Rewatching Sex and the City the other day, I realized that girls all over the world struggle with the same thing:

Why won't my boyfriend introduce me to his friends?

Why won't my boyfriend introduce me to his parents?

Kelly, the heroine, has been tearing up Mr Big, the hero, for several episodes over this.

My ex-colleague Pippi was also depressed about this for a long time.

She and her boyfriend have been together for three years.

On one occasion, his boyfriend ate seafood allergies, the next day when he went to work and forgot to take the medicine to go, she was very worried, lunch is not eaten, special half of Shenzhen, to go to the boyfriend to send medicine. After the results went to realize that the original boyfriend has been with their own underground love.

None of her boyfriend's coworkers knew she existed.

When they saw her, they all joked with her boyfriend, saying, "Oh, who is this beautiful woman, she's not your girlfriend, is she?

PiPi inwardly spat, recently? We're an old married couple.

The key is that her boyfriend did not recognize her at all, but stammered, "This is just my schoolmate. And then he pulled her out of the room, like she was some kind of a pariah.

They had a big fight that night.

Pippi remembered a lot of things.

She and her boyfriend met when they were in college in Shanghai.

Then both of them were working part-time at Star XK, they were from different schools, and her boyfriend was two grades above her.

The boyfriend never took her to his school.

Friend circle also never posted anything related to her.

It was as if she never existed.

She consoled herself by saying that maybe her boyfriend was like that in character and cared more about his privacy.

Women are always talented at helping their boyfriends make excuses.

After graduating from college, she could have stayed in Shanghai, but she still wanted to be with her boyfriend, so she went to his city, Shenzhen.

It was thought that now their relationship was stable and they could talk about the future.

As a result, her boyfriend still didn't include her in his world.

She doesn't know any of his coworkers;

She hasn't met any of his friends.

We all reminded Pippi that if he changed his cell phone number or his job, he could evaporate and you'd never find him again.

That's too scary.

This Pippi put up with - it's been such a long relationship, she said, it's not good to break up over something like that, is it?

The first Mid-Autumn Festival in Shenzhen, she was unfamiliar with the area and had no one to turn to, so she hoped that her boyfriend could stay with her, however, he left her at his rental house in Baishi Zhou and went back to his parents' house in Xiangmeihu to spend the festival by himself.

That was the first time she seriously thought about whether her boyfriend really cared about her feelings.

After the incident of giving her boyfriend medication, her sense of unease became even stronger.

She wanted to give her boyfriend another chance - in fact, women often already know that the other person doesn't love them at this point, but are reluctant to admit it.

The so-called "give the other side another chance" is just to give herself a step down.

Just as the Mid-Autumn Festival was approaching, she told her boyfriend, "I've been in Shenzhen for so long, and I haven't even visited your parents, so I feel very rude. I've already prepared a gift, I'd better deliver it in person ......"

That's a pretty decent way to put it.

However, her boyfriend's reply was, "My parents don't like foreigners, and I haven't told them about you yet, so it's not a good idea for you to come in such a hurry."

Rapidly? Together for three years, replaced by a rash ......

Heh.

This time she really dead heart, decisive and boyfriend break up.

Two months later, she is still in the love injury can not come out, the result is to hear, boyfriend and female colleagues together.

They had been having an affair before.

It was only a month after they finalized their relationship that he took the girl back to meet his parents.

The irony is that the girl, too, is a so-called "outsider".

Some people say, "If he's hot and cold with you, there's only one reason he's doing it for the other guy".

Think so.

If a man in the social circle completely refrigerated you, there are just a few reasons:

First, he has a room, you were a small three, you are not allowed to see the light of the existence;

Second, he is engaged in ambiguity with other people, or intend to engage in ambiguity with other people in the future, the public you, you will be cut off from his other flowers and grasses;

Third, he felt that you conditions Not good enough (not pretty enough, not rich enough, not good enough family), not conducive to his bragging and pretending, so he is lazy sun.

Fourth, he and you in this relationship, just will be. You were never in his future plans.

The truth is so cruel.

It's definitely not a character issue that he's shielding you from his world, it's just that he doesn't love you enough.

Went back to Shenzhen a while ago and heard what Pippi had been up to, and it was just awesome!

She now has a boyfriend who is a total wife-show-off.

The current boyfriend calls her Piggy, and every day her circle of friends is like this:

Piggy, today is our 45th day together, I miss you.

Piggy, lined up in the afternoon to buy a brined goose, brought it home for you to eat tonight.

Piggy, I'm traveling, you have to take care of yourself, do not forget to eat dinner.

It is said that under Pippi's boyfriend's friend circle, it is full of vomiting emoticons.

It's a good thing I'm not his friend, or I'd be sick to my stomach too. But from the standpoint of Pippi's friend, this kind of thing is simply delightful.

He was so high profile with his tan that Pippi was embarrassed and told him to tone it down.

He said, "I can't help it if I've found such a nice girlfriend. If I could, I'd like to go on the newscast and talk about it.

Whenever he goes to any social occasion, he always brings Pippi with him, even to his company's Christmas party and annual meeting, he has to bring Pippi with him, so that Pippi has become familiar with the boss of the company, the director, the receptionist, and the cleaning aunts.

This November, Pippi's boyfriend took her back to Guangzhou.

His family is a native of Guangdong, the boyfriend specially instructed his mother, said PiPi is Hunan, like to eat spicy, remember to PiPi to do a few spicy dishes, otherwise she is not used to eating.

His mom then really did give Pippi chopped pepper fish, chopped pepper ribs, stir-fried yellow beef and taste shrimp.

Honestly, these dishes tasted weird, but Pippi was especially, especially moved.

Her boyfriend bought the Hunan recipes and said, "I'll make them for you next time, I'm a better cook than my mom."

This is probably what it looks like when a man really falls in love with a woman.

Can't wait to be nice to her.

Can't wait to announce it to the world.

The most touching words of love are "Let me take you to meet your parents."

For the Chinese, meeting your parents is very ceremonial.

Represents that he is willing to develop with you for a long time and wants to have a serious relationship with you on the premise of marriage.

The best way to love someone and give her a sense of security is to take her home with you.