Speaking of examination, it is the most sensitive topic for parents, students and even the whole society, and it is also a topic that has never been explained for thousands of years.
Examination: refers to the traditional method of testing and testing knowledge and skills. Have oral, written and on-site operation. An inspection method that is independently completed at a specified place under the specified time and supervision.
Examination, as far as written answers are concerned, includes comprehensive requirements such as knowledge, writing ability, answering ability, thinking ability, psychological factors and competitive state.
Usually, when parents chat with their children or urge them to study, don't scare them with "exams", let alone talk about "exams" mysteriously, which will increase their nervousness-exams are a savage beast.
Parents should deliberately make the exam dull, so that children are not afraid of "exams" and feel normal.
Wise parents always educate and cultivate their children, and regard finishing homework every day as an unsupervised "exam" in the family. Since it is an exam, don't deal with it, don't fool around, and don't copy it.
Cultivate and guide children to take exams as an exercise, especially in designated classrooms, where there are strict invigilators and exercises at designated times. Don't let exams become a burden for children. Exams are just exercise.
The closer the exam is, the less parents ask. No pressure before the exam, no worries after the exam, normal mentality and easy to deal with. After summing up the exam, we will welcome the exam. Go round and round, and gradually form a healthy competitive psychology-"examination"! Use "examination" to deal with all kinds of examination papers in study and life and solve unpredictable problems.
Before the children take the exam, parents must not draw the bottom line, do not set indicators, do not set scores, and do not set full marks. That will leave children with no room for manoeuvre, and in front is the examination room-the abyss; Behind them are parents-blowing and glaring, driving the children to the wall.
Exams are fickle and grades change. When there is no ideal result for the time being, don't blame failure, but look for a successful way. Wise parents should comfort their children. The relief and encouragement of parents is the beginning of children's progress and progress.
Parents and friends! "Examination" is a knowledge as well as a skill. I wish the child "will take the exam"!
Pay close attention to the foundation before the exam, and check for leaks. In the exam, treat it with a normal heart and face it calmly.
The first is to check for leaks and fill gaps. Students can sort out the papers they have done and make every wrong question clear. Remember: Don't be afraid of the teacher. Be sure to ask the teacher more often. You don't understand twice once, twice and three times … until you understand it thoroughly. Don't ask questions about sea tactics, just do it without changing it, so you will never understand what you don't know!
Second, grasp the foundation and grasp the comprehensiveness. The final exam questions are given in the proportion of 72 1 or 63 1. 72 1 means: basic questions are 70%, intermediate questions are 20%, and difficult questions are 10%. As long as you grasp 90%, your grades will not be bad.
Third, you can't burn the midnight oil, you should combine work and rest. A clear head is inspiration; Fatigue learning is inefficient. If you have a good rest, you will be more efficient and gain more knowledge.
Fourth, exercise and nutrition. Exercise seriously for at least 20 minutes every day to eat well. Eat well on the basis of eating well.
Fifth, mentality and biological clock. Adjust the child's mentality. Parents should not put pressure on their children. It is enough to ask them to do well the things of the day, go to bed on time and deal with the problems left over the next day.
Finally, talk about treating the exam with a normal heart and facing it calmly. Say you're not nervous Unrealistic. You're too nervous. You don't play well. Therefore, in the process of the final exam, as long as you give full play to your usual level, give up the questions that you really can't do, and throw away the questions of 10%, and ensure that the correct rate of 90% of the basic and intermediate questions is very high.
From the perspective of parents:
Examinations seem to be something we must experience when we grow up. Since kindergarten, we have started all kinds of exams, from the knowledge test in the classroom to various competitions. From primary school to work exams, numerous quizzes, monthly exams, mid-term, final exams, and further studies.
In fact, every exam is to verify the learning effect for a period of time. I told my children that every exam is a summary of your study during this period. Don't pay too much attention to the scores of various exams, including mid-term and final exams, but after the exam, you must know what you lack, what knowledge points you haven't mastered well, and what you don't know. What you don't know must take a long time to learn.
