss. Because of the importance of this army, Zeng Guofan was very careful in the selection of the army.

In ancient times, people were born in the same hometown is very important, there are many gangs in the court are built on the basis of the same hometown, therefore, Zeng Guofan wanted to set up the Hunan army because it is his hometown, hometown what the situation, he naturally knows best, and secondly, in his hometown to set up an army convenient for him to manage close to the home, even if they have something, their own family members will be able to take over as soon as possible.

In fact, if the Hunan army is successful, the status of his hometown can be improved to some extent. But if the formation of the Xiang army fails, then not only will the formation of the Xiang army in the future become more difficult, even in front of the court Zeng Guofan will not be able to deliver.

Because of the difficulties of building an army, and the great expectations of his hometown, as long as the people who come to join the army are pure in heart, honest and pure, and can meet their own requirements in all aspects, Zeng Guofan is very welcome to them.

But in a seemingly very loyal and honest fellow townspeople came to Zeng Guofan here to say they want to ask for a position, Zeng Guofan's heart is a little bit of a rejection.

The army itself was created to quell the rebellion, and if all those who joined the army thought only of becoming officials and enjoying power, then the army would not be able to go very far. Just as Zeng Guofan was about to refuse, the man reacted quickly and said that he had come to join the army not for the sake of promotion and wealth, he just wanted to contribute to the motherland, and wanted to dedicate himself to the development of the Xiang army.

His appearance seems to give people a very trustworthy feeling, with his words of commitment and assurance, Zeng Guofan's inner heart began to refuse to start some slowly wavering.

"The man who is for the world is also different from the horse herder. Also go to its harm horse only carry on!" If the original personnel quality of the army because of a mistake mixed into a batch of black sheep, then this caused by the loss is incalculable. Sometimes it's just a matter of observing the details in the millimeters.

In order to be able to confirm the real quality of this fellow townsman, Zeng Guofan at the end of the special invitation to dine with him. At the table, the fellow villager saw simple dishes of various colors and rice that had been mixed with coarse grains. Out of habit, he picked out all the coarse grains from the fine rice almost without a second thought.

To be able to pick out the grains of rice slowly and methodically while eating shows that this fellow villager does not have much knowledge of hunger, and to be able to pick out all the coarse grains with precision and eat only the fine rice shows that this fellow villager does not have a clear idea of the army life, and therefore he cannot be ready to commit himself to the hard life of the army. In other words, what he really thinks is that he is an officer and enjoys his happiness as he has shown at the very beginning.

3, strict teacher out of high students

Zeng Guofan through their own careful observation, successfully for their own army to avoid a possible disaster. Under Zeng Guofan's careful and strict selection and training, a well-trained, combat strength of the Xiang army was quickly formed.

For the task of pacifying the rebellion, Zeng Guofan relied on the Xiang army, which was formed in a short period of time, and succeeded in defeating the rebels after many twists and turns." On December 2, Zeng Guofan captured Tianjiazhen, killed tens of thousands of enemies, burned 5,000 boats, and entered the siege of Jiujiang."

The battle with the rebels was not a smooth one, with many setbacks, and if the army had been filled with people who were only willing to enjoy themselves and not to suffer as much as that fellow villager, it would have collapsed and died before it could wait for the final victory.

Details of the character, Zeng Guofan through the details of the dinner table to observe the rejection of a greedy people, but also through more details of the observation of their own Xiang army later laid a solid foundation for success.