This is not a trick of larded school, because in the end, you will find that a simple move by yourself can make a table full of people eat well and chat happily, which is a very fulfilling thing.
There are some shortcuts to see how a person is. Like games. Like ordering food.
What you ordered was not food, but emotional intelligence.
Do you think ordering food is a natural attribute of eating goods? Don't! As long as it is a dinner for more than two people, it is a social activity. Then, ordering food is a double test of "vegetable merchants" and emotional intelligence.
Never ordering food is the biggest problem.
Always refusing to order = too passive.
You might say, why bother? If you don't order it, it won't be exposed.
Hehe, "never take the initiative to order" will also become an argument for others to label you.
Once upon a time, I never took the initiative to order food, even if it was a party between girlfriends, I always said, "I care about you, you order."
Until one day, I couldn't help but kindly remind you: "Do you think you are too passive in treating people?"
Seeing my amazement, she continued: "You chose silence in all situations where you had to make a choice. On the surface, this is easy-going, but in fact it gives people a feeling of ambiguity, no position, and even unwillingness to open up. Others have to guess how you feel. "
I realized that being too passive is a selfish self-protection. Later, I began to learn to take the initiative to order food.
Do you think ordering food only lets people decide what to eat today?
No. Everyone, more or less, is a little afraid of choice. Ordering food is to save others the trouble of making decisions, and also to save their own brain cells. You are serving. No one will refuse a person who serves warmly.
But, of course, not shirking the order is only the first step.
So, how to be a person who can order food?
Look at people's dishes, starting with choosing the right place.
Wrong choice = no sympathy.
The inconsistency of tastes begins with whether to eat spicy food or not.
I have seen people who order food do not eat spicy food themselves, but choose Hunan restaurant. As soon as they came up, they said, "Don't stir-fry beef with spicy sauce. Can the blood duck not be spicy ... Oh, is there any dish that is not spicy?" Before the dinner begins, they want to say "enjoy yourself" and then lift the table and leave.
On the other hand, Sichuan cuisine and Hunan cuisine are delicious, but suitable for familiar friends, not spicy and unhappy. If you are not familiar with each other's business banquets, choose safety cards such as Cantonese cuisine and Jiangsu and Zhejiang cuisine.
Why, on the whole, are Cantonese restaurants generally higher than Sichuan restaurants (except Guangdong)? This is mutually causal with Cantonese cuisine being more suitable for business banquets.
Choose any occasion you want to create.
Do not know how to capture the atmosphere = do not know the weight.
If there are many people, try to choose a quiet restaurant with a box or hall and have a meal. I have experienced more than a dozen people crowded into a small Vietnamese restaurant and had to line up small tables. Together, we made Da Vinci's The Last Supper. Talking is basically based on shouting, and eating is basically based on passing. Eating turned into manual labor, and then everyone silently shut up.
If there are few people, you can choose some private occasions. For example, for business negotiations with less than four people, it is very suitable to find a mid-range Japanese restaurant in CBD (but not a revolving sushi chain) with just the right size, weight and atmosphere.
If it is an informal meeting meal, you don't have to go out for a party at noon.
You can make an appointment for afternoon tea, which will be exquisite and beautiful, clean and comfortable, and the price is cheaper than dinner. It's all on the face, and a relaxed atmosphere also helps to promote grades.
Ordering food is like KPI assessment, you have to have a bright spot.
Can't order big food = stingy.
I'm not teaching you to cheat: how to make your KPI look good? The answer is that you should have at least one or two attractive work highlights throughout the year, and concentrate 80% of your energy on 20% of your work, which has won the lottery. A+ is you.
The same is true for ordering food. A table should have at least two or three large plates. The so-called big dishes and expensive dishes are not exactly the same.
I have suffered such a loss. I ordered a foie gras sashimi, which was expensive as soon as it came up. However, the level of sashimi in this restaurant is really urgent and there is no shock at all. Failure.
The point is, anything that can give people a sense of shock will do. You can order sashimi, but make sure his sashimi is heroic enough.
If you want to behave properly, you should follow some old traditions. For example, there are chickens and fish in Guangdong. Chicken should be whole chicken, such as white-cut chicken and fried chicken with soy sauce. The whole chicken carcass can be seen on the plate.
The fish should also be whole. The effect of a steamed fish is better than that of a large basin of pickled fish.
Know yourself, starting with a meal.
Ordering according to one's own preferences = selfish.
In A Dream of Red Mansions, talents belong to Lin Daiyu, and people should learn from Xue Baochai.
On her birthday in Jiafu, Baochai was asked what programs she liked to watch and what dishes she liked to eat. Knowing that Jia Jia likes watching lively operas and eating sweet and rotten things, she said that flattery can't be traced. She is really an expert.
Although we don't want to be scheming dogs, sometimes we can easily lubricate our relationship as long as we think of others in details. Why not?
High eq lies in empathy. If you are familiar with it, your preferences will generally be clear. If you are unfamiliar, you can also try to figure out a thing or two from each other's native place and personality.
In the worst case, we should play the popular safety card.
Pig brain, duck blood, bullfrog and silkworm chrysalis are not acceptable to everyone. Unless everyone is really like-minded friends, they don't want to order anything delicious.
The most basic etiquette before ordering is to ask the other person what taboos and preferences they have, and to ask everyone's permission before ordering uncertain dishes.
The wisdom of eating goods lies in combination.
Do not know how to match = poor management and poor taste.
The best way to order food is to make a table of rice look like a mountain on the edge of a ridge, with different distances.
The ingredients should be scattered. Pig, cow, sheep, chicken, duck, fish, shrimp and so on, every dish is ok. The same is true of vegetarian dishes. (Except for theme banquets such as mutton banquet. )
Not long ago, I ate hubei cuisine once. As a result, there are ten dishes on a table, and three of them are mainly made of lotus root. Another dish is lotus root, his son-lotus root tip. There is almost no doubt that it is ironic that we "eat lotus root ugliness".
The types should also be dispersed. Just a soup, soup, etc. You can have several stir-fry dishes and two pots at most. Once, someone made a "pot" on a table. The funny thing is that there are all dark casseroles filled with soup, and there is no breath. Dark clouds are pressing the city to destroy it.
There must be green leafy vegetables. Dessert is the icing on the cake, you can have it, it looks very vivid.
In short, you should have a sense of picture when ordering, and imagine what the picture will look like after your order is served. Whether the color scheme is too monotonous and the setting is too simple must be considered.
Finally, give the initiative back to the other side.
I don't know what to ask for = willfulness.
Although everyone doesn't like taking responsibility, they all like to have a little control over things. I'm glad to be the last person to make the final decision.
Therefore, in the process of ordering staple food and drinks, you can give the initiative to the other party and ask, "What staple food do you want? What kind of drink do you want? " Pay attention to what this sentence is about, not whether it is necessary. If the other person really doesn't want it, he will directly answer "no need" and "just eat vegetables and drink tea". If he has an idea in his mind, he will bring it up at this time.
Finally, you can leave a flexible space for one or two dishes and ask, "Would you like to have another look?" Even if the other person doesn't answer, it is better to ask than not to say hello.
Yes, ordering food has no truth and no mandatory parameters. Whether it's the Royal Seafood Restaurant or the Xiaofei Restaurant at the door of the unit, it's all this mode.
This is not a trick of larded school, because in the end, you will find that a simple move by yourself can make a table full of people eat well and chat happily, which is a very fulfilling thing.
And you will also enjoy the love of everyone in return.