I think the current examination selection is the only correct way to treat the entrance examination that determines the fate of life. There are so many universities. Although there are thousands of roads to success, learning is always a shortcut.
It may be that my point of view was passed on to my children, which led them to never take the exam seriously and have a good attitude. Usually, the questions are so simple that they don't even answer them. Usually I don't even finish the exam, but my children study hard and often give me surprises and accidents during the big exam.
Don't worry too much about the exam, you must work hard when you are serious.
As parents and teachers, we should let our children understand the importance of exams, and at the same time let them treat exams with a normal heart.
Speaking of this topic, I have to think of my mother.
For Da Xianer, I am a student who is afraid of exams, just like most students. What drives me crazy most is that the whole school will play that kind of classical pure music before every exam. Later, I learned that music was played to ease the mood of candidates, but! I feel that every time I listen to these music, I don't feel relieved at all. Every time I listen to these music, I feel conditioned and nervous.
But fortunately, my mother is a reasonable person, and I think she still knows the methods of education.
I think all parents can learn from it. After all, I came here as a student. Personally, I think this kind of education is very good for children.
How can parents make their children understand the importance of exams through their usual education and treat them with a normal heart?
First of all, parents should be strict with their children before the exam, that is, in the usual education, so that children can realize that the exam is very important.
Parents should also realize the importance of exams from the bottom of their hearts. Although the exam can't represent all aspects of students, it does reflect students' recent study to a great extent. Therefore, parents must convey an idea to students that exams are very important.
Of course, this does not mean that parents should talk about exams every day. Instead, let parents pay more attention to their children's usual studies and see if there are any problems in their studies. If they encounter problems that children can't solve by themselves, as parents, we should help them in time.
Here comes the point!
If the child's performance after the exam is not ideal, don't rush to criticize the child at this time. Especially when you know your child is introverted or fragile, don't blame her blindly. At this time, parents should play a role in comforting her and make her feel that the exam is not so terrible. If parents just blame her blindly, children will be full of fear of the exam. If the next exam is coming, they will remember the thing that their parents scolded her before. Over time, it will cast a shadow over her psychology. I could have done well in the exam, but because of psychological pressure, my performance in the exam would be affected.
In fact, a good way for children to adapt to exams is to take more exams. This is also my personal experience. As long as you take more exams, take exams every day and take exams one after another, you will find that exams are nothing. Actually, it's just practice and introspection. No big deal.
Who hasn't made a mistake in the exam? Everyone did well in the exam, and sometimes they did badly. The key is that students' mentality must be stable. Especially in the face of large-scale exams such as senior high school entrance examination and college entrance examination, why did the school organize several full-scale simulations for students before the exam? Isn't it just that children gradually become less resistant and afraid of exams in this process?
Therefore, no matter as parents or children, we should keep a normal mind on exams, attach importance to exams and learn to let them go.
Thank you for coming to the Q&A Garden of Sister Hua's Family Education.
Because the question of this question is relatively simple, and the grade of the child is not explained, the psychological state of children in different grades is different, and the corresponding problem-solving methods will be different. Secondly, different exams have different pressures on children. For example, the main function of exams at ordinary times is to help us find and fill vacancies, while the senior high school entrance examination and the college entrance examination determine our fate to a certain extent, so they are different.
So how to solve this problem?
Sister Hua can only give you some general suggestions for your reference:
The first suggestion: spiritual;
There are mainly the following ways:
1. Movement;
I don't know if it's a boy or a girl, so I can do some exercise, because exercise helps to increase the activity of my brain and body.
2. Set an example for children;
Every child has a heroic dream. This hero doesn't have to do anything earth-shattering, but he must be what the child wants to be, so that he will have the motivation to pursue his dreams. Secondly, he will know that every heroic journey has to overcome many difficulties. Then, when he is in danger, he will follow the example of a hero and bravely overcome setbacks.
