For many people, the mood of the Spring Festival is complicated. For many people who work outside the home, this is a rare rest time in a year, and they should be reunited with their families. However, going home means a lot of expenses, which is a lot of expenses for many working-class people. Older men and women who haven't got rid of singles have become the most embarrassed and want to escape.

The Spring Festival is a bittersweet festival. For women who are far away from home, it is a very happy thing to go back to their parents' home during the Spring Festival. However, the reality is very difficult. Even if the transportation is convenient now, once a woman gets married, she will have a lot of trivial matters. Women in marriage are often involuntarily, and when they have time to go back, they may put it on hold for various reasons.

Many divorced female readers have told me that they regret marrying far away because they have to arrange time to meet their parents and feel guilty about them. Many women marry for love, but a woman who marries love is not necessarily happy. The reason why parents oppose their daughter's distant marriage is not for anything else, but often because they are worried that their daughter will be bullied and no one can rely on it. However, most women who are carried away by love cannot understand their parents' painstaking efforts.

Sister Chen is a foreigner and has been married to us for almost ten years. As a married woman in a long-distance relationship, she has gone through a lot of hardships over the years, but she still can't let go of her parents' thoughts. However, when she finally went back to visit her parents at will, they were long gone, which became an unspeakable pain in her heart.

Hearing that Xiaoling, who just got married, said that she and her husband had a dispute about who to go back to for the New Year, Sister Chen said with emotion: "Finally, there is no need to go back to her family for the New Year, no one!" Mom said that, tears flowed down from the corner of her eyes. This kind of pain, perhaps only women can understand.

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Many men have this idea. When a woman marries herself, it means she is no longer a member of her family. So when she saw that her wife was closer to her family, or not close to her family, she felt that her wife didn't treat her family as family. I can't agree with this idea of men. A wife is not related to her husband's family by blood. Wives have their own parents. The man asked her to treat her parents as her own, which was disrespectful to her behavior.

If the wife marries far away, men and their families should be more considerate and care for her, so that her family can feel warm, instead of asking her to cut off contact with her biological parents. If I didn't love this man, I believe most women wouldn't have the heart to stay away from their loved ones, just trust this man.

Perhaps only those who have experienced it will have a deep understanding. I always wanted to leave my parents before, feeling that my parents didn't understand me. However, when I have experienced some things outside, I have a new understanding of my parents, and I can better understand a woman who has been married for a long time's guilt and yearning for her parents. I often think that if a man doesn't want to accompany you back to your mother's home for the New Year, then this man is not worth paying for him at all, because he has never stood in your position and thought equally.

Just because a woman marries a man doesn't mean she marries her husband's family. Putting aside the relationship between husband and wife, to put it bluntly, the husband's family has nothing to do with the woman, and the relationship between the woman and the husband's family is based on the husband's relationship. Therefore, if a man wants to integrate his wife into his husband's family, he should think more about his wife.

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Many female readers asked me if I could get married far away and if it was worth it. If it's worth it, the premise is that you have to think about the price to pay for it. Chen Yan is one of my readers. That year, she left her parents and friends for love and followed her love to live in a small county town more than 1000 kilometers away from her parents. She is confident that a marriage with love is always good.

At first, it was really sweet. Her husband held her in his hand and it hurt. In-laws think that their son is capable and married a city girl, but life is still beautiful. Chen Yan misses her parents and always wants to take her children home to meet them. But the first year of pregnancy was delayed, and the second year my mother-in-law was ill and couldn't leave. In the third year, she was finally able to go back to her parents' home for a year, but she was received at the airport.

At that time, Chen Yan fainted at the airport, and she was sobbing. Regret and sadness filled her whole body, which made her suddenly faint. After waking up, regardless of her husband's persuasion, she took the fastest plane to her father and touched his cold hand. Tears streamed down her face, remembering that when she was a child, her father held her hand and played everywhere, but she couldn't go back.

My mother conceived and gave birth to her in October, and her father worked hard to train her. She broke her parents' hearts for love, and now she has never even seen her father for the last time. Her regret can be imagined.

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Which will happen first, tomorrow or the accident? We don't know that our parents are getting older and their physical condition is not as tough as before. If a woman doesn't want to regret it, she should try her best to get her parents' approval in the face of marriage. Marriage recognized by parents will always be happier, parents will feel at ease and have less regrets.

For a woman, when her parents are there, there is always someone to lean on. If her parents are gone, so is her family. Man, if you love your wife, please accompany her to visit her family!