"The love between husband and wife is not the grace of flesh and blood. If you love, you will be close. If you don't love, you will be sparse."

As two unrelated people, the reason why we came together to form a new family is mainly because of love. Because we love him, we are willing to give the rest of our lives to each other; Because I love him, I am willing to pay for him; Because I love him, I am willing to be kind to each other's relatives.

True love should be a two-way street. I'm willing to pay for you, and you're willing to pay for me, instead of me paying blindly and you enjoying blindly. If a person is too selfish, doesn't know how to be grateful, and doesn't know how to give, it will make the other person feel that he has fallen in love with a baiwenhang, and that his contribution is not proportional to his return, and he will gradually lose his love for you.

Miyazaki Hayao said:

"No matter who you are, meeting and knowing each other in the vast sea of people will not be smooth sailing. Only a heart that is willing to pay and know how to be grateful can have a lifetime of love and happiness. "

"It is my greatest misfortune to meet a wife who only cares about her parents and treats her family as an outsider. If my estimation is correct, I will get a divorce after the New Year. With her, I am unhappy every day, and this marriage doesn't have to last long. "

After many disappointments, Lin Yuan decided to divorce.

0 1. Before getting married, I found it difficult to talk to her family.

"Before getting married, my parents felt that her family was difficult to talk about and it was a difficult family. They advised me to seriously consider this marriage."

When it comes to marriage, Lin Yuan's wife Xiao Ran's parents left a bad impression on Lin Yuan's parents.

The first is the question of bride price. Xiao Ran's parents demanded a bride price of 200,000 yuan, directly indicating that there was no dowry and not a penny less. In fact, whether in Xiao Ran's hometown or in Lin Yuan's hometown, the general level of bride price is 6,543,800 yuan. Lin Yuan's parents felt very painful in the face of the double bride price.

Secondly, it is the problem of the wedding room. Lin Yuan had a house before she got married. She didn't need to decorate or repay the loan, so she took a bag and moved in. However, Xiao Ran put forward a request to add a name. To show sincerity, Lin Yuan's parents agreed. It's not over yet. Xiao Ran doesn't like the decoration style of the wedding room, and insists on changing the style. For a long time, it consumes energy and money.

Finally, there is the question of gift money. It stands to reason that the wedding gift should belong to the young couple, but Xiao Ran's parents had to leave a lot for their daughter, which made Lin Yuan's parents full of anger.

"She was my first love and I liked her very much, so we got married smoothly."

02. As in-laws, my parents have never treated her badly;

Although Xiao Ran did a lot of unpleasant things when she got married, in the eyes of Lin Yuan's parents, now that she is married, she is a family and the past is forgotten. Lin Yuan's parents take good care of this daughter-in-law.

During Xiao Ran's pregnancy, she had a serious pregnancy reaction, so she couldn't go to work normally, so she quit her job and took care of the baby at home. Lin Yuan's mother came from her hometown to take care of her daughter-in-law. Daughter-in-law's taste is awkward, and Lin Yuan's mother carefully studies the recipes; The daughter-in-law wants to eat more expensive fruit. Although the price is very expensive, Lin Yuan's mother bought it for her, washed it for her and put it on the table. Daughter-in-law doesn't want to do housework, so Lin Yuan's mother will take care of it.

After the baby was born, Xiao Ran went to work. Lin Yuan's mother lived at home for five years and brought up her children before returning to her hometown.

Take care of pregnancy and childbirth, take care of children and stop fighting. Lin Yuan's parents always love and take care of their daughter-in-law. They are good in-laws.

03. On the issue of treating my parents, she let me down many times;

"If the in-laws are not good, the man is not good, and the woman refuses to honor her in-laws, I can understand. However, my parents are very kind to her, and I have never treated her badly. Why doesn't she take my parents seriously? "

Xiao Ran's attitude towards her in-laws has been very bad, which makes Lin Yuan feel very wronged.

Xiao Ran doesn't know how to be grateful for helping her bring her children to live under the same roof with her. When outsiders envy her a good mother-in-law, she thinks that is what a mother-in-law should do, and it is not enviable. It is common for children to get sick, but Xiao Ran is not responsible for taking care of them. She was angry and anxious when she saw the child was ill. Although she was angry with her mother-in-law, Lin Yuan's mother felt remorse and wept several times. When it comes to Chinese New Year, Xiao Ran doesn't want to go back to his hometown.

"She has a younger brother and a daughter-in-law, and her parents are taken care of. Her mother was ill, so she immediately asked for leave to go home and let me go back. My mother is ill, so let me pay for a nurse directly. I have never been to the hospital several times. "

04. I was extremely disappointed to see the new year's goods she prepared;

On the 24th of the twelfth lunar month, Xiao Ran and Yuan Lin had a big fight, just to decide who to go home for the New Year. In the end, the daughter resolved the storm and said, "Mom, I miss grandma", forcing Xiao Ran to promise to go back to her husband's house for the New Year.

"Since this time back to your home for the New Year, I can give my parents some necessities! You pay. "

Xiao Ran prepared two new year's goods, one for her parents-in-law and one for her parents. After seeing these two necessities, Lin Yuan's anger could not be completely suppressed.

"In her parents' share, there are health care products, massagers, foot baths, pills for my little nephew, mobile phones for my brother-in-law, and other gifts, which cost a total of thirty thousand yuan. In my parents' share, there are some common foods, totaling less than 3,000 yuan. "

Having said that, Lin Yuan's anger could not be suppressed: "My wife spent 30,000 yuan to buy new year's goods for her parents, and my parents spent 3,000 yuan. I paid the money anyway. Why? I really want a divorce. "

05. When you treat the other family as an outsider, you are digging a hole for yourself.

Theon said:

"Marry a good woman and you will find a safe haven in the storm; If you marry a bad woman, you will encounter a storm in the harbor. "

For men, a woman who does not honor her in-laws and treats her parents as outsiders is a bad wife.

Filial piety is the basic requirement of being a man, and filial piety is the basic requirement of marriage for us. Born as a man, you should know how to be grateful, repay kindness with kindness, and know how to repay a peach with a plum.

Everyone cares about birth, and our parents raised us. Who wants to fall out with their parents unless they have to? If parents live well, children will feel at ease. Since you are married to this man, you should accept his family background and have a daughter-in-law.

Emotional expert Tu Lei said:

"It is not love that brings women hope, but the responsibility of men; It is not love that brings a sense of security to men, but women's contribution to the family. "

Filial piety to the man's parents and being worthy of his family are the requirements of marriage for women. Unfilial women don't deserve men's love and happiness.