Introduction: It’s hard to be a woman, and even harder to be a good woman! How many of the ten principles of being a good wife have you done!
Principle 1 : Never compare your husband with other people's husbands
Men hate it most when their wives take him out for sex, and when they do it, they don't forget to compare other people's husbands with themselves. The most intolerable thing is for my wife to say: "Look at you, what kind of virtue do you have! You only know how to do such a small amount of housework. If someone else's husband earns tens of thousands a year, you are the most incompetent!" If the husband can also earn tens of thousands. Tens of thousands, she would say: Oh! You only know about money, money, money. So-and-so’s husband always takes her to play and go for walks. Have you ever accompanied me? If by chance, her husband has also accompanied her, she He would also say: "Oh, please help me with some housework. I'm exhausted. It's better for you. I just sit on the sofa and watch TV. Such and such husband is a model, not like you!" It seems that everything is wrong. All men in the world are good, but the one next to you is the worst. A good wife will never do this. She will not compare her husband with others. Even if she really compares her husband, she will say: "Whose husband is capable, but he is not as considerate as you, or you." Best, dear!? After such a comparison, my husband feels very comfortable!
Principle 2: Never be too smart in front of your husband, sometimes he prefers you to be dumber
When a man feels that the woman around him is inferior to him in every way, he will have a sense of accomplishment and feel that this woman is being conquered by his omniscience. Everyone knows that men like to conquer women. Therefore, when he says that there are only two kinds of people in the world, you must not say three. When he says that the capital of the United Kingdom is New York, you must not say London. You must say with great admiration: Ah, you know There are so many, this? I’m not sure!? If the computer system is broken, you ask him to fix it. Even if he doesn’t know how to do it, but you are practice-made, you don’t have to fix it. You have to fix things that you can easily do. Give him more tasks, and say in a timely manner: Husband, you are really good at it, why can’t I? A truly smart wife knows how to make herself appropriately stupid and make her husband smart, that’s you The smartest trick!
Principle 3: Be absolutely gentle
It is said that heroes have a hard time finding beauty, but God cannot allow every woman to have it among all living beings in the world. The beauty of a sinking fish and a falling geese, the appearance of a closed flower shy of the moon, so if you are not beautiful, you must first be gentle. As an extremely good wife, being gentle is of course the top priority. When he comes back from get off work and has not entered the door, you have to take his bag and put his slippers towards him. Then make him a cup of tea and peel an apple (preferably into slices). If he is in the mood Okay, I want to chat with you for a while, but you must not say: ?Husband, I still have to do laundry and cook, and we will talk later. ?You have to sit down quickly, communicate with him in a soft voice, listen to him talk about his "heroic deeds", and show admiration at the same time; if he is in a bad mood and gets angry with you, don't say:? Hey, why are you yelling, what can you do at home? If you have the ability, show it off! If you want to be a good wife, the most important thing at this time is to sit down with him and say pityingly: My dear, don’t Angry, look at who has pissed off such a good-tempered husband in our family, there must be something wrong with this person!? Guarantee that he won’t be able to get angry no matter how hard he wants to get angry.
Who said that heroes have a hard time with beauty? In fact, women’s gentleness is what men fear and love the most. When he is tired, you give him a beating; when he is in pain, you rub it for him; when he is hot, you fan him; when he is thirsty, you give him a glass of water; when he smiles, you feel happy in your heart; When he cries, you have to hold him in your arms like a child. In short, a gentle woman should think about her husband, regard his emotions as her own, and then put her own aside for the time being! Just imagine, if you are really gentle to the core, what will happen to your husband? If you don’t stay by your side obediently, I can’t drive you away even if I want to!
Principle 4: Pay absolute attention to your own image
God did not give you a beautiful face , a devil-like figure, but it will never let you ruin yourself arbitrarily. It is often seen that some married women are not particular about their dress. She doesn't even wear a bra when she goes to work. When a curious person asked, she looked surprised: "I'm already married and don't want to find a husband anymore. Why do I dress up like this? Besides, it's so convenient to go home and breastfeed my child." Ah!? There are definitely not a few women like this who think that after marrying their husbands, they don’t need to put on makeup for anyone else. In fact, it is still needed, and it is very needed.
Which husband would like a wife who wears pajamas all over the world? It is often seen that some women even wear pajamas when buying groceries and going shopping. This is really bad! Isn’t it true? Women are born with nothing but Dressing up yourself is actually dressing up the world of men. How can you just fool around with this top priority just because you are married? A good wife should know how to put on light makeup and heavy makeup, and know what clothes to wear for certain occasions. She is not beautiful. It doesn't matter, but it must be dignified and decent! You can't wear a pair of travel shoes under a lady's skirt, a pair of high heels under sports pants, don't wear stockings that have been stripped off, and pay attention to the "scenery" under your armpits under a suspender top.
If you often displease your husband, undermine him, and disgrace him, you will forget about your reputation as a good wife, and even your marriage will be a red flag for you.
