These two days, the topic of China bachelor seems to have been detonated again. However, this discussion may not change the fate of tens of millions of rural bachelors.
The British BBC once paid attention to this topic. Bian Xiao takes you to have a look. What is the fate of China bachelors in the eyes of foreign media?
Household registration is a big obstacle to marriage and love.
Dong Min, a rural Shaanxi native, has been working in Beijing for six years. I am a chef by profession, with a monthly salary of 3,000 yuan. I am still unmarried and have to travel to various blind date parties in Beijing.
The first time we met Dong Min was in the dormitory he shared with others, a simple bunk bed with a faded floral quilt and some clothes on it. The bed above is full of used kettle and shampoo. In this dim environment, the 39-year-old northwest man told us about his situation. "Finding a wife is particularly important for my future life. A person's life is too lonely. It is said that it is a world of two people, right, not a world of one person. " The deep voice doesn't seem to be heard by roommates, and the trembling voice still sounds a little choked.
Dong Min is very happy today, because he is going to attend a blind date today. When preparing to wash, the rural elderly man revealed his mate selection conditions: he just wants to find an unmarried woman, as long as he can live.
At the blind date, a lady went to Dong Min and asked, "Are you from Beijing?"
"No, I'm from Shaanxi," Dong Min replied with a silly smile.
"I don't want to find someone from other places."
The short blind date is over.
Although Dong Min has been in Beijing for six years, like most migrant workers, he doesn't have an official hukou in Beijing, so he can't enjoy the rights of medical insurance, housing and children's education. It is for this reason that it has become a big obstacle for Dong Min to get married.
Another obstacle to property, marriage and love
One failure did not defeat Dong Min. Soon, Dong Min moved to Tiantan Park, a famous blind date place in Beijing. Many aunts and grandmothers will take unmarried children there to find objects for their children on the information board.
Many aunts opened their mouths to Dong Min and asked, "Do you have a room?"
Dong Min can only shake his head and say no.
After being rejected many times, Dong Min said to us helplessly, "Most parents have higher requirements for men. My salary in Beijing is not very high and I don't have a house. In short, it is more difficult. "
In fact, this is not the first time that a marriage has been ruined because of property problems.
Dong Min once had a girlfriend, but her parents just thought that Dong Min's family conditions were not good enough, her income was not high, she had no house, and her family was in the countryside, so she opposed their marriage. So it didn't work.
Dong Min's home is in rural Shaanxi. Both parents are 72 years old and are in poor health. But enthusiastic Dong Min's mother insisted on cooking for us with firewood. After dinner, my old mother told us in tears that Dong Min had been laughed at by others in the village because of her poor family conditions. He even said that we have Dong Min behind us, but Dong Min can't get married, and nobody cares about such sad words when he is old.
After many failures, Dong Min decided to drown his sorrows by drinking. We were surprised to find that a large table of male companions were all bachelors. A friend said: "The condition for marrying a daughter-in-law is the dowry of an RV, and every place is different. It takes many years for a man to marry a wife by salary. " Another added, "So it is very contradictory to marry a daughter-in-law."
There are always exceptions.
But interestingly, we also tracked and interviewed Rongna, a headhunter of a senior dating company in Beijing. She has a local tyrant client, Mr. Da, whose situation is unknown. All she knows is that he is rich and picky, and he invested 6.5438+0 million yuan to let them find suitable candidates in four cities, provided that his height is between 163- 172, his facial features are exquisite, his skin is fair, his figure is good, his cheeks are fleshy, but he must have a pointed chin and he must have more than one education. At the same time, they must look good.
In order to meet the needs of Mr. Da, Rongna looks for girls with excellent conditions every day, and then grades excellent girls like items, and then makes an appointment to strictly screen whether they meet the requirements.
It's very interesting: although they are all women, Mr. Rongna Bigger's prospective daughter-in-law will have high requirements, from every five senses to academic qualifications to temperament ... Although some girls are already beautiful in the eyes of reporters, they still get Rongna's categorical "no".
The historical problem of policy has left the most irresistible killer of marriage and love.
According to the latest data from the National Bureau of Statistics, the sex ratio of the population born in China in 20 15 years is 1 13.5 1. In the past 20 years, this ratio was once higher than 120, making it one of the countries with the greatest disparity in sex ratio at birth in the world. This means that for every girl born 100, more than 20 boys will be born. Now those children born at the age with the highest sex ratio are gradually entering the marriageable age.
In the past 20 years, the development of market economy, the promotion of urbanization and the implementation of family planning policy have intertwined and influenced the gender imbalance in China.
As a country with a high degree of urban-rural duality, its "marriage squeeze" has pushed more to remote and poor areas, and the marriage of tens of millions of "leftover men" has become a big problem. Moreover, the situation will become more and more serious. By 2020, the number of marriageable leftover men in China is expected to reach 24 million.
Dong Min is unfortunately one of them. But more unfortunately, there are still 24 million Dong Min.
(Source: British documentary "The Bachelor of China")