After being married for 12 years, Mrs. Chen specially reminded me that the third wife is in power, is the first wife really worthless? Ordered me to mention an article to remind you men and women in boundless love to cherish those who sleep beside you. ..

"But in fact, if you get along with the same partner for a long time, you will really encounter the dilemma of fried rice ..." I whispered. "No matter you, please find a solution for me ... otherwise ..." Mrs. Chen said loudly, so ... the following Special Issue of Fried Cold Rice came out.

After years of getting along (or getting married), what problems will fried rice encounter? According to several well-known foreign sexology research centers, the following six common questions are put forward. Of course, just asking questions is not the style of clinicians. The following suggestions are put forward together.

1. Old objects, old faces, old places, old moves: When people get along with each other for a long time, their familiarity will really decrease, and many things will become routine (so fried rice is also called things). But friends who are familiar with neuroscience or hermon will know that this will reduce dopamine.

Antidote: transformation ..

Of course, old friends and old wives can't be changed casually, just like the main course, but appetizers, sauces, desserts, dishes, decorations and so on. You can change ... in case innocent readers don't understand, please take the following prescription as appropriate.

A. Change places: the dining room (the kitchen is ok, if it is big enough, it needs cleaning), the living room, the bathroom, the garden, the front yard (if your family has it ...) ... Of course, motorcycles are also a good choice in various situations (make some budgets ... and don't crowd on Valentine's Day).

B. another time: always at night, exhausted after work ... so another time, sometimes there will be cheating on fu. ..

C. Changing posture: Well, I won't elaborate on this point, but I remind you that before changing posture, you should tell your partner the source of the quotation, whether it is the Internet or the A-level teaching film, and even put this article. I believe this will be your lifeline. Outpatient service and daily life tell me that if a recruit pops up suddenly, it will be suspicious and be careful to become evidence of cheating.

2. Too busy, too tired: If you have a family or even children, you will know that after a busy day, all the chores and children may be settled, and you still have time, but you are also tired.

Antidote: Take a romantic break, yes, just a romantic moment!

In fact, it is to rearrange the order, put aside the garbage given to work, housework and a bunch of nonsense, and leave the priority to the other half. In short, we should deal with it with the attitude and mood of "dating". For those friends who are still picky and have no time and opportunity, present the jingle on the internet ... "Time is like a career line, just squeeze it; Opportunity is like a baby. If you hold it tightly, it will grow bigger ... "Got it ... Go and arrange the time!

3. Stranger's explanation: In addition to the possible reduction of time together, the most important thing is that the "quality of getting along" has become worse. The person next to the pillow seems to have become the nearest stranger.

Antidote: Try dating again, but don't go back to regular dinners, movies and sex. Please try to be on the agenda and get to know each other again with a trip or a tasteful date, perhaps playing ball games, riding a bike and drinking coffee. In short, re-establish each other's "bonds", that is, the bonds of chemical molecules. You know, the popular molecular gastronomy is to change the chemical bond with the same ingredients and create another set.

4. You don't like your body? Note: Excluding a few picky people who are too strict with themselves, they are old and lack exercise. After the birth and housework of female compatriots, their bodies will inevitably no longer be able to compete with the youthful bodies of Little Didi and Little Sister …

Antidote:

A. Love yourself: find out your own advantages and pay less attention to your own shortcomings to improve your self-esteem; Of course, I don't want you to abandon yourself or ignore your own shortcomings, but try to find out the motivation to drive yourself to be healthier, but if you can't, you must learn to appreciate yourself.

B. appreciate your partner's sexiness: fried rice is a kind of enjoyment. Let the other person's sexiness trigger your desire and liberate your attitude. In fact, sometimes enjoying fried rice doesn't necessarily care whether it's delicious or not, but the atmosphere of the rice. Interaction is very important!

5. Uncomfortable .. Description: Sometimes it is psychological rejection, and more often it may be that the body is really uncomfortable and painful, especially for menopausal women. Because estrogen is greatly reduced, the skin of reproductive tract is really thinner and less secreted, just like fried rice will stick to the pot without oil (Mrs. Chen, don't argue with me that the pot endorsed by Aki can put less oil or no oil).

Antidote:

A. Don't bite your teeth: Tell your partner that most of them have been together for a long time, and the partner who loves you will understand and solve the problem together.

B. Seek medical assistance: sometimes it may be caused by certain diseases, such as endometriosis or tumor compression, which can be solved; As for psychology, there are so-called sex therapists abroad (don't get me wrong, they are orthodox trainers, mostly psychotherapists or nursing backgrounds). Talents in this field are not so common in China, and people's channels and habits of seeking medical treatment have not been established. But I personally think that with the increase of demand and the gradual creation of social atmosphere, people will soon seek help, just like going to see a doctor secretly in the past, for fear that others will know, but now it is out of date not to participate.

6. Not in the mood … Description: If you are still not in the mood after taking all the first five antidotes, it may be that * * * is really depressed. * * * The low sex ratio may be related to mental illness (depression and anxiety) or hormonal imbalance; Some male sexual dysfunction is organic erectile dysfunction, which is related to diabetes or heart disease. Unfortunately, some anti-anxiety and antihypertensive drugs can reduce * * *. Alas, it's hard to be a man.

Antidote:

A. Change bad habits: Smoking and excessive drinking will affect the reaction of fried rice. Therefore, please quit smoking and drink moderately (moderate drinking actually helps to create an atmosphere and help to warm up fried rice, but excessive alcohol is not good and you can't drive. )

B. Pay attention to excessive exercise: I'm afraid enthusiastic cyclists should be advised to pay attention to the most popular riding at present, because pressing perineal nerves will also cause fried rice pain and low * * * ... (So good pants, correct riding methods and training are all necessary ...)

C. seeing a doctor: first, eliminate the possible side effects of diseases and drugs. If necessary, please do not rule out the use of certain drugs for assistance.

Dr. Bao Ren's conclusion: 1. According to my respected teacher Aki's suggestion, the best way to eat fried rice is to use "overnight cold rice" to make the whole grain clear and absorb the fragrance, so everyone knows …

2. Fried rice is an "interactive art": the ingredients are important, but in the process of preparation, is there any intention to participate, is there any love seasoning, and more importantly, a delicious fried rice is fried by two people together, not unilaterally paid or enjoyed …

3. Husband and wife or family life "needs constant adjustment". Believe me, there is no magic pill that can turn clear water into wine, but just like the line in the classic movie Gourmet, which all middle-aged men must watch-"There is no Gourmet at all, or everyone is a Gourmet". As long as everyone is a god of food, I believe that all fans will be able to make delicious fried rice that makes the gods cry (well, after seeing the god of food, you can change to barbecued pork rice! )

PS: This article is about cooking. Please enjoy the food and recipes ... by the way, don't make me write "How to cook a delicious risotto and fried rice noodles". Meet. Dr. Bao Ren and Flora authorized to reprint the original source. How do lovers stir-fry cold rice?