Principle 5: Take good care of your husband’s stomach
I don’t know who came up with it: to take good care of your husband, you must first take good care of his stomach. As a result, there are far more “sisters-in-law” than uncles buying vegetables in the vegetable market. But let’s not say whether this is true or philosophical. In short, it is correct to follow it accurately. A good wife must never say coquettishly: "Husband, hurry up and cook, I'm starving!" In fact, many men are thinking in their hearts: Why do I marry a wife who doesn't just cook for me and do laundry? I just don't dare to say it. Therefore, don’t make your husband murmur in his heart just for a few meals, it’s not worth it. You have to study the recipes carefully and know "Three Hundred Kitchen Tips" by heart. What soups and ingredients, how to mix which dishes, how much MSG and salt to add, you have to think over and over again, practice over and over again, until you are perfect. If you are so proficient in cooking that your cooking skills are almost ready to go to the "Manchu Banquet" on the central stage, your husband will naturally not sneak into the restaurant and let you eat at home alone every day.
Principle 6: Make sure your husband is dressed appropriately, and he must learn how to trim the hem of his trousers and tack on buttons
If your husband goes out in a dishonorable manner, someone will definitely say: ?Hey, This guy is so miserable that he has a lazy wife at home! But if his wife dresses immodestly and goes out, someone will definitely say: "Hey, this guy is really lazy. Whoever marries her will be miserable!" ?No way, this world is so unfair! So, before your husband goes out, you have to match his clothes first, what kind of shirt goes with what tie, what kind of pants goes with what kind of top, and you also have to match his clothes piece by piece Iron it to make sure it has sharp edges and corners. Wash your white shirt so it's as clear as new. Don't let the dirt on the collar ruin his elegant demeanor. Don't forget to check whether the hems of his pants are off-line and whether the buttons are about to fall off. You have to Before he puts it on, get everything done so that he won't be embarrassed to pull up his pants or pick up his buttons on the road. If you still don’t know how to do all this, learn it quickly. There is no way, being a good wife is not that easy!
Principle 7: Never roar like a lion in the east of the river and inherit the mantle of a "tigress"
The most undesirable thing for a man is a shrew-type wife. A good wife must pay special attention to this point and never become a "tigress" by accident. If your husband moves a little slower, what do you want to say: What happened today? Are you not feeling well? He used to be very fast! Don’t yell: Are you useful? You still have to wait a long time to get something?; Husband sits down. If you don't move, you have to say: "Are you tired? Take a good rest!" Don't shout: "You lazy pig, am I your servant or a slave? Why don't you get up to work? You can't even move." When it comes to your husband, if a good man doesn't fight with a woman, how can a good woman fight with a man? Therefore, a good wife can never roar like a lion. Hey, it's better to be a human being. Lions and tigers, so there's no need for that. , otherwise, the marriage will not be guaranteed. Think about it, who is willing to live with such a terrible animal, right?
Principle 8: Never treat your own parents? Live Lei Feng?, treat your husband Parents? Zhou Bapi?
A good wife should know that her husband’s parents are no less important to her husband than herself. So you must treat his parents, that is, your parents-in-law well. Don't think about your father or mother in advance. Take some of the delicious food at home, and give some of the useful things. This is obviously right. Who is not raised by his parents? The key is Have you given these to your husband's parents? Even if they don't tell you about your own parents, you can think about them all the time and put yourself in their shoes with the same thoughts as "Lei Feng" when facing you If you take a little of your parents-in-law, you blame them for being too cruel; if you eat a little, you blame them for being too greedy; if you use a little, you roll your eyes and say, "Won't you buy it yourself? You are an old man!" If you are such a person, then you It's far from a good wife. It is said that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are difficult to get along with. Even if there are some conflicts between the two, you must firmly remember that the man you love the most was raised by them. For this reason alone, you should act like the right one. When your parents treat them like that, you should also say with great gratitude: "Dad, Mom, thank you for your hard work, now it's time for us to raise you!" And if you really do this, you will be a completely good wife. , a super accurate? A perfect wife?!
Principle 9: Absolutely have a job of your own
A woman should be an independent tree, and your husband is you The big tree next to me. If you don't have a job of your own, you will become a vine, tightly wrapped around his body and growing on him. And of course he will like your attachment to him and lingering on him, but as time goes by, he will blame you for sucking his nutrients and hindering his footsteps, and he will want to let you leave so that he can be free. ground to grow. So a good wife must know this. If you don't want your husband to get tired of you, you must have a job of your own. You must be independent and dependent on each other, so that such a marriage will last long.
Principle 10: Hongxing must not cheat on her
These days, even if you don’t cheat on her, there will always be people lying on the wall waiting for her. A good wife must be able to withstand such temptation. The most intolerable thing for a man is his wife cuckolding him. So this is the most important principle to adhere to among the ten principles. No matter how beautiful and charming the scenery outside the wall is, you still have to kiss the grass in the courtyard. They are not beautiful, but don’t they make you more beautiful? Besides, those who pick red apricots only need to pick the red apricots. When it arrives, smell it, play with it a few times, and then it will be thrown thousands of miles away! Have you ever seen anyone pick wild flowers and put them at home to grow? Even if they grow them, they can’t grow them for a few days before throwing them away. He put you on the rubble road, but it was too late for you to regret it.
Therefore, a good wife should guard your grass and your yard. She only needs to look around, but don’t go out of the way!