The death of my father-in-law is the most painful, helpless and needy moment for my mother-in-law and husband. As a daughter-in-law and wife, you are an important member of the family and the closest relative. Don't say that my mother-in-law and husband insist on it, just don't. After learning the information, you should try your best to return to your husband immediately and share this responsibility and obligation with him.
Your parents are eager to love your daughter and won't let you go back, which is understandable, but the future is your own. You must stick to your beliefs and return to your lover as soon as possible. If you don't go, you will feel uneasy about how to face your husband and mother-in-law in the future. I think that no matter what your mother-in-law thinks of you, it will become a stalk, a shadow and a hurdle in your husband's heart, which will greatly affect your feelings with her husband. If you lose a happy marriage, you will regret it all your life.
In the vast sea of people, you two can get to know each other, fall in love and get married. Not only can you enjoy the beauty of being very much in love, but more importantly, you can face all kinds of difficulties and hardships on the long road of life together. You can't divide yours, mine, yours, mine, all of them are ours. Whose family has something to do and whose family has something to do is our common business. You have me, you have me.
When the epidemic occurs, the funeral must be simple, and relatives and friends are not allowed to attend. If you don't go, there will be no one. Isn't that scene even more bleak, miserable and sad? This is undoubtedly adding salt to your husband's broken heart, which will make him suffer double pain and blow, and make him doubt love and life. How do you feel if you ask your husband to go because of the epidemic? It's your subjective reason that you don't do what your mother says. If you promise to go, it is another matter to refuse to enter Shanghai because of the epidemic.
I think you should ask your husband to say hello to the local community. In the case of personal protection, you should go at once, do your duty as a daughter-in-law and wife, and see your father-in-law off for the last journey. Of course, after you come back, you must be quarantined according to local policies. You are studying for a doctorate, and you have strong self-study ability. Isolation 14 days or 2 1 day only allows you to study quietly and has little effect on your study. When I get back to school, I think both teachers and classmates will understand.