How to walk out of emotional pain? The word "emotion" is too heavy. We are always torn to pieces by emotions and exhausted, but the sun will rise as usual the next day. What we need to do is to regain confidence. Let's see how to get out of the emotional pain.
How to get out of emotional pain 1 What will you experience in emotional pain?
1, cheated
When you have a feeling of "why don't you treat me as you say", or he doesn't consider your feelings when making some decisions that affect two people, it's easy to feel that the other person has cheated you.
Step 2 be betrayed
Sometimes when two people are together, they promise to support each other and never give up, but in the end, the other party still breaks up. Whether you cheat or not, you will feel betrayed and hurt. When those we thought could deliver completely finally hurt us, we would feel "betrayed".
Step 3 feel disappointed
When you think that you are always paying unilaterally, but the other party rarely gives you a response, or even takes everything you do for granted, you will feel that you have been let down. For example, when the other person needs you, you always appear at the first time, while when you need him, he is always absent or out of reach.
Step 4 be rejected
But if the other person doesn't treat you as you expect, you will feel that your trust in the other person, your compromises and efforts for the other person are wrong, so you begin to doubt whether you have the ability to find someone who is really good to you, whether you have the ability to be happy in a relationship, and whether you don't deserve love and kindness. You will feel rejected.
So, how do we get out of the emotional pain?
1. First of all, you need to be brave enough to admit and accept the pain caused by past emotions.
Many people always try to suppress and force themselves to forget the pain caused by past injuries, but in fact, only by admitting these pains can you find the things and knots behind the painful emotions that you really can't let go, so that you can make a statement in advance in future relationships and try to avoid these things from happening again.
At the same time, only by facing the pain directly can you find the meaning of the past pain to your life, such as letting you know what kind of people are not suitable for you and letting you really let go of the pain.
2. Find a healthy intimate relationship
In addition to acknowledging and facing our own pain, we also need to solve it in a new relationship. As we mentioned earlier, past emotional experiences may make us distrust others and ourselves. We can try to rebuild our trust in the world and others in new feelings, and more importantly, rebuild our trust in ourselves, instead of just treating it as an emotional distress.
You can help you through other supportive relationships. Don't try to isolate yourself. Some healthy relationships can give you confidence.
In the face of attachment injuries, what we have to do is to get rid of them, see the most essential and core self, give ourselves time and courage to feel the pain, release the sadness, and give ourselves consistent trust: you are fine, but you are temporarily unlucky. Besides, you should try a new date and give yourself a chance to know your partner who knows how to respect and cherish you. When a deep connection is finally established, you will find that everything in the past is insignificant.
How to walk out of emotional pain II? You can't do it alone. Someone must help you, and this person must be the one you care about most, otherwise it won't kill you.
Giving up or separating from the person you like cuts you off from this person, even if he stands there, you can't run to him again. In a certain period of time, you will deny part of yourself, even depression, and deny all of yourself. It is normal to be depressed for a while after a lovelorn relationship. Because growth will be accompanied by some sadness, pain and even depression.
Several readers have left messages for me recently. Looking at a series of understated stories in the background, I can't help but feel distressed at the same ending. I really want to give everyone who is experiencing the pain of lovelorn a deep hug from a distance. I know it is useless to comfort from a distance. In the dead of night, when the moon and stars are scarce, you can't sleep alone, and you may fall into the abyss of perdition and self-torture again.
During that time, you closed up, retreated, imprisoned yourself in sadness and kept company with loneliness. When I woke up, my heart was tightly grasped, pinched and whipped by pain. You are listless and don't want to go out. You just want to stay home. You don't feel hungry, you don't have any appetite. You started smoking and got drunk. You can't sleep. You are always expecting his call. You get nervous when your cell phone rings, and then disappointment follows. ......
If I say, facing lovelorn is a necessary stage in your life. Everyone will experience it, don't escape, enjoy the pain it brings you, because it will make you grow up day by day and make your heart stronger. Then, I must be standing from the perspective of a bystander, saying what the authorities know but it is difficult to do.
You can talk to someone and write it yourself. In short, you should have an outlet for your emotions, otherwise it will burst its banks. You can complain to your relatives and friends and your friends like a victim. You can hate and scold, but you have to analyze how you got to this point and cry and scold, maybe you will understand and figure it out. Don't be afraid to say it will make you sad, and don't be afraid of being laughed at. Speaking of which, it's a kind of treatment. Being able to say that you are sad means that you can accept it and face it.
You choose to accept this fact "rationally", which makes you desperate. You said, you don't hate, forgive, there is no right or wrong, it is out of character. You said you were unlucky, the time was wrong, and it was hard to go against reality. You said people are unpredictable, you lost your mind, you gritted your teeth and swallowed it, and you decided to forget him. You blame yourself. It's silly to see people.
When you look back, what you see is yourself who loves each other. You said, you see the other person is an unworthy person. He is unstable, refuses to bow his head and often turns a blind eye to you. Blx is irritable. You tell yourself, don't be mean, don't pester, and keep a little self-esteem. ......
When you are in love, your IQ is running out. When you are lovelorn, your emotions are out of control and you can give yourself insufficient positive energy balance. This period of time needs to endure every minute of suffering. But it is real, and it can put on thick armor for you in the future.
Maybe after a month, you can eat and live normally, put on a mask and watch movies; After two months, you can devote yourself to your work, but you will occasionally think of that person in your mind and your heart will be pounding; In the third month, you made a phased plan for your career. According to the plan, you are working hard bit by bit. After four months, your mental state will be completely new, and you will be anxious to meet your unknown self and unknown life.
The recovery process may take a long time. No matter how this relationship ends, if you have a strong healing ability, then hurry to find the next relationship instead of analyzing the failure of the relationship that just ended, which may become the pain and hidden danger of this relationship in the future.
If you want to skip this difficult time, it will bring you the same problems and mistakes in repeated cycles.
It's up to you to get out of lovelorn love. Your happiness comes from yourself, not from anything external.
In fact, lovelorn is the beginning, not the end. Seize this rare opportunity to re-recognize yourself and the world.
Keep in touch with the outside world. Communicate with others, understand other people's mental journey, share experiences, listen to speeches, participate in leisure and entertainment activities, bring tents and go camping; Go to the grassland and gallop on the endless grassland; The seaside is also good.
Persist in learning and pay attention to your physical and mental growth. Get in touch with beautiful things and get close to nature. Breathe the fragrance of flowers and plants, listen to cicadas and birds; Listen to a touching music and sing a favorite song; Read a good book, even an impressive story; Write your thoughts on paper or type them in a folder; Going out for a run is one of the best ways to exercise and the best way to start a healthy road.
Make a dish according to the recipe and enjoy a series of cooking processes at home, from visiting the market and buying ingredients to selecting dishes, cleaning, matching and frying; Clean all the curtains and quilts, put on new sheets that smell like sunshine, and feel the happiness you bring. In the process of gradually paying attention to yourself and affirming yourself, you will become happy and full.