I wonder if other cultures pursue "comprehensiveness" and "integrity" like us. In a word, what we want from a person and a thing is often the pursuit of perfection. Once you set a standard and set an example, you can't wait to ask the other person to be an out-of-touch fairy.
If we use this thinking to ask our children, our family, what will happen? Or, in real life, what should a happy family and a real child look like?
We might as well learn from a set of French cartoons Xie Deyi that what kind of family, what kind of family, what kind of children and what kind of life are true, ordinary, laughing and happy.
The first story: ordinary families also have love. Dad is not an astronaut.
A father who sells "carpets" in a shopping mall, a full-time housewife's mother, a neurotic grandfather, a naughty boy with poor grades and puppy love ... Is this kind of family very ordinary and imperfect? In the eyes of many people, they are not elite at all, they are not successful at all and they are not happy at all.
However, we have to admit that in fact, most people's lives are like this.
When I first saw Xie Deyi's story, my first impression was, why can't such a family be our role model?
Xie Deyi came to the new school and met her new friend Christine. Christine asked him, "What does your father do?" Xie Deyi also asked him, and Christine said her father was a spy! Xie proudly thought that his father could not lose to him, so he said that his father was an astronaut.
So Christine asked to go to Xie Deyi's house to meet his father. Xie Deyi had to tell the truth when he got home. Of course, he was "laughed" by the whole family (please note, not scolded). The father of the carpet salesman later decided to dress himself up as an astronaut to receive Xie Deyi's classmates. At the same time, it was announced that this was his last return trip and he would be a carpet salesman in the future.
When Xie Deyi invited Christine, he suddenly felt ridiculous and admitted that his father was not an astronaut. Christine also admitted that her father was not a spy at all. These two little friends who told the truth easily went to Xie Deyi's house to play-it was amazing to see Xie Deyi's father really dressed as an astronaut! Everyone was overjoyed!
Finally, when Xie Deyi felt embarrassed about her father, Christine said, "I think your father is so happy to dress up as an astronaut for you."
Yes, I fell in love with this family at once after reading this story. Grandpa can always laugh at Xie Deyi's father as an ordinary carpet seller. Mom and dad can always worry about Xie Deyi's naughty and academic performance. Xie Deyi has his own quirks and bad temper every day.
However, they admit their shortcomings, enjoy ordinary life and make life as interesting as possible. I like this imperfect life, and I hope I will do it no matter what kind of life situation I live in.
In the second story, every child is cute, and Grandpa and Xie Deyi become rivals in love.
I have received many letters from my parents every day since I opened the official account of Tongshu Weixin. Among them, many parents will ask their children what problems they have, how to face them and how to correct them.
I understand the feelings of every parent, because I feel the same way myself. But gradually, when I found that my child had some problems, I adjusted my mentality and stopped focusing on things, but on my feelings with my child.
Then, I found that it is the best way to admit these problems and accept that this is an innate part of children.
Because, at any time, children will have such and such problems. Instead of trying to stop and teach them with anxiety and panic, it is better to relax and adjust their psychological age to the same situation as children. With this mentality, we can live in peace with these problems, and naturally, there will be solutions. I call this method "* * * growth method".
Children have a bad temper, they don't like eating, they always hit people, they are too sensitive and they always cry, they are interested in different sex, they don't like reading, they love playing games, their grades are poor, their reactions are too slow, they always jump up and down, they don't like calling people, and they always curse. ...
Yes, in real life, children are like this. This is true for every family, every child and even every family member. The key is how we face life.
Xie Deyi, who has poor academic performance, has a good impression on female classmate Chen and likes to fantasize about marrying Qiu. Usually, he is very concerned about Chen. When he makes a cake for himself on his birthday in autumn, when he meets other boys who are interested in it, he will make bad moves to destroy it ... but for these, Xie Ao's family often gives Xie Ao advice instead of stopping it.
Of course, Xie Deyi also likes others, such as a female teacher at school. This is another difficult problem for Xie Deyi. After knowing this, Grandpa decided to go to school with Xie Deyi and meet this "girl" that worried his grandson-as a result, Grandpa also fell in love with this female teacher, and the two became rivals from alliance!
In my opinion, this is not just a story that happened to the emotional French, but something that will haunt every child and will inevitably happen normally. The question is what parents will do when they know that their children are in trouble.
The more nervous parents are, the more depressed their children are; The more parents stop it, the more mysterious the child feels; The more excited parents are, the more fearful and rebellious their children are ... We should be brave enough to admit that the so-called puppy love, bad temper and poor grades are all inevitable problems in life.
I like the exaggeration in Xie Deyi's stories because it reminds us from time to time not to be old-fashioned in the eyes of children.
When you stand in the same trench with your children, you will understand their feelings, you will support your children and you will gain their trust. This is the most precious thing in your relationship with your child.
The third story has always supported his grandson to give gifts to starve his grandfather.
When Christmas arrived, Xie Deyi gave Grandpa a present: a candy. However, the whole dinner, grandpa seems to have a bad appetite and didn't eat anything. Late at night, mom and dad were awakened by the noise in the kitchen and found that grandpa was actually eating.
It turned out that the candy was stuck on grandpa's false teeth, and grandpa kept it until after dinner in order not to embarrass Xie Deyi. So, the whole family cooked another Christmas dinner for grandpa on Christmas Eve.
Perhaps, many people will think that this grandfather is too fond of his grandson and too much. But I especially like the adults at home, the establishment of children's self-confidence and the maintenance of children's self-esteem. I think this is the most important thing for children, and only one's family can give it unconditionally and without reservation.
What bothers me most is that many parents tell their teachers and other parents tell their children that their children can't do it in front of them! This is not modesty, humility, nor virtue, but a blow to one's children's self-confidence, dignity and family intimacy.
What is true love is to admit that life is imperfect and bumpy, but still love life; Admit that your family and children have shortcomings, but always support him and love him forever.
In this regard, I don't think there is any reason to talk about it, and there is no need to be reasonable. Husbands should support their wives, parents should support their children, and family members should be proud of each other.
You know, in a family, the most important thing is people, not others. With people, there will be a home, and with people's happiness, there will be a happy family.
The Narrative Poem of Chopping Onions in The Last Tale of Meatballs
When Kasper? Dey comes to our house, something very strange will happen. For example, when the whole family was quiet, Maruko suddenly burst into laughter from the balcony. I know, it must be that she was ecstatic when she saw some funny story with the plot inside.
One day, Maruko and his father watched Xie Deyi together, and there was a short story about cutting onions. The shepherd family cut onions, and everyone was crying. After Xie Deyi came home, he thought something had happened at home.
As a result, Xie Deyi also went to help, making himself tearful. Finally, grandpa, dad, Xie Deyi begged mom, do you really want to cut so many onions? Mom replied, yes, that's what the recipe says!
When Maruko saw this scene, he said to his father, "Dad, let me tell you a story."
There is a child who cuts onions at home.
Sob and cry.
Mom asked: spicy eyes?
He said, no-
I cut my hand this time!
After listening, we all appreciated the story of Maruko and took it as her work. Now, she has created many such short stories. The story of cutting onions is given to everyone as the end.
I think that no matter what kind of life has its joys and troubles, the key is how you look at it and treat it.
I would rather live in an ordinary family full of laughter than a luxurious but indifferent family.
I hope everyone likes Xie Deyi, a little French boy, just like us.