How to do it specifically?
Reading biographies or watching movies for children, there are documentary versions.
The second suggestion: the collocation of diet;
Some parents think that their children will have an exam soon and want to give them a big supplement, so they give them big fish and big meat and suddenly change their recipes. In this way, their children will not adapt and will be affected.
Specifically, first of all, the body does not absorb or accept;
In fact, it is this kind of atmosphere that makes children feel nervous. He will feel that the exam is coming soon. My mother cares so much about me that I must do well in the exam, otherwise I will be sorry for my mother and put some pressure on myself invisibly.
Therefore, we must pay attention to giving children a reasonable diet during the exam, and don't make up for it.
The third suggestion: bring your own exam supplies;
Usually, parents always like to help their children pack up their exam supplies, so they must pay attention before the exam, and try their best to let their children pack up their exam supplies, because children know themselves best. During the exam, because children pack up their own exam supplies, they will be familiar with where to put things, so they will not be easily nervous during the exam.
The above are some precautions in the exam.
Finally, floret also wants to emphasize one point:
Don't put pressure on children. Don't be especially nice to your child just because he has to take an exam, or put more pressure on him. What do you usually do? Just do it during the exam.
How to make children face the exam correctly-this is a problem that every parent cares about. My family Dabao went to junior high school and took numerous exams. Although the results are not top, they have always been among the best. Let's share some of our experiences, hoping to help everyone.
How to make children face the exam correctly?
First of all, study hard at ordinary times and firmly grasp what you have learned.
Let the children understand that the exam is to test the usual learning situation. Most of the contents of the exam are usually learned, and some of them are extensions and adaptations of what they have learned.
Secondly, don't panic during the exam and don't worry too much about the result.
Once people are very worried about a certain consequence, they will feel nervous and flustered. There is an acrobat named Vadalen in America. He walked a tightrope all his life, without a mistake, because he only thought about what to do next, and he walked very seriously and with peace of mind all the time. When he walked the tightrope for the last time, he was very nervous and said never to fall, never to fall ... as a result, he fell in the middle and died.
The same is true for children facing exams. Just think of me and do it seriously. Don't worry about a few points in the final exam, and don't think about what will happen if you don't do well in the exam. You can walk into the examination room with peace of mind.
Finally, we should prepare for the exam.
Try to relax the day before the exam and never stay up late at night. Put your schoolbag in order, and be sure to prepare pens, rulers, draft papers and so on for the exam.
In short, tell children that the exam is only a process, not a result, and an exam can't change a person's life. As parents, we should guide our children to study hard, build up confidence and face the exam correctly.
Tell your child that the exam is a test of your academic achievements at this stage or this semester, and it can't fully explain the quality of your study.
1, treat the exam with a normal heart, don't be nervous, just treat the exam as an ordinary exercise, make no mistakes in simple questions, and be careful.
2, when you study at ordinary times, you should learn solidly, and you should be able to draw inferences from others.
3. Progress is more valuable than scores. Don't stare at children's grades all the time. If you do well in the exam, you will be particularly happy and rewarding. If you don't do well in the exam, you will be criticized, which will lead to children's resistance to the exam. So even if the child's exam results are not ideal, but the child has made progress, we need to encourage her.
4. According to the child's usual learning situation, make a reasonable review plan for the child before the exam, so that the child is full of confidence in the exam and will not be afraid of the exam.
The method has been said. Let me make a special case to see if there are some classmates around the children who encourage each other not to take exams or study. Children don't want to study. Maybe someone else is promoting this idea and they don't want to do it themselves. When others encourage them, it will be more serious. This requires parents to communicate in time. Conversely, if children are encouraged, cheered and helped each other, so much the better.
Face the exam with a normal heart
My child belongs to Aunt Ha, so I usually tell him to treat every quiz as a big exam, so that every big exam will not be nervous, just like a quiz.