Why do most people born in the 1990s and 2000s not want to have children?
On this issue, many media, self-media, and experts have expressed relevant opinions. In fact, in the final analysis, the current cost of living is too high. Young people themselves can only talk about survival, not even life. How can they guarantee a good quality of life and a bright future for their children? And the pressure of life will only be greater after giving birth to a child. Compared with the happiness of having a child, the happiness brought by carrying on the family line is only negligible.
Xiao Jia is a fresh graduate. During her senior year of college, she was an intern and her boyfriend of four years came to Ningbo, a city where her boyfriend’s family members work. It was a harmonious life living with the person who would become a family in the future, and she was loved by everyone. Xiao Jia is recognized by her college roommates as a diligent student and a clean person. Everyone often jokes that if they were a boy, they would definitely marry a wife like Xiao Jia. When the topic of marriage came up, Xiao Jia sighed and told me that she felt very stressed when she thought about it. Xiao Jia said that when she talked about getting married, she immediately thought about buying a house, a car, and having children. She felt that all kinds of things were overwhelming her and she was worried. Then she told me the general situation. Xiao Jia’s boyfriend, let’s call him Xiao A for now. Little A's parents grow vegetables in Baodapeng, Shanghai. They have a little savings, but not enough to make a down payment in Ningbo. Both sisters are married and have babies of their own. Xiao A majored in computer science and graduated from a junior college, but his professional courses were not solid. Now he works in a small business and earns 5,000 to 6,000 yuan a month. Although Xiao Jia graduated with a second degree, he majored in HR and his salary is only 3,000 to 4,000 yuan. Little A's family has an old house in their hometown, but it has fallen into disrepair and is uninhabitable. Although it is next to a coal mine, the demolition is still far away, and the two people working outside cannot live in the house in their hometown. Now Xiao Jia's parents don't agree with them. The most important reason is that the husband's family does not have a house. And they do face this very embarrassing problem. They cannot afford to buy a house in a big city, and they cannot live in a house in a small city. Moreover, after marriage, children who follow their parents to go to school still need a household registration. Where and how to buy a house? Will my parents agree if I don’t buy a house? Xiao Jia was overwhelmed by these questions.
Most of us in this world are still ordinary people. There are too few people who are born with a golden key, and there are too few people who are lucky enough to be demolished or win the lottery and become rich overnight. I live in a third-tier city, and most of us around us still live from nine to six with a salary of 3,000 yuan a month. What about those classmates and friends who went to Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen? A friend who studied computer science was in Guangzhou, but last year he switched jobs to Beijing. He could earn 20,000 yuan for more than a month, but he got off work at three o'clock in the morning every day. This kind of life, everyone in our circle thinks, is not as good as the salary of three to four thousand a month in this small third-tier city.
In this case, even if our parents have some savings and help buy a house, most parents can only spend three to four hundred thousand. The house price here is about 9,000 per square meter, and a 90-square-meter house costs more than 800,000. So we just have to put together a down payment. With a salary of 3,000 to 4,000 yuan, I can't even pay the monthly payment, and I can't even eat. How can I talk about getting married or raising a child?
From the perspective of giving birth to a baby, for female friends, giving birth is no less than a walk before death. They also have to face body shape distortion, stretch marks, urine leakage, tears, pelvic floor muscle relaxation, etc. and a series of other issues, and now that the country encourages natural delivery, many public hospitals do not give pregnant women the right to choose between caesarean section and natural delivery for the sake of natural delivery indicators. Now that the Internet is so developed, the rise of self-media has made communication more convenient, and many female friends have shared their experiences. This has also made more and more unmarried boys and girls fear marriage and childbearing. It’s not that it’s not good for someone to stand up and share their experience, but this is a great but cruel fact that needs to be faced by young people, and none of our elders at that time would directly tell them the problems and life problems they would face when giving birth to children. How painful is the child? When the elders face the arrival of a new life in the family, they will only tell us that every woman has to go through this, and everyone has been through this.
From the perspective of raising children, their lives and education are problems, and many young people themselves are still children.
The issue of work stress among young people has always been a hot social topic that has attracted much attention. Relevant national policies are also constantly being improved, and relevant supporting measures will certainly be continuously introduced. This year's National Two Sessions raised the issue of extracurricular tutoring for primary and secondary school students. According to the "Opinions of the General Office of the State Council on Regulating the Development of Off-Campus Training Institutions", the basic principles of legal regulation, classified management, comprehensive measures, and collaborative governance for off-campus training institutions are proposed. Approval and registration in accordance with the law, standardizing training behaviors, strengthening supervision and management, and improving the educational capabilities of primary and secondary schools... From a macro perspective, the country issued this policy from the perspective of curbing the aging of the population and improving the population structure. This policy is understandable. The problem is that its implementation is more difficult than we imagine. But with the advent of the Internet age, although we have seen a lot of negative things, there is always more truth, goodness and beauty being spread. As the younger generation becomes the main force in this society, understanding and respect will become more and more widespread in the workplace, civilization will exist in everyone's heart, married life will make more young people yearn for it, and a complete family will only make us happier.
This society will only get better and better. As long as our younger generation works hard and contributes, it will make our lives happier and